I'm 20 years old. I've been depressed for years. It gets worse every now and then, making me feel suicidal. I don't have any friends or people to talk to, in real life or online. I feel hopeless and alone in the world. I'm shy and afraid of social situations. I feel like a failure because I can't get a job. I don't have any money to see a doctor or a therapist. I feel like I'm dead inside and I don't see a way out of this "life" I'm leading right now. At this point, I just want to end things. Has anyone felt like this, and is there anything I can do to get myself out of this?
2007-12-30 13:10:09 · 13 answers · asked by me 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
yes, I've felt something like this. it helped me to do service for others. I know it sounds hokey, but it doesn't cost any money, and I felt in control if how I helped. I worked at a soup kitchen kind of thing. you have to break your normal pattern.
If your depression is clinical, meaning it's been diagnosed, you might be able to get SSI (if you're in the US) you can use that money to pay for therapy. it sounds like you have some other issues, too, based on the shyness and social phobia you report. there's got to be a place in your area that offeres assistance on a sliding fee scale, which means you'll pay very little if anything for your service. Call 1-800-273-TALK for support and suggestions about where to go in your area. help is available.
2007-12-30 13:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Twin momma as of 11/11 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes years and time to learn these basic facts: First you need to learn to be a good friend in order to have a good friend. Life is what you make it and at your age "knowledge" is the key to success. School grants are out there for the taking. Go to any City collage and ask. You can have your room and board and your schooling paid for and you can be anything you want to in this life. America is a wonderful place to live.
I lost a family member (a 20 yr old young man) do to a senseless suicide (over a girl). It hurt so many people and 5 yrs later his little sister and his mom are still grieving deeply and wondering what they could have done to prevent this terrible loss.
2007-12-30 13:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Wodi2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definetly not alone with this. The best way to deal with this is to get a really nutritious diet, and see a depression therapist. Getting another perspective on this will save your life, because when you are feeling like this you can't see a way out. Talking to an intelligent therapist is your way out. It wakes you up. Never be alone even if you have to go window shopping for hours or walk in busy crowds.
2007-12-30 13:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by designmyhealth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this can be a big thing. and yes it is good that you took the time to ask for help. sometimes that in its self is so hard. yes I too have felt depressed, and alot more latley in my life then ever. but there is depression that really needs proffecinal help. and there is depression that you yourself can deal with and help yourself out of. if you think this is serious than maybe you should ask around for medical finacial help for this. sometimes we pull away from people because they make us feel worse. people can be that way. however there are people out there that are up lifting you just have to find them, and then if you put yourself in the middle of them, you might see some help from them without really asking for it. also keeping yourself locked up sometimes is all you know especially to keep yourself safe from rejection. however you really do need to try to do something you wouldn't do. being shy is so hard. I have been shy my whole life, but learning to do something, and being good at something is the only way we gain self confidence. when you start to have self confidence you will start to feel better about life. right now I bet you are thinking I can't step out of my box, it sounds nice, but I can't do that. get that thought process out of your head. that is where this vicious cycle stems from. maybe right now you might not have any interests, or there may be something you like to do. such as dance, draw or art, maybe you always wanted to sing or something. anyway you need to find the money to go find a class of some sort. I know it can be hard if you don't have a job, so if that is a problem, maybe getting a job might be the step you really need to get out of this. meeting new people and new things is the ticket. however make sure they are the right kind of people. a job can be scary, but it can also be very rewarding, especially if you know you are a good worker. even if you have to, try Mc donalds or something. yeah I know what that sounds like, but your not searching for a major carrer, your searching for something different than you know now. I promise you if you take a step away from your normal rutine you will be shocked at what else can be out ther and how much it may help. I have gone through all this, and I am telling you, being involved with things and finding things that you are passionet about and love is the only thing you can really do. you have to do something to really please you!! you can't do it for others. You have to do it for you. also make sure you are eating good, and exercising. these too play a part in how we feel mentally. at first the motivation for it is not there, ,but it comes after you put it into action. also eating better and exercising alone can bring so much self confidence. if you really don't have a support system, there are people you can call, but also you may have to just really find the strength down deep inside of yourself to make a change. staying where you are will only result in worse consiqueces. sorry I really can't spell half the time, but hopefully you can make out what I am saying. I too would love to have an online freind. If you feel you just want to write back and forth to someone, just to feel meaning in the day, I would love to have you write me and we can chat. so feel free to email me, and we can do just that. good luck. you really are a special person. every one on earth is here for a reason, you just have to find what your purpose is. until you do, you won't see anything else.
2007-12-30 13:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by shirls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry you're feeling so bad. you are not a failure. your depression probably makes it hard for you to focus at work and to keep a job, that is not your fault. i would advise that you see your family doctor first of all for a physical to rule out any physical cause for your depression. he can point you in the right direction:) i sure hope you get on the right medication, if that is what you need, and get on the road to feeling better. good luck and god bless.
2007-12-30 13:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by sillygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm Down, it's not that bad. Being shy is a big problem but just branch out. Join a chat or start a myspace page. Get out and meet people. If you're suicidal you need a doctor. Go to the clinic and ask them to refer you to someone cheap. There's plenty of help out there.
2007-12-30 13:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Kristina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
been there many times.one time after a cancer scare i asked myself what would i like to leave behind-for me it was a quilt for my husband-i call it my recovery quilt-it took me 3 years to finish .it gave me an interest in that. i felt responsible for my pets feeling no one could care for them but me.that helped.did get antidepressants for some years and that helped.getting back to religion has been a great help-with the message it's not about you-it's bigger than you-to give .help others.it so easy to think how awful.felt that way as a kid but as one matures one realizes giving gets you so many rewards.depression can be about anger-in so many areas.some merely i didn't get what i wanted to hormones or gentics.i pray honestly encourage you to see a dr.if you can't afford it try a health clinic.i get frustrated that my husband thinks nothing will help-to the point he was disabled for it and still thinks nothing will help.be grateful for what you have,pray,help others.hope i have helped.
2007-12-30 13:25:34 · answer #7 · answered by jeepactivities 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, we could form a depressed club and I would be a great candidate and the first to join.
I am a little older than you. but have been down your road many times. It may not help just to say this, but things will get better.
you just have to hang on a little longer to find this out and please trust me.....things will get better.
maybe not before they get worse, just hang on and ride it out.
I didn't get married till I was 26, now I have 2 great children and 3 grandkids, from my son.
things have been depressing for me a lot, but I do have some good days,
and a lot to look forward.........
and
so do you!
2007-12-30 13:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by retta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hon, Please hang in there. I've been reading all the nice answers to your question and there are ALOT of people wanting to talk to you. You are not alone, and you are not a failure. I know lots of people that can't get a job and are alone. Please call the 800 suicide number and talk to someone. Life is good....stay healthy! Love, J
2007-12-30 13:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by jani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww I feel really sorry for you.You shouldn't be thinking like that.Think POSITIVE!!!Maybe try going to hospital because quite afew services are free.Just for asking help is the first step.But people will help you.Lots of services out there will help you there are lots of different avenues.
So just try your best.Be happy in other words and I'm sure that some day you will be successful.
Hope it works out for you.
2007-12-30 13:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋