Is it easier to get along by being fake?

Question

I am a very real person. I like to say how things are. Some opinion some facts. The problem is I end up fighting with people. Arguements, disagreements, whatever you want to call it. We battle. I notice that a lot of people are not like me. They bullshit. And it seems like
#1. I can't handle their bullshit
#2. I like to talk about it and others turn off as if nothing happened.
#3. Can't handle that either.

So what's a chic to do? I really don't want to argue (and iI'm good at it) but I really don't want to bullshit either.

Answer 1

It's not that you have to be fake. You just don't need to make everything an issue. Most people realize this, apparently you don't as it seems you feel that everyone else is wrong but you. Why do you feel that you need to voice your opinion to the point that you are arguing with with people? Do you go home at the end of the day and feel good about what you have done? Do you feel like you have accomplished something? You haven't. People just like you less. There are times when discretion is best, even if it means being a little fake to avoid hurting people. Hope this helps to lighten your burden somewhat.

Answer 2

No, being fake is a terrible thing really. If you're fake, you can get pushed into things you don't want to do. And even end up being around people you can't stand. I think a way to be is if you don't agree with someone, then you can be polite and say you don't agree, but not go into a full blown arguement about it. If they confront you don't let them get you all worked up about it. Just say something like, "I don't like that" and leave it at that. That's what I do and people respect that and don't try and fight me over all that I think, you know?

Answer 3

It is possible to reject bullshit without arguing or even being rude. Don't take everything personally.
First do make a distinction: if somebody disagrees with you or is mistaken, these are not lies. If somebody lies out of politeness, it is different from lying to deceive.
If somebody disagrees with you, you can simply say, "I'll agree to disagree." Don't be drawn in to the argument; hold your ground.
If somebody is mistaken, you can politely correct them, or let it go. If they don't believe you, just drop it. Don't pretend to agree, just drop it.
If somebody tells a polite lie (e.g. "I was sick" instead of "I didn't want to go"), there is usually no reason for you to intervene.
If the person is telling a deceptive lie, and you know it, you can simply say "I know that's not true" or just tell the truth as you know it. No need to argue.
None of this will prevent others from trying to argue with you. It can take self-control not to be drawn in. People may be offended too; but that's not your fault. And it does make life a lot easier.

Answer 4

You have to learn when to speak up about something and when not to. Then you have to learn when to back down. A lot of people bs...... and you can't argue or proove yourself right with them all.

Your opinion is just that. An opinion. You can't proove yourself right on your opinion and no one likes to argue over an opinion. That's annoying. When it's your opinion you need to state it and leave it alone.

Now if it's a fact and you can proove it then let the proof shut the other person up so their won't be an arguement.

You don't necessarily have to be fake, but you need to learn to backdown.

Answer 5

Yes, it is easier but it is not the best way to handle things. You have to be yourself .I have the same problem with people.Just because you are not giggly and bubbly all the time, it doesnt mean you are a bad person. But, if you do not want to argue, just tone it down a little, just a little bit. Find a happy medium.

Answer 6

Of course it's easier to get along by being fake, but that doesn't mean it's good to be. You should be proud of being opinionated. Maybe try being less hostile about it and talk less behind people's backs, and you won't cause many arguments with others.

Answer 7

Well it easier being fake, but your friendships dont always last as long as you think it is, because sooner or later you get tired of it.

You dont nessesarily HAVE to be fake, but you can just try adapting to people. You dont ALWAYS have to be right. try not to argue. most people think you dont like them when you argue with them, and then they'll end up going away.

But if youre lucky you might find someone who likes you for who you are. and likes arguing with you and whatnot.

Answer 8

By faking your dealing with other people? No, it will be worst. Be yourself always. But during discussions or changing of opinions. Avoid arguments, disagreements, etc. Try to accept one's views. Well, onece you share your part, tell them, you respect their opinions, too. Don't try to force them believe you or yours is the right one. You can live harmoniously with friends if you respect one another.

I don't know if you accept my advise. Good luck!

Answer 9

Wow, I don't know how Answers didn't block your curse...
Anyway....
I can't handle people's b------t either, but you'll never survive this world by being a b---h. Its better to fake being nice than to tell the truth and be nasty.

Answer 10

no, it's good you voice your opinions. that's exactly what you should do.. you've just gotta ignore these people and continue doing your thing. don't be as fake as they are and if you don't wanna argue then don't