Will it get better?

Question

My brother and I don't have a very good realationship. He's almost 16, and I'm a little younger. He doesn't talk to me anymore, and when he talks to my parents/family, he's all angry, and he sometimes yells. He drinks, not much, just beer when my parents have it, but maybe that could be affecting it? It started when he was twelve. We used to be somewhat close (not much, but still better than now), and now it's like I'm his enemy or something. He's never had a girlfriend, and I don't remember the last time he had a friend over or got a phone call. I worry about him, even though he clearly couldn't care less about me. I know that this isn't normal and I worry that it might be pshychological. Is this just a phase he's going through? Does it have something to do with me? And more importantly, will it get better?

Answer 1

Ahhh to be young again!

My sister who is 2 years younger than me we used to fight and argue and scream at each other every day when we were your age!

You will find that when you grow up and move out of your parent's home you won't see him as much and you will both mature as individuals and will learn to get along better.

When you are a teenager EVERYTHING is difficult to deal with but it does get easier so hang in there everything will work out in the end.

Answer 2

You are right to be worried about him, but you are his younger sister and you are limited in what you can do about it.
Siblings as close in age as you two are often very close, almost like twins. I guess that's not the case here.
He's not just angry with you, he's angry with everybody. He probably needs some help.
It might be worth your while to talk with the school counselor about it; you might get some ideas and some perspective.
It might get better, or it might not, I have no way of guessing.

Answer 3

You are right to be worried, and no I doubt it has anything to do with you. It sounds as if he has emotional issues, maybe depression, or other problems. He is at a difficult age and may need help in sorting out his feelings. Hopefully you have the kind of relationship with your parents that allows you to voice your concerns. They may be ignoring it, also feeling that it is just a phase. But many teens have adjustment problems, and it isn't unreasonable to seek help just to make sure something serious is not going on.
If you cannot talk to them, talk to your school counselor to see if others have voiced concerns. Teachers may have noticed something, and the counselor may also be willing to talk to him or your parents.

Answer 4

It probably doesn't have much to do with you. It sounds like he's just having a rough time overall right now. You will probably get along better when you get older. My sister and I went through this when we were young for about 6 years and then became friends again when she was 17.