as he expecting me 2 pay for all of the wedding just because he was married before and it didnt work out so he thinks that he should nt have 2 pay for any of this wedding 2 me i think we should split it 50/50 so what do u think advice please ?
2007-12-30 08:45:05 · 40 answers · asked by in love and its great 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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I believe your fiance posted this question.
Call of the engadement. He's a heartless jerk.
2007-12-30 09:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My friend is going through the same situation, but him and his fiancee decided to split the cost 50/50 for two reasons:
1.) It's his second wedding, and he payed for a lot of it the first time
2.) She doesn't come from a family with a lot of money
BUT, it's not like they're having a huge wedding either, so it's not going to be too extremely expensive either.
2007-12-30 08:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by prozak 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any love should be based on mutual respect, understanding, and care. If he thinks that you have to pay the whole 100%, tell him: Go to fly a kite! You deserve a better man. He is inconsiderate, and cheap from the beginning. Make sure to cancel the whole darn thing! Wrong match! You don't want him to make you miserable at the beginning, and, definitely, not let him to screw up the rest of your life! Hope you have a better year in 2008! Believe me, there are many good men out there! Good Luck!
2007-12-30 10:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Super Mimi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to call off the engagement but defintely postpone the wedding. Does he realize that this attitude of his may have a huge cost - losing you? How important are you to him? If he loves you and wants to marry you he will do the right thing. If not, then there is another waiting for you that will.
2007-12-30 08:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by Teres 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you start this he'll expect you to fork out for everything. It's his wedding as well so why should you pay for it all. I'd give him the big heave ho if I were you.
He's already given up as he's not expecting it work out. So get one step ahead and call it off NOW. He's a loser and this marriage won't work cos he won't let it. He's not over his other marriage yet otherwise he wouldn't have these opinions.
2007-12-30 09:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Soup Dragon 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't call it off because he doesn't want to pay for the wedding.
You should call it off because if you guys can't communicate on this, what makes you think you will on anything else in the future.
It is reasonable for him to say that he thinks weddings are too expensive and that he doesn't want to pay for an expensive wedding.
It is reasonable for you to say that it is important to you and you want one.
But this should be discussed upfront - not now.
And splitting 50/50 is moot. Once you are married your finances will be joined so it doesn't really matter where the money comes from now.
2007-12-30 08:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I ddn't realise scrooge was still around in 2007, especially as it comes to new year!!!
That is really S**te excuse to give - just bcos it ddn't work first time, doesn't mean it.... a) is not going to work wit you or b) point blank refuse to pay!
You should find sum1 thats wants to help support you and marry you and prepare to help foot the bill!!!
xx
2007-12-30 09:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Paul D25 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you enter the married as 2 equal people who should be in love, surely it should be an equal contribution - I dont think his oppinion on letting you pay for it is very fair - maybe hes not ready to be married again ..... You can do better than that :)
2007-12-30 08:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by vicks107 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is a major red flag, your guardian angel has given you a get out clause here. Call it off!!!!! What else is he going to come out with when you are married?
2007-12-30 11:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is an incredibly selfish man who is not taking this seriously, of course he should pay half. What a ridiculous thing to say, he's begging for a major butt kicking if you ask me!! I would be absolutely livid!! I think you already know what you should do! Stick to your guns and trust your instinct!!
2007-12-30 08:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by Lee Lee 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋
It should be 50/50.
2007-12-31 03:17:00 · answer #11 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋