Conversation - Birth Control...?

Question

My girlfriend and I want to have sex, we talked about birth control (which kind we'd use and all). I would feel better if we used both the pill and a condom, which the condom would be easy for me to get (obviously). Yet she thought the pill was "over the counter" I guess. So when she found out it wasn't, and that you must see a doctor for it - she told me "I have to go to a doctor to get it, and I'm not going - because I don't want him to tell my dad."...I responded "Well, it is illegal for him to tell anyone that you say not to tell." and she said "I just don't want to take the risk, ya know?"....So any advice? Like I said - I'd feel more comfy if she took the pill along with me using a condom ...So I'm ust wondering what you think about the situation. (and we are old enough to have sex legally by the way).

I'd get them myself, yet I'm not a girl .....

Answer 1

First off, I'd like to commend you both for talking about this ahead of time; I don't know many people who do. Let her know that if she chooses to visit the clinic for birth control, her physician is bound by patient-doctor confidentiality and CANNOT discuss anything with her parents unless she gives him/her authorization. Do you think she is just uncomfortable with taking the pill? If so, she can visit the clinic to discuss other options. Good luck, hun :o)

Answer 2

first of all NO dr can tell anyone anything about any patient not even parents. if you are over the age of i think its 15 then you have rights to privacy. they cant even tell parents if you had an abortion if you are over 15. she can easliy go to the neighborhood planned parents or someplace similar and get it for free or nearly free. if she is using her dads insurance then tell her not to use it for this because it may show up on the bill. but other than that just go in fill the forms out and pay cash if nessacary. you dont have to use your insurance just cause you have it. also there are alternatives to the pill you can and i reccommend you use a condom as well but also try something called VCF (vaginal contraceptive film) its fairly cheap and sold with the condoms. they are also pretty fool proof and not messy at all. the success rate with them is pretty great especially when used along with a condom. easy her mind a lil call the local PPH(Planned parenthood) and ask them so she can hear about the laws regarding situations like this. they will encourage you to come in and get on the pill rather than risk a pregnancy because you were scared of daddy i think dad would be way more pissed to find his daughter knocked up then taking steps to avoid it, ya know what i mean..?

Answer 3

well the pill is a hormone and you have no right to make her use it! it can give her really bad side effects, as well as put her at risk for blood clots and stuff, so if she's not ready to start using it (which she's obviously not) then don't force her to. She doen't sound mature enough to even make the decision being scared her dad will know, how old is she?? if you're going to have sex use condoms for now, and when she's ready to get on the pill or anything else then she will know! it's not a decision you should make lightly, it's not like taking a tylenol, it is a serious medication with serious possible side effects, ya know?

Answer 4

If You Guys Are Old Enough to Have Sex Then Why Dont U Take Her To A Clinic Or Even To Her Docter And Tell Her Docter Not To Tell Her Dad..
Maybe Shell Feel Better If You Go With Her..idk..

Answer 5

Let her know that a doctor is legally unable to talk to her parents about any of her health issues, this includes birth control or any sexual decisions.
If she is super worried about her parents finding out she should find a local Planned Parenthood. Before your appointment you can indicate that you want no mail sent to the house or a code word when calling about the results of a test or a cell phone number would work as well.
Plus there are many programs out there that give out free/low cost birthcontrol and it is private and you will be safe.

Answer 6

My opinion is: If she isn't comfortable enough to discuss being sexually active with a family member, then she isn't mature enough to engage in sex. Intercourse is a VERY emotional experience. Some will tell you that using a condom will be enough, or that you could just pull out. To me, the important part of this question is whether or not you both are mature enough to handle the emotions that will surface after sex. I started using the pill to help with the flow of my period, with the extra benefit of birth control. But, I was sure that I was ready for the experience when it happened.

Answer 7

she doesnt want to tell her dad because he will freak out!!! the only "over the counter" pill you can get is called the 72hr pill. you have to have an adult go with you to get that pill as well. it doesnt matter if your using the pill, condom, or both. they are not always effective. it sounds like to me she isnt because she doesnt want her dad to know....yall are not ready to have sex at all...you wouldnt even know how to handle it. mentally, emotionally, and maybe physically. sex is a big step and you must be really capable and ready to have sex.

Answer 8

the doctor cant say anything
she has nothing to worry about
he could get like sued for telling
thats patient confidentiality
I think she should probably reconsider the pill
its just a lot safer.
if you dont feel comfortable without her on the pill, let her know that

Answer 9

Well, it's never really good that she's not comfortable talking to her parents about sex... Couldn't she ask her mom?

Also, before girls start having sex it's always better that they start regularly visiting the gynecologist to make sure she's sexually healthy and everything.

I would tell you that you should urge her to talk to her parents about it. It's healthier that way, and also safer.

Answer 10

Go to a place called Planned Parenthood they'll give her b/c for free or have her use some kind of foam or spermicide stuff plus your rubbers.