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2007-12-30 11:49:46 · 19 answers · asked by Adoptionissadnsick 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting Adoption

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No one has a "right" to be a parent. Parenting is a privilege. If, God Forbid, I were to somehow lose my beautiful children tomorrow, I would never demand that someone else give me theirs because of my RIGHT to parent. That would be ridiculous.

And you know what, I'm going to take it a step further, desperation is not a get out of jail free card to forget ethics and morals. Just because a person wants to be a parent doesn't mean they entitled to someone else's child at any cost. It just doesn't.

And wanting to parent is very different from NEEDING to parent. I think everyone should to get that in their head before they have children of their own adopted or not.

Some of us get to parent. Some of us don't. Some of us are good at it. Some of us are not. Those things do not go hand in hand nor are they mutually exclusive.

2007-12-30 12:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Isabel A 4 · 12 3

I have the right to vote, the right to an education, the right to medical care, the right to have an abortion. All fought for, long and hard, before I was able to comprehend how these rights would affect my life.

Becoming a parent isn't about having the right to do so, that would be the most blatant example of entitlement I could ever think of.

2007-12-30 17:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5 0

Interesting question! I'm somewhere on the fence with this. Reproduction is actually considered a basic life function as defined by the American's with Disability Act. That is why there is such a push for infertility to be covered by insurance. So in that sense, does society consider reproduction to be a "right"? I'm not sure.

Is parenting a "right"? Hmmm. When I read your question, I immediately thought of my Constitutional "Rights". Nothing in there about parenting. So I would basically say "no".

I think that parenting should be a privilege. The problem with that thought is that reproduction is not a privilege and as much as we don't want to admit it, there are people who reproduce that really shouldn't. Just look at the children in abusive homes.

I think that society as a whole unfairly dictates two concepts: 1) if you give birth, and choose not to parent, you are somehow this horrible monster, and 2) if you cannot give birth to a child, then you are less of a woman. I think society almost makes women feel like they MUST be parents, although I'm not sure why that is. I think the only "right" we have in this case is to do what we want to do - whether it be to parent or not. We have a right to make that decision for ourselves - no one else should coerce, chastise, or make that decision for us.

2007-12-30 12:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by BPD Wife 6 · 2 6

Everyone has a right to be a parent if thats what they want out of life!!!!!!

Why the hell should anyone take that away from them. Its not fair to judge people like that everone has the right to do what the hell they want.

2007-12-31 09:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by sarahhhhhhh 2 · 1 3

All Americans are born with the right to be a parent. However, like any right (such as personal freedom or the right to vote), you can lose that right if society deems it appropriate.

In the case of the right to parent, things have to be pretty extreme. There have been cases when judges have ordered women and men be sterilized because their history as a parent has been so bad (multiple deaths of children, refusal to stop having kids even when they are routinely removed for abuse/neglect reasons). However, I don't think any such order has stood an appeal (however, sterilization was common before the 1960s).

Edit - Reading other responses, I see that several people do not believe that the "right" to be a parent is really a constitutional right. It is. It is part of the implied right to privacy that is also used to support the right to aborting. In short, the argument is that the government does not have the right to tell us what to do with our bodies, be it pregnancy or abortion.

As further support, there have been many cases of the US Government granting asylum to people from China because the "one child" restriction (in China) is deemed contrary to human rights.

2007-12-31 06:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0 3

I think BPD hit the nail on the head perfectly! Sorry for all the thumbs down, but your answer completely made sense. Why do so many people feel that just because a conception happened, and abortion isn't chosen, parenting MUST take place biologically?

2007-12-31 04:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by LaraSue 6 · 1 3

No. Nobody. Never. Children are a privilege, not a right.

2007-12-31 00:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4 1

No one has an unconditional right to be a parent. Parental rights can be terminated by the court if a child's parents are a danger to the child.

I'm infertile. I have the right to have all the sex I want to try to have a child, but I do not have a right or entitlement to be given a child since I can't have my own.

2007-12-30 13:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by LaurieDB 6 · 9 2

No one has the RIGHT to be a parent. It's simply not a right. It is a privilege, perhaps. A responsibility, certainly. But a right? How could that be a right? If so, then society would have an obligation to make sure everyone who wanted to be a parent could be a parent. In the U.S., even basic health care isn't something we guarantee everyone. How could being a parent be something we guarantee?

(Another analogy... We don't have the right to have sex. If no one wants to have sex with us, we don't have sex. Likewise, if we cannot reproduce on our own, we don't have the right to a child.)

2007-12-30 12:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by blank stare 6 · 13 3

I believe that a person in a loving household: gay, straight, married, unmarried.. whatever... should be able to be a parent. It must be said that this person should be able to provide for a child financially and emotionally.

Being a parent is a privelige, but not always a right.

2007-12-30 11:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by Van is due 5/8/08! 5 · 6 1

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