this guy is obsessed with me?he wont stop calling me?he doesnt get it?what do i do?

Question

i met this guy once we were introduced
he found me on facebook
wrote on my wall
got my sn
starts obsessivly talking to me
starts calling me NON STOP
calls me baby(he ruined that word for me btw)
tells my bff he likes me
i told him i wana be friends
he DOESNT GET IT
i dont pick of his phone calls half the time
and im kinda rude when he calls


PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!

Answer 1

Quit answering his calls. Avoid all contact with him. He will eventually get the hint....hopefully.

Answer 2

I would stop talking to him and pray that God delivers me from his harrassment. I've been through what you have and the guy knew where I lived and worked and would show up on my job nearly getting me fired twice! I was fortunate enough to have met him shortly before my move to another city because when I moved he wasn't able to find me. I then made sure that every call he made to me went unanswered and if I was called from an unknown number then I wouldn't answer that as well. If the guy you are talking about knows where you live or the places you go and starts coming around I would recommend you get a restraining order out on him and a can of Mace. I hope he's not the violent kind. Tell your family and friends everything you know about him so that they can assist in a case against him.

Answer 3

I hate to say it, but it may be time to get nasty. You may have to raise your voice a bit and tell him to leave you alone. You may not be comfortable acting this way toward someone else, but keep in mind that this person is not being considerate of YOUR feelings. He's just interested in satisfying his own needs and desires, and that apparently includes having you be his girlfriend.
The only way your going to be effective in getting him to stop bothering you is to change the way he feels about you. And in this situation you don't have too many options except to make yourself look like a mean b*tch. When he calls again, tell him that you don't like his type, and why. Be brutally honest, even though it may hurt his feelings in the short-term. Let him know that you wouldn't go out with his type, or whatever. Be prepared to hear him get mad and defensive, because if it works he will feel hurt and retaliate by getting upset.

And I wouldn't even tell him I would want to be just friends...honestly, would you want to be friends with some guy that is like this???

But your not going to get him off your back unless you pull out the heavy artillery and get it through his head that he has NO CHANCE with you, no matter how you have to say it...which probably means you have to sound like a mean b*tch to be effective.
He may go away thinking, "I no longer want anything to do with that mean b*tch", but you will have gotten him off your back.

After that last phone call telling him off, don't answer any calls from him after that. He should get the message.

Then maybe let people know that he was this way, in case he feels he has to tell everyone that your mean. That way your side of the story will be out there, also.

Answer 4

Just flat out tell him!
You did the right thing by telling him that you're not interested. Here is what I highly recommend. Dont get ANY of your friends involved with him or any of his friends. Block his number from your phone and his email address. Make sure you or any of your close friends and family have absolutely no contact with him whatsoever. And if you happen to run in to him on the street, make sure its some place with a lot of people. But if you're alone with him, walk away to a busy place or just call one of your friends and start talking so that if he tries something crazy, they will know. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Wow that's crazy-lol. I suggest just answering the phone to him one time and telling him that you're not looking for a boyfriend at this time & you would like to remain friends with him. If he can't accept just being friends, then tell him to move on & look for someone else.

If this doesn't work or if he still doesn't take the hint, then you could block his number, email address, screen name, etc. So he has no way of contacting you.

Good luck. Stalkers are no fun-I've had one before :(

Answer 6

tell him you don't like him.
And to stop calling you, sometimes meanness is the only thing that gets through to people.

What is happening to you happened to my sister not so long ago and that guy scared me, I seriously thought he would never leave her alone.
Make sure he understands you want nothing more than a friendship, the worst thing you can do is give him hope of a relationship, next thing you know he's holding a blade to your neck.

Answer 7

sounds like you will have to change your phone number and respond harshly to him.

tell him you want Nothing to do with him. ( if he thinks that you ' like ' him or want to ' remain ' friends, then he will think he has a ' chance ' with you ). CUT ALL TIES with him ! Immediately !

If this does not come across to him, you will need to inform him that you will contact the police and file a complaint of harrassment ! This might Nip that in the Bud.

Answer 8

Ask your bf to talk to him... it'll help. If not, ignore him or just tell him to buzz off in a rude way. What else should you do if the guy does not get it? Had the same problem.

Answer 9

Just completely ignore him when he makes comments that regard a deep relationship. Or ignore him completely. Maybe then he'll get the message that you just want to be friends. Block him on facebook. He'll get it even more when it says he's been blocked!!

Answer 10

Change your number?
What is your boyfriend doing about this? Surely he'd be telling the guy off?