Lonely and Bored?

Question

Lately I have been thinking about what it was like for me being in a relationship. Unfortunately, I have been single for over 4 years now and am starting to feel so lonely. I have alot of friends, but they are all guys. I really would like to find a girl out there that I can like and she can like me back. I am told by so many people that I am such a great guy and would make a great husband for somebody to have. I feel that I have alot of good things going for me, but that is the only thing I am missing. I know someone is out there, but I do not get out alot. I see so many people around my age getting married and engaged,but I can't seem to find anyone for me. I wonder if there is any hope, because I do not want to be single my whole life.

Answer 1

well the only way to meet ppl is to go out
maybe u can get 1 of ur buds to introduce u to a nice girl

hope this help

good luck
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Answer 2

You sound so sweet and sincere! I know this will mean nothing until you're actually married, but you won't be single forever...I thought that, too, when all of my friends were getting married and I was wondering why it wasn't happening for me...It felt awful...I was a bridesmaid 10 (yes, TEN) times! There are girls out there that are feeling exactly like you are...It's just a matter of finding them. Or more precisely, HER. I just got married last February (at age 38) and I wouldn't give my husband up for having gotten married earlier for anything! Everything happens for a reason and if you haven't found her yet and she hasn't found you, then that's the way it's supposed to be. You will find her. Trust me. In the meantime, do the things you love, live your life to the nth degree, and be open to possibilities. I know it sounds cliched (sp?) but online dating from a reputable dating site is a great way to get out there and meet people. I did it for years before I got married and it was fun, entertaining, and a good way for me to learn about what I did and didn't like in a possible partner. There's a website called www.greatboyfriends.com. Ask one of your most trusted friends to recommend you on the site. (You'll see what I mean when you go to it) Other good ones are match.com and lavalife.com. That will certainly keep you busy and ward off boredom! It's fun to look at people's profiles and email back and forth. Just stay positive and wake up every day with the belief that she is out there. It's just not time. When it is...you'll know, because, there she'll be! : ) Good luck, sweetie!

Answer 3

I think you have answered your own question about why you are alone. You aren't doing anything NOT to be alone. I was the same way for years. No one is going to come bang the door down and beg you to fall in love with them, you have to show up where there are opportunities to meet that special person. Plus, you have to make an effort to attract someone you do meet, so work on the skills it takes to form friendships and the confidence to date again.
Set goals to be out at least two nights a week where you can meet people...join groups/clubs in which girls your age are members, start a new hobby or sport, join a fitness club, go to museums, coffee shops, the park....and be willing to start a conversation with people at these places. In addition, check out the personals pages on a few websites, I bet you will find girls in your area that are ready and eager to meet a guy like yourself.

Answer 4

Try getting involved in your community. Take classes that interest YOU at a local community center/college or volunteer with an organization that YOU feel passionate about. If you try to get involved with things relating to an area of interest (art, languages, music, etc), you're bound to meet people who are motivated and have at least one interest in common with you! I volunteer at a museum near my home because I love history and I've made some of my closest friends there.

You sound like a really earnest and down-to-earth guy, but you may just be a bit shy, so your great personality doesn't come across when you meet people. I'm really shy, so putting myself into a social situation (at the museum, and I also take art classes and play sports in a rec league) helped me to become more confident and meet some amazing people! It worked for me, and it's something I think you might want to consider.

Best of luck, and happy New Year!!

Answer 5

If you are such a great of guy, there has to be another reason you are single. Maybe you are not trying. Go to the club with your pals and flirt with other women. But the older a person gets, the harder it is. Because when you are young, you date, break up, date, and on and on. But when you get older, you want to find the perfect person to spend you life with. Maybe you could go on the matching sites like: eHarmony, Match.com, and other stuff. Or try locally and casually meet women and grow a bond. Hope I answered you Q. Thanks :]!

Answer 6

dont worry at all. i feel like its me writing the question. i was in the same situation just a week ago. i never really like to go out. i mostly have guy friends, though i am a female. but loves comes when you least expect it. so just have patience. of course others are marry, getting marry, engaged, in relationships, which is fine and all. but that should not bug you, take your time. a smart and beautiful lady will come your way when you least expect it. trust me :) g'luck. for the moment just enjoy life as it comes and dont worry about that.

Answer 7

Dont worry buddy, i feel the same.
Just start going out, you sound pretty young.
Anyways, the person you meet , usually comes up when you least expect it. And remember treasure every friend you make..she migth even become a future girlrind, as often friends do.

Answer 8

Your statement "I do not get out alot" is part of your problem. Try online dating services. The stigma is largely gone now and many people have found life partners this way.

Answer 9

I'd suggest going on a high intensity workout regimen...get a personal trainer for a while if u need one...it's amazing how the girls look at you a little different when you have a pretty sharp body...good luck...p.s. plus it does wonders for your confidence and it's just fun to workout

Answer 10

Of course there's hope. You just have to get out more. If you see a woman your interested in, go up and talk to her. If you get rejected, no big deal find another one.