Im 14 and havn't had a girlfriend. In Ireland (i dont know about other countries) they call it ''meeting''. I havnt ''met'' anyone. But most ppl my age i know have ''met'', and id say several times. I get worried when ppl in conversations, and they might ask me...I like girls and i am too shy to ask and dont wanna ruin friendships either. Also, i am a bit "big". But that doesnt stop me hanging out, ect. But i am self consious. So wat do i do?
2007-12-30 11:18:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well one girl had me "second in her top 5" and sed i was cute. but that was a few weeks ago and i dont kno was she taking the piss...
2007-12-30 11:28:34 · update #1
I really appreciate all your advice!!
By the way, over here we call ppl who havent had a girlfriends, "fridgets".
I know, pretty stupid word, where it come from!?!?!
2007-12-30 11:31:42 · update #2
Yes, you are 14, but that doesn't mean you can't have a girlfriend. I would concentrate on the "Friend" part as opposed to the "GirlFriend" part. Understand that things happen in their own time and trying to rush life's events usually screws them up pretty good. Take your time (and I understand that can be hard at the age you are at) enjoy those around you, don't worry about what others think. It will happen when you least expect it to do so.
Good Luck to You!
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2007-12-30 11:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 and I haven't had any "meetings" or even close.
You'll find a lot of people here who are much older who haven't had any either.
Everyone's time is different. Start hanging out more with the girls. All of us are self-conscious to a point. Don't worry, you won't ruin any friendship. Of course you asking her will have an effect, but it isn't anything big if she rejects you.
2007-12-30 11:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry yourself over this. When you meet the right girl you will know. In the meantime keep hanging out with the girls you are friends with, it will give you a lot of insight on what they like and dislike. My son did this and besides being able to hang out with a lot of girls, he says it really helped when he found the right one. If you try and push it, and choose the wrong one, you will not be happy with the outcome.
2007-12-30 11:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by TC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sooner or later one will come and it will be great. you sound like you would not just fall for anyone just for the sake of being seen with someone so stay with your standards high. if there is a girl you like simply say `there is a film on if you fancy it. will meet you at (some cafe is best, indoors and not conspicuous) if the date does not go as a date then you do not lose face. if you end up together all to the good.
2007-12-30 11:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by kieran b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl will like you for you. Not for your size, or whatever you are nervous about. Gain a little confidence. I'm dating a bigger guy and if he was shy or self-conscious of his weight, I never would've gone out with him.
Just be yourself. Personality is the most important thing.
2007-12-30 11:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Georgia Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Don't start dating until you find someone who YOU like, not someone your friends say you should like. Just be yourself, and don't worry about what people think of you. I'm big myself, AND older then you. I haven't had a boyfriend yet, and I'm totally cool with it. Just wait until you find that special girl. Hang in there! Don't let your friends push you into something you aren't ready for!!
2007-12-30 11:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask someone out. What's the worst that can happen? You don't have a date (or meeting if that's what you want to call it). But you already don't have one, so you really can't be any worse off.
2007-12-30 11:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mariah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill honey!! I was 18 before I started "meeting people" and not through lack of trying...i remember at your age feeling like I was really not worthy or ugly etc; and then I started dating a mate at 18 - it all comes when you aint looking honey, and anyway at 14 shouldnt you be worrying about exams, and your mates - women (I am one so should know...) are more hassle than they are worth!!
Mwah. xx
2007-12-30 11:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not a lose supply up placed urself down. merely because of fact ur acquaintances hv a girlfriends dosent recommend tht u r a loser. if ur acquaintances jumped off a clif could u do a similar? sk urself dose it realy be counted wot my acquaintances do or dont do and dose this is counted tht i hvnt had a female pal yet? take ur time if women like u 4 who u are thn thy will come 2 u. if u pass chasn thm thy will run. merely b urself and 4get wot ur acquaintances thnk or say and stable luck.
2016-12-11 17:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about "meeting" people. i think that you are eright about not wanting to ruin friendships. besides what is more important to you, good friends or a girlfriend? just focus on your friends and a good girlfriend is going to show up before you know it. just keep being yourself and you will find someone, PROMISE!!!
2007-12-30 11:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by cantexmex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋