I would really like for my husband and I to renew our wedding vows. Not because we've ever broken any vows. We've never been separated, we have a beautiful family and are completely in love. Mostly, I just want to "re-do" our wedding. We were young and broke, so we didn't exactly have the wedding of our dreams. We don't even have any photos of us together from the big day. I would love to get a great dress, have a real photographer and share the ceremony with a small group of close friends and family.
Are there any "rules" when it comes to this sort of thing? Is it acceptable to renew your vows just because you feel like it?
2007-12-30 12:14:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
elpiri: that was sweet. It made me smile because I know my husband feels the same way.
2007-12-30 12:21:30 · update #1
Renewing your wedding vows is a reaffirmation of your love for each other. As a wedding officiant, I have done several vow renewal celebrations that were indeed lovely. I especially like it when the children/grandchildren are present and can see what a truely meaningful relationship is. Select readings and songs that are significant to the both of you. Generally, a vow renewal celebration is less formal, and of course you won't be "given away". Perhaps you and your husband could walk down the aisle together. May you both continue your journey together with love and joy.
2007-12-30 12:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Catey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feeling like renewing your vows is an excellent reason for doing so. We did it at the 25 year point. It was kind of like saying that, despite the ups and downs we experienced during our first 25 years, we would both do it all over again.
If you have the financial means to have the celebration you missed out on in the beginning, then by all means, have one now. We did something similar. We had a modest wedding and no honeymoon. So, a few years ago, we took a cruise and went all out staying in a suite and all the trappings. It was our belated honeymoon.
If you two still want to declare your love for each other to all the world, I say go for it!
-Happy New Year!
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2007-12-30 12:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, do it if its right for you. My husband and I are planning our 10th anniversary right now and we toyed around with renewing our vows also. We also had no "reason" to do it other than to reaffirm our love and probably change the vows to be more of a funny thing, like things we want eachother to do (garbage, laundry etc), but we decided that it just wasnt really "our thing" and we are just doing the reception part of the day because we didnt have the wedding of our choosing back in the day, so now we can do what we want and not what other people want.
It is absolutely acceptable to renew, if its what you both want go for it!
2007-12-30 13:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is ok to do it just because. And no there are no rules. The trick is finding a pastor to go along with whatever you want to do and finding a church to do it in. Some churches charge a lot, some very little. Pastors typically get 100 bucks for a wedding or a funeral. Some pastors won't do weddings at your home or outdoors. Good luck and have fun
2007-12-30 12:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We renewed our vows. There are no rules except your rules!
Our Priest married us the second time ( we did not need a marriage license). I wore an off-white dress. It was a beautiful ceremony and reception,
GO FOR IT!
Have fun!
2007-12-30 12:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by terry p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most defiantly. My wife has been wanting to do the same thing. I told her that if we could make to our tenth year I would. I figured that if she could put up with me that long shes not going any where. Do it. I think it is a great idea and no there is no rules. Its your day your time have a blast and congratulations on your renewing your love for one another.
2007-12-30 12:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO IT! it's just a way of reaffirming your vows usually at a milestone anniversary. however, it's your marriage, so do whatever you want. there are no rules. get a great dress, have cake, champagne, write vows that apply to your life now. have music that is nostalgic from when you were dating, have the kids be maid of honor and best man, let the dog be the ring bearer!........have fun and invove those closest to you.
2007-12-30 12:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by kittymom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do whatever the heck you'd like! I think it sounds like a wonderful idea and would be a really great experience for you two. Just talk to your officiant/clergy person/etc..to see about having the ceremony and what you need to do.
2007-12-30 12:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by bettathang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse it's acceptable, If it means something to you, then it's the right thing to do. I just hope your husband agrees, us men don't care too much for these things, but we sure do like to see you guys smile so don't sell the wedding, sell your smile :) good luck
2007-12-30 12:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by elpiri177 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds great to me, my wife and I had the same issue when we got married. Next year will be 10 years and we were planning the same thing and have our three kids in it :-)
2007-12-30 14:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋