So I'm getting married in like 40 days and going nuts about losing weight and clear skin and everything. So my fiance is in his room while I'm working out in the other room and his phone starts to ring. It ends up being a former girlfriend who was his best friend before and after they dated (which to him excuses the fact that he talks to her and their still really good friends).
Anyways... I'm already pissy and emotion because I cant stand the way I look right now and I'm freaking out about wanting to be skinny. SO... This girl that calls him... is ditzy beyond belief, and just soooo out there!!! She has never cared that I exist when I see her and it REALLY pisses me off!!!! When I asked him who it was that was calling he said Anna. His sister in laws name is also Anna so then I said Anna who and he told me..... it was his ex.... HE LOOKED SO HAPPY. And he sounds soo happy when he talks to her. I'm prob just being irrational and dumb but I cannot take this.. its soo annoying!! Advice?
2007-12-30 12:44:42 · 7 answers · asked by Blessed to be a Mama! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget about it before you do something you'll regret.
2007-12-30 12:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can he have a sister-in-law? Has he been married before? You have been getting red flags. Are you just going to ignore them or let him talk you out of them?
In fairness to both of you, I think you need to say that you are not ready to marry yet. Chances are that he will go running to Anna and you will know that you made the right decision.
I don't think you should get married if so many red flags are waving in your face about it! If it's this bad now, how will it be after marriage?
2007-12-30 20:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that the ex knows she is making you mad, so she calls to make you seem irrational if you say anything about it to your fiance. What makes you so upset about this? Is it because he has a friend that is a women? Is it because of their past? Keep in mind that they broke up for a reason. You know he loves you and has chosen to be with you. I would take a deep breathe, and figure out exactly what about the situation upsets you. Then you can focus on a solution.
2007-12-30 20:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by dabblin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First - BREATH - I would say that "they" are not together for a reason. And frankly, she probably enjoys "pissing" you off, don't let her-- after all, "you" have him!!! Although, I understand that you are getting married and that in and of itself is very stressful, but the real special and important part should be that the two of you are in love enough to spend the rest of your lives together. Don't make it awful for him and yourself between now and then. That old saying is true- you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. Another words - You be the one who puts the smile on his face - CHANGE your outlook and attitude while you still can.
2007-12-30 21:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that u feel cautious about him and her but it might be nothing but u should never ignore a feeling like this it isnt right for him to be talking to other women while he is getting married tell him u would like it if he would stop talking to her.....
2007-12-30 20:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by ghost_92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain to him you need his support and help and him talking to his ex is not helping. but dont get overly excited with him stay calm and be honest. and congrats hun dont worry it will all come together
2007-12-30 20:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by sweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is looking for something on the side.
BEWARE! He cannot be trusted.
2007-12-30 20:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋