I am 14 years old and in the 8th grade. I know I am young, but i am not naive. I know about saftey, and protections, etc. My parents have not yet given me the sex talk and they don't seem like theyre going to any time soon. Should I tell them about being asked or keep it to myself? (the boy is in the same grade and is same age and I know him well. were not dating, so its just for fun.) and if not "all the way" then how far?
2007-12-30 08:44:59 · 85 answers · asked by ifeelinfinite♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just wanted to add that im not being pressured by anybody. he said its my choice and if i turn him down he wont be offended
2007-12-30 08:58:36 · update #1
How old is that someone. If he is around your age, it is better left unsaid. If the guy is overage like 16 or older tell your parents now.
Also a girl your age should not be having sex, let your BF know that it is out of the question.
2007-12-30 08:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 6⤋
I lost my virginity when I was 14...But I was almost in the 10th grade.At first I wanted to regret it.And my mother did not find out till I was dating another guy and had the suspicion of being pregnant.I wasn't but it's a scare.I did however get pregnant when I was 15 and madly in-love.I'm now 17 and my daughter is 1.It's not easy.
Remember that anything can happen.From what I learned u can get pregnant from pre-***...with higher chances.I don't want to give u a lecture bout std's,cuz im sure u already know.Jus b carefull.You should wait till ur with the one u can imagine spending atleast the next few years with...well i dn't wanna be a pain.So good luck.Tell them when you're ready.Hope this helps ::DD
2007-12-30 08:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by sexy thick madame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly can't say anything about your age cause I was 14 when I first had sex and the boy wasn't my boyfriend. But now that im older that is something that I would have done over. Sex isn't a way to find love. Yeah you outta talk to your parents no matter how they react good communication between you and your family is a must. Wait if you can till the right time.
2007-12-30 08:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie pie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AGGG Post like this make my head want to explode.
I spent years teaching 8th grade! I know that it seems "like fun" Hey - why not. If it feels good, why not do it.
Trust me sweetie. It will be a huge let down. And you will never get the chance to say no again, although you'll always have the option of saying yes later.
I'm not so uptight as to think sex should wait until marriage, but it should be between two people that have an intimate connection and want to take that further.
Not for fun and giggles.
Yes, tell your parents that the topic of sex has come up in your life (you don't have to say someone has asked you to) and you would like to talk to them.
God Luck!!
2007-12-30 08:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a grown ups point you say you are not naive and its just for fun now, but it obvious your not ready, you have to make sure you are ready emotionally. You should go and talk to your school counsellor first. At your age there are alot of other fun things to do first, and if this person is your friend then you need to think about will they be your friend later. Sex isnt just about saftey and protection
2007-12-30 09:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sam J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you never have sex just for no reason and you are way to young .I think you should talk to your parents as they will tell you why you shouldn't.I think it is great for you to even consider talking to them about a personal thing.If you have that kind of relationship with them then go girl.As far as how far you should go,I would say as little as possible.Let sex wait for the right time in your life.You will be glad you did.Besides once you do it word will get around and some people will call you nasty names and you don't want a bad reputation at any age.PleaseThink before making Stupid Mistakes in your life
2007-12-30 09:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you consider giving away something so precious just for fun. If you start having sex at 14 you will soon have a line going out the door of boys who are on a sure thing.
Just the way that you have stated your question is answer enough that you are too immature for sex so please reconsider as one day a really nice guy will come along and you will already have been through 50 other guys and you will wish you hadnt
2007-12-30 08:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I asked my daughter this question and she was afraid to tell me but she did. What I told her was first of all once you give your virginity away you can't get that feeling back of giving to the man you want to the man you have married. Your parents are either scared or old fashion. Either way break the ice if you can by asking themif they are willing to talk to you about it if not , then go to an adult that you respect. and get info from them . But keep reaching out to your parents.And I wish you the best . I have learned that saying don't to teenagers means do. Use your common sense and make the choice you know will help your future not the one that can cause you to make a major mistake.
2007-12-30 09:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by virtue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18, so it's not like I'm an old adult telling you this, but in my opinion you are two young and you are going to end up damaging your psyche by doing this. Especially if it's not in the context of a relationship and "just for fun. " You have your whole life for this. Wait a little and still enjoy being young without all the consequences. I think you should tell your parents about this because it could border on dangerous.
2007-12-30 08:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by Grace 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not a good idea for you, sweetie. You're not emotionally or mentally stable enough to handle the side affects that come immediately following the act of sex.
Stay in school, keep your grades up, and focus on getting to highschool, and through it of course! You'll thank us one day, and as for telling your mom- if it gets more serious, tell her then. Wait, and relax and see what the guys' reaction is to your answer before telling mom, hold off on telling her for a bit. Happy New Year!
2007-12-30 08:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm OK well my rents never ever gave me the "sex talk," they just trust me not to do it till marriage. They know I know everything, all the facts and everything. I think that you SHOULD tell them. 'Cause if they find out that you did later on, there could be some MAJOR consequences. Like they might freak out and not trust you for what seems like forever. And they'll take you to a gynecologist and have you checked out and they'll be uber nervous over the results and everything. You don't want them to not trust you because then you wont be able to do ANYTHING without them questioning you. And you DON'T want that. 'Cause then you wont be able to hardly do anything. Let alone party when you want to!!Hehe.... So yes.... DEFINITELY tell them!! But my advice.... Stay abstinent till marriage. Don't have sex. You're too young.
2007-12-30 08:51:10 · answer #11 · answered by Precious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋