I have not spoken to my father in over 18 years, ever since my mom left hime for beating her. I was told by a relative that my father died on December 21, as a result of a drug overdose. I'm sorry to say the news didn't sadden me (it's hard to feel sad when I haven't talked to the man in so many years). Now, his brothers and sisters are bugging my brother, sister and ME to make funral arrangements! HUH? Why should WE make the arrangements? He is THEIR brother-let them make the arrangements! Am I wrong in my thinking? What do you all think?
2007-12-30 11:42:49 · 10 answers · asked by Fallaya 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let them take care of it. You never had that responsibility. The day he layed hands on your mom and she left, all that sort of responsibility ended. If they do not want to make the arrangements and pay for it, the state will see to it that it gets taken care of. No guilt, it was his decision to stay away, not get help, and turn to/keep using drugs. The three of you should stand together and just say "NO"
2007-12-30 11:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by TC 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
you are not wrong at all! you should not do it, your father has been out of your life for a long time, for a decade ,he did not try to have connection communication with you. and hurt ed your mother also it would be good to help with funeral if he was in your life and acted more as a father but not the other way around he might also have been too drunk when he said on the phone about your unworthiness. that family seems selfish who want to avoid all the funeral costs,and they should do that not you!
2016-05-28 03:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong at all. Honestly, if you want to do it then by all means do it. But you have a right not to as well. Don't let them bully you into doing something you have no interest in doing!
2007-12-30 13:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you aren't responsible. Period. You can't be forced into this, as long as you're firm about it. No nonsense.
You don't need to feel guilty, either. He was an abuser, and your Mom did you a huge favor, taking you out of that situation.
2007-12-30 12:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are right.
They probably want you to pay for the funeral. That's the only reason I can think of for them to act this way.
Don't worry. He will get buried even if the family can't afford it. There are services for those who die indigent.
I don't see that you owe him anything.
2007-12-30 11:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do it.
It may bother you now, but in years to come you will be glad you did it.
All things are given to us for a reason, even if its a bad thing, we are given that particular thing so it makes us a better person.
2007-12-30 11:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by Barney Blake 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope, you're not wrong at all. It's not your responsibility. If they had a relationship with him, let it be their problem.
2007-12-30 16:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by eclecticwahm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even touch it, they just don't want to pay for the funeral. If he means nothing to you, just stay away.
2007-12-30 11:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is soooo not fair!!!
Just dont do it.
thry probably just want you to pay for it.
2007-12-30 11:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by little.miss.woods*comma*elle❀ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are looking for someone to pay for it.Tell them you want nothing to do with it.
2007-12-30 11:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋