I've been REALLY depressed lately..eversince my mother's brother came here from China in March and eversince, she did not care for me much and you can say she always "sacrifices" me to make him happy. It's not even human like and he does nothing to help us and no values at all. He's a disgrace to the human nature and my mom is always speaking up for him, even if he's wrong and she doesn't care about my feelings anymore. It's happened SO many times over the last 9 months, at this point, I really cannot take it anymore and I have a few choices..kill myself, runaway or just keep being depressed and to think of talking to her, it doesn't work because she's always going to be like this and it's given my very low self-esteem. What should I do? I cannot keep breaking down and taking my anger out of stuff and she screams and beats me when I do.
2007-12-30 10:41:42 · 7 answers · asked by sharaont 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hang in there kid, your age I don't know but believe me I had something kind of similiar in that my father used me for everything, I was his slave while he drank whiskey. I wanted to die also. But time flies and your free of people who live in their own small world, suddenly you understand alot more about why things were so bad. Meet others and don't make your mother your primary relationship, pity her for her actions and tell your self you would not do this to your daughter. Pray to God for understanding and still be good to your mother. Your time is comming and you will have love, just remember to be good to yourself now. Say good things to yourself, I already think your wonderful by the way. Just very sensitive, but observant, and perceptive. Like I said make new friends, and just do your best and let that be ok.
2007-12-30 10:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start Crying in the middle of the room, make a big scene, then she'll understand that he makes you upset because he distracts your mother from you. If she tells you to calm down or if she threatens to hit you, ignore what she has to say, talk back and make your point heard. I've tried this with my mom and she listens so maybe it'll work with your mom. Tell her that you've had enough and that you threaten to run away and never come back. Instead of taking her ignorance, go out with friends or do something that makes you happy. If it doesnt work, ignore them, just pretend they don't exist and maybe the tables will turn. I hope things work out and when or if your uncle leaves your home, explain to your mom how the past months have made you feel, tell her how you think he's a disgrace and things will work out. Good Luck!
2007-12-30 18:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by ~Kimmy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your mother about it. I mean, if it's making you that upset, then she should understand. I know, trust me, i know, that sometimes it seems like the no matter what do or say, it's the wrong thing, but there are always options. There is always going to be someone out there to help you. I know that it sounds corny and all, but if talking to your mother doesn't help, then talk to a trusted adult, like a family friend, or a teacher, or a friends mother. No matter what believe in yourself, and you can work through it. Do not kill yourself, it's not worth your life, and I might not know what kind of pain your feeling, or who you are, but your life is priceless and valuable, don't kill yourself.
2007-12-30 18:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest family counseling. Definitely go yourself to find out what you can do to help yourself. I am sorry that you are in this hellish situation but you need help.DO you have any close relatives you can talk to ? possibly move in with?
Please do get some counseling for yourself it really does help
But if you don't try you are contributing to the craziness. Some how you need to talk to someone about it your doctor, guidence counselor relative etc... It will be hard but you have to get some assistance with this problem. If you are under 18
there might be someone who can help you at Social Services
but you can't let it keep eating at you Good Luck andI hope things get better soon I am sorry its you that has to take action but you really do.
2007-12-30 19:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been through depression myself I really feel for you - you need to find some interest to take your mind off what is happening at home. For me it was exercise, but running and weights may not be your thing.
Have you got other family you could approach if your mother is not willing to talk to you?
2007-12-30 19:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mark L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no killin yourself ain't the answer ok trust me it's not also tell them how you feel ok and also look don't do that ok but runaway to a friends house or somethin but only if she won't listen and try to tell them whats going on ok
2007-12-30 18:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl4life 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel like she is not paying you much attention than talk to her usually they will listen.
2007-12-30 18:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by ckmd54321 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋