girl problems, please help...?

Question

I am 14 years old, and i am just completely lost. Theres this girl named Kelly that I like. We used to be the best of friends and then i slowly fell for her. It seemed like she liked me too, but i really dont know. I told her I liked her and asked her to the 8th grade formal last year, and she said no because someone else had asked her. I was completely crushed, but i eventually got over that. That was about a year ago, and I still really really like her. No one can understand how I feel about her. I think about her all the time, and I really just cant stop. I havn't talked to her in a long time because we just slowly fell apart :/ I realllllly like this girl, it's just I really dont know what to do. I miss talking to her, and I miss actually being something to her. How could i get her back into my life?, i can't go on much longer with her gone...please help

Answer 1

Wow, it hurts to hear this. I'm 21 and have never had a girlfriend. Go for it man. Don't be like me.

Answer 2

It's totally great you like this girl so much, it's even better that you want to do something about it.

Though no one can blame either of you for the formal incident, it's not like you knew she'd been asked, and she didn't know you would ask her afterwards.
You say you two aren't close anymore, I'd suggest picking up where you left off. A similar thing happened to me: I feel out with a guy friend, because of some issues we'd had the past year, and he approached me this year asking to start over. I was thrilled, and though we aren't back to where we used to be, we're not avoiding each other.
I suggest asking her just that, to begin again. Once you're more friendly, bring her out a few times, to a friendly movie, a day at your place, hang out in town together (if you're in the suburbs), just chill -- one on one. After that, then I'd pop the question, let her know how you're feeling and hopefully, she'll feel the same, or at least wanna give you a chance.

I'm pretty sure she'll say yes, you sound like a really nice guy!

Good luck,
Georgina.

Answer 3

If you really like this girl the best thing for you to do is get her alone and talk to her. Say how much you've missed talking to her. Just because she went to a dance with some other dude doesnt mean she didnt like you. If she does like you she was probably hoping you would ask her b4 anyone else. Confront her and ask her whats goin on between u 2 she might feel the same way you never know. If she doesnt feel the same way you'll haveto just forget about it and remain being friends. Theres plenty more fish in the sea.
Good luck. :)

Answer 4

its ok...i understand how u cant seem 2 get ovr her and how much u really like her...if u dont have her #, then get in touch w/ 1 of her friends and ask 4 her # and they might actually give it 2 u if u let them no how much u really care 4 her.after u get her #, wait about 2/3 days and then call her.when she gets ur call,shell def. b surprised and shocked and things and she might not wanna talk so YOU start the conversation by asking her how shes been and things like that but just dont ask anythin 2 personal just enough 4 her 2 think about u and not get too creeped out.then invite a few friends of urs and ask her if she wanna go somewhere and if she does, tell her its like a group get 2gether and 2 invite a few of her friends.if she comes,itll b sorta like a date and then tell her how much u liked it and how much fun u had...then after the thing is ovr,tell her that u wanna get 2gether w/ just u 2 and that way shell have bcom more familiar w/ u and she wont b 2 creeped out...thats really all the advice i can give u 4 now...hope u take my advice and it works well...it has every other time and good luck w/ her!!! :T

Answer 5

Alright, calm down.
I'm a 14 year old girl (on a family yahoo account if you're wondering..)
and if I was Kelly and read this, I'd be a bit freaked out.
Just look around and take in all the other 'fish in the sea'.
See if there's anybody else you like.

Or, if you're that desperate, invite her and like.. 3-4 other people to a movie or roller blading
and then start talking to her more.. and eventually maybe you can ask her out or something.

Hope this helps! :)

Answer 6

Fourteen years old... I like the use of "slowly fell for her", but seriously, don't worry about it. If things are meant to be at the "more than friends" level, then I'm sure that it will work itself out. I guess if you just want to be friends, then just start small by talking to her and stuff. Then later you can invite her to the movies or something. Just remember, if you decide to change friendship into romantic relationship, things can get seriously screwed up.

Answer 7

well, what did you do before which kept you together? you need to think about what she really likes, like if she likes going to the movies and you both used to go to the movies all the time, just ask her if she wants to go to the movies. if she says shes busy, try to make an arrangement when you are both free. make sure its a movie that she really wants to see and that she hasn't seen before. then make arrangements every Wednesday night or every ....... night so you can start seeing each other again. So what you need to do is eventually make friends with her again. its just like making a new friend but its a step forward coz you should know what she really likes already. but just take it easy. take 1 step at a time. build upmthe relationship slowly. it might be hard to do, but its worth it.

good luck

Answer 8

Call her up or text her randomly one day. I bet she would like that. The same thing happened to me, and i called the guy I used to be best friends with and we started talking. Soon it became a regular thing, and at school we actually said hi, other than just walking right by each other like usual. We hung out after about a month of talking, and now (6 months later) we're best friends. Words going around that he likes me too, and I like him. Hopefully overall something like this will happen to you too. Even if you never do go out with her, or even become friends again, its worth a try calling her because you never know....!
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Answer 9

i am in the same situation at the moment. what i have been doing is slowly calling more often and just trying to hang out and doing the things you used to do. this will hopefully remind her of the old days and slowly she will come back into your life. hope this helps =]

Answer 10

well im sorry =(. I think you should either ask her out again or just try to be nice she probably feels acwark around you and thats why it fell apart it can take awhile to mend something like that but just keep on tryen good luck!

Answer 11

if her birthday is coming up, that would be a fantastic opportunity to get in touch with her again, or if yours is coming up, throw a party and invite her, or you can always, just go for it, strike up a conversation including how you guys used to hang out so much, and make a day to hang out with eachother, you never know until you try, what's the worst that can happen really