WHAT the HELL is WRONG with ME?

Question

SORRY THIS IS SO LONGWELL im a blond 16 year old teenage girl and have braces and were the hotest cloths and am 5' 5'' and 110 pounds but whats wrong with me u say?? i have never had a boyfriend no never!!!im not saying im hot because i were the hotest cloths i just mean is there sometheing wrong with me and im not hot so what. Can i ask a ? what the HELLis wrong with me?huh huh? CAN U GIVE ME any ADVISE?i want a boyfriend but i have a problem ah i just don't understand no guys like me . no guys like me . and i have no friends but I've flirted with guys who have liked me but in the long run we never went out and i am really shy. its not that well my body shape is well I'm 5 ' 5" and weigh 110 pounds and have brasses but i just don't understand. so any how, i had stopped worrying about getting a boyfriend until recently when I've noticed a lot of people at school walking round holding hands, hugging, etc...and i suddenly wanted a boyfriend really bad. I've never had one before! i want to know what it's like to go out on dates, you know, stuff like that.my friends say I'm a "good-girl" or i appear to be one even though I'm not some goody-two-shoes. do boys not like "good girl" girlfriends? what's up with me? what could i do?BTW, I'm up for changing who i am to get a boyfriend.because if u dont like me ill channge to the way u want me to be
am i happy or depressed?
i am a 16 year old girl . a Junior in high school. and i have never had a boyfriend
also i can be awkward ,weird ,ugly , shy ,ext. so i would not know how to act when i finally get a boyfriend if that ever happens. and i believe that everyone hates me..
help me please
anyone
and if u know me
ah just don't talk to me in person about it or make fun about me please
just help me
i am super depressed people please help
i just need advise but i don't show people this i hide all this inside me i never let it show that I'm depressed or not liked or what eve i just want advise on this and i don't want a boyfriend just to have one i want one so it can help me feel better about my self and show it on the outside and stop hiding all me feelings bottled up inside

just please give me some advise

Answer 1

Firstly, and most important - YOU DON"T NEED A BOYFRIEND TO VALIDATE YOUR WORTH AS A PERSON. That has to come from within you.
Right now you are going through what all of us have, the angst of the teenage years. You are still learning who you are, what you like, and how to relate to others. All perfectly normal.
Perhaps what is putting off the boys from asking you out is YOUR lack of self confidence. You now you are trim, wear the right clothes, but you project yourself with a lack of confidence. You know you are shy, but that shouldn't stop you trying to reach out a little.
Boys are the same, they have feelings too (they just like to hide it). And if he's not sure that you might say "ok" to going out, then he's not going to ask, in case YOU hurt his feelings.
Just try being more friendly, (NOT SLUTTY) and then the opportunities for friendships, and then dating, will open up to you.
If you are "super depressed" though, you need to talk firstly to a trusted adult, and then to a doctor, for help to get over that.

Answer 2

Are you listening to yourself? You need to relax and understand that you are only 16, and being attractive to guys your age isn't the most wonderful thing in the world. You should be glad no one wants to play mind games with you at your age, because it's ridiculous, and so not worth it. Thing is, you won't realize that until after you get hurt. Just because you wear hot clothes doesn't mean any person could consider you desirable. And as far as being depressed, that's crap. You need to learn to like yourself and accept who and what you are before anyone else can feel the same way. All of those feelings you're bottling up inside, tell some one close to you, and then just move on until the right person comes along. You shouldn't be convinced that no one will, because remember you're still in high school. I have been there and done that in your situation. Just love yourself. You don't need us to tell you what's wrong with you. A long paragraph won't do you much good.

Answer 3

You're talking a bit much, and I'm sad to say can't construct decent sentences to save your life. I thought the exact same way before I had a boyfriend. And trust me the "what the hell is wrong with me" doesn't go away. In some cases it gets worse. So I really wouldn't worry about it all that much. When it happens it happens. Most of the time it will be a very big shock.

P.s YOU DO NOT CHANGE FOR ANYONE. NO ONE AT ALL. IF YOU FEEL LIKE CHANGING AND YOU WANT TO, YOU DO IT. What person or even a guy wants to be with someone that'll change at the drop of a hat? -_-; You need to be comfy with who you are. Maybe that's some of your problem. You don't need someone to make you happy, if you do it would just be superficial and unpleasing. YOU NEED TO SEE YOURSELF IN A BETTER LIGHT, before someone else can. -trust on this-

Answer 4

Ok first of all its not just about clothes.. and looks.. Its about whats inside like personality and you need close guy friends theres nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend maybe just that some guys can be takin.. Girl the time will come don't rush yourself i struggle with depression but don't let that tear you down.. If a guy that likes you and you start to date make sure your not acting be yourself many girls guys had made this mistake by not being themselves if you practice in the mirror and tell yourself that your ugly what is that gonna make you feel. Not physical just mentaly don't sweat on today when you can worry about tomarrow..

Answer 5

Stop worrying about your "hot clothes" and what you look like, and the fact that you don't have a boyfriend. Relax, be yourself do activities you like to do and make some friends. It's normal to want to feel desired and loved by the opposite sex, and it may seem like everyone else but you is paired up and enjoying it. But desperation will lead you into trouble and then you will feel worse than you do now. Just have fun and smile allot in what ever you do, you'll find most people like to be around happy people, not whiners or drama queens.

Answer 6

First, RELAX!! Let it happen naturally. Stop trying so hard and concentrating on getting a boyfriend, and just worry about meeting nice people (guys) who you have something in common with and enjoy their company, and let it go from there. And, maybe, take some of that inner confidence and strength and instead of using it to find problems, use it to make answers for yourself. Maybe, next time, you make a move and ask HIM for a date. There aren;t many guys who wouldn;t be on cloud nine to have a beautiful, articulate, confident blonde show interest......

Answer 7

Girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the
tree. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are
afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten
apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy.So the apples at the
top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave
enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.

Answer 8

Yeah, one day ur man would come along, and he will like u for who u are, not what is only outside of you.
If you have a good friend to talk to, that you trust, u can try talkin these feelings with them. Somtimes, you gotta be patient with love.

Answer 9

Interesting. I've also noticed that my violation appeals tend to work if I suck up to the christian perspective ie. saying the question was valid because it got several serious answers, many from Christians who gave good biblical perspectives to the question. (needless to say, this only works if there really were such answers).

Answer 10

my advice? dont be so desperate, abnd u should NEVER change the way u r for a guy to like u. stop looking so hard for a guy, and sum1 will surprise u when u least expect it. hope things work out! <3