Is my girlfriend of 1 year really losing her feelings towards me?

Question

we've been dating for 1 year and everything has been great. We have never been in a real argument and we trust each other to the fullest. She is a very sensitive person and she lets stress get to her from time to time and it causes her to have doubts about us, but we always work it out. Recently she went on vacation with her parents for 2 weeks and everything was great besides the fact that we missed each other so much. When she got back, before we even saw each other, she randomly sent me a text saying that its not going to work between us. I don't understand exactly why because she won't let me talk to her. She said she will be ready to talk in a little while but this is a total shocker to me. She has been hanging out with her friends alot lately at work and stuff, i wonder if they have made her change her mind somehow? any suggestions on if she will come back to me? she is 20 and im 23

we've already talked about marriage many times and our future. she has constantly told me that i am the one that she wants to spend the rest of her life with. just a couple of weeks ago, if i proposed to her she probably would have said yes, thats what makes this so confusing

Answer 1

Thats the joys of dating and woman mate. It could be any reason she wants to end, don't be too quick to blaming her friends for changing her mind. If she wanted to be with you she would. Best bet wait until she's ready to talk and hear her out. Heart break sucks dude but we all have to go through it and most of the time you find yourself better off than before.

Answer 2

first off the fact that you havent argued much is a real concern. any happy couple can tell you they argue alot. when you dont let a person knwo somethng bothers you then it sits and its possible that she has been doing this and now she has a lot of built up frustration or resentment for you. also it is very possible her firends got her to change her mind but its more than likely that she just met someone else. she doesnt wanna talk about it with you because she is afriad of an argument im sure which you guys dont do well. she probably also doesnt wanna hurt you. i would try to move on and take it as a lesson learned. argument is a good thing, shows difference of opinon and individuality, and also lets some compromise into the relationship some give and take so that you arent holding all this aggression in and both people are routinely doing to make the other happy.

Answer 3

You've mentioned that you've never had a serious argument so it makes me wonder, what major obstacles have you both faced and come out triumphant?
Seperation is always difficult, but if she said that she can see you with her together as a married couple then there is no doubt she did picture it in her mind. But it seems to me she may feel things are now to bland for her to handle. It's very impolite for her to just text you with a final answer as to avoid a confrontation. Means she is afraid of perhaps facing that she may in the wrong. Think about the things that you feel will define you as a couple and weigh them out with the things that you feel may be the problem. It's very probable that the people she talks to or works with may have only confirmed her doubts, but it's unfair for her to not inform you of these doubts. Obviously talking over the phone is not going to work because it's not a direct approach. So my recommendation is to show up at her doorstep or go to her work during lunch time and invite her to lunch to talk it over, even after work.. all in all you have to confront the situation and she needs to give you that closure you seek or else you will be miserable and would not be able to trust the next person who will come into your life.


Good Luck!

Answer 4

Obviously the only one that can accurately answer your question is her....kind of difficult if she refuses to talk to you. Even if she does, Do you really want someone that would be so inconsiderate as to break up with you through a text message? And cowardly too I might add. What ever the reason if she does not want to be together then you really have no choice but to sit on your pride and work on moving on...easier said then done granted but it must be done at some point. You deserver to be happy and you can't be hanging on to something that is not working out. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

You've said yourself that she had already expressed doubts about you two in the past; and now she's made up her mind. You wonder if other people have put this idea into her head, but I'm wondering if that is maybe underestimating her ability to think for herself...
It hurts and it sux... but, she has said that she will be ready to talk in a little bit, so .. give her a couple of weeks. Total space. No phone calls, no sms's, no emails, no nothing... wait till she's ready. Putting any sort of pressure on her will only make things worse.

Answer 6

Sounds like she's being a bit immature by sending a text, but maybe she didnt' miss you as much as you missed her. This sounds horrible but it's probably been coming for awhile, and while she was away it gave her the distance to think it through. I'm sorry you're having a rough go, but things will get better. Good Luck!

Answer 7

She must be seeing someone else if she is acting like that towards you i don't see it no other way once a person starts acting like that.If it was me i'd just give her space and do me and if she really loves you she's come around,If not oh well.Look a new year is right around the corner leave all bull**** in 2007.Remember it gets great in 08.

Answer 8

WOW .. im sorry about that.. well if she just texted you like that after a 2 week vacation, maybe it wasn't meant to be.. you are very young and a year in a lifetime isn't long. so just wait and if she comes back then you will know.. i wish you luck and hope for the best..

Answer 9

hey i think that she might have another person she wants to hook up with or her parents told her something that made her think that she should split apart from u. and if i were u i would just move on and try to find some1 else. and most likely there is another girl out there looking 4 u. c ya bro. hope this might help u with ur problem.

Answer 10

Hmm..that is young....maybe she wants to branch out and explore other things for herself? Do a little soul searching? Anyway, I am sorry to hear that...it must hurt you lots. But relationships are hard work...after the magic dies out a couple really needs to WANT to make things work...