ive got a questions about seeing an older guy
do people think an age gap is a big deal?? (im 21 and hes 32)
please let me know!!!!!! xXx
2007-12-30 09:10:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Complicated. There will be a huge mental age gap. At times, you two may not understand each other. But it is upto you.
2007-12-30 09:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by luluchicko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 35 year old guy and here's what I would worry about. You're 21 . . . the legal limit for going out to the bars and having fun. From the years 21-28, I pretty much partied all the time. I looked forward to the weekends like the Super Bowl. Where's the party at? Where we goin'? At 35, it's just different. I still like to have fun, but I can't "hang" like I used to. Maybe you don't feel the urge to go "clubbing" like a lot of young people do. Or, maybe you do but he's a "young" 32 and can still hang. I would just worry that everything would be great for a while until one day the younger girl I was with woke up and told me she felt like she was missing out on something. Not that you can't break away for a night out with the girls once and a while. Age in itself isn't the big barrier here . . . it's making sure you're on the same page with what you want to do with your life and spare time.
2007-12-30 09:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kevy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not much older than you, I think it's perfectly fine. I thought you were talking about 20+ difference!
you may enjoy his maturity and life experience now. A lot of older men will show you how to enjoy life, but when you get older like 40 and he is 51 then there is a clearer difference in terms of body and career. You may find him less dynamic than your other mates. You may need to have children earlier just to suit his timetable. But overall older men give you more security.
2007-12-30 11:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by uno_yy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a mature 21 then it shouldn't be a problem. If he keeps banging on about the age difference though and shows signs of jealousy when you're with your younger mates, then get out asap.
2007-12-30 09:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's nothing when I was 28 I was seeing a 49 year old
2007-12-30 10:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all-I'm with a 45yr old man and there doesnt seem to be a problem with us! As long as you're comfortable with each other thats all that matters! I'm the happiest I've been in a long time! (and I'm 21!) xx
2007-12-30 09:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you said older I thought you meant over fifty.
There's nothing wrong with you seeing a guy that age.
2007-12-30 09:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 17 yrs old and my husband was 29 yrs old,nearly 11 years differences,when we got married.we have been married for 41 yrs in march 2008, and still in love, and very happy. i wish you all the luck. xxx happy new year x
2007-12-30 09:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by blackpool lass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No~
Thats not a BIG difference
Age doesnt matter anyways!
As long as you both love and respect eachother~!
Who cares what anyone else thinks??
2007-12-30 09:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by *Facepalm* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 20 and my lad is 32! so go for it we have been together for a year and a half! x
2007-12-30 09:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋