well theres this guy I like and he saposibly likes me also but like a month ago he liked my bestfriend and he had to desire who he would want to date so he said well if me and Sarah don't hang out in the next week I'll go out with you so I waited a week because I liked him slot and he never asked me out. After that he said sorry and stuff and I forgave him after he started to ignore me and stuff becuase he moved on with anothergirl and they went out than broke up in like3days now he's talking to me and asked me out I don't knnow if he's using me
2007-12-30 08:33:07 · 37 answers · asked by Vanessa P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
using you
dump him
2007-12-30 08:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend and I am telling you this from my heart: You are being played and this guy will hurt you, make you feel foolish and most likely you will loose your best friend too! What you have to realize is that not every guy you like will like you back. Some guys will like you and you will know immediately if they do but some won't and likewise, you won't like every boy who likes you either. That is life. If you throw your self at someone who has treated you like this guy has, Yeah he will eventually use you to add to his list of girls he's had and will dump you. You need to understand how boys think and it is not how girls think. Boys want as many girls as they can get and do not care about girls feelings to much at your age. Girls let boys have all the power and let them be in control of how the relationship goes. Girls let boys treat them badly and don't do anything about it because they feel lucky to have a boyfriend and boys know this. If you are smart you will NEVER even once go out with a boy who has made you feel even a little bad about anything and NEVER EVER go out with your bestfriend's or any girlfriend's ex-boyfriend, you want to keep as a friend. If you break these rules you will be asking for a broken heart and a whole lot of drama. You will find a boy who you like and who likes you back. Don't force it and it will come to you. In the meantime, do what YOU like and get good at something YOU are interested in. Boys like confident and strong girls who are not acting desperate to have a boyfriend and letting other boys hurt them.
2007-12-30 09:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by C8H10N402 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wanted to date you then he wouldn't put you "on hold". What i mean is that if he really liked you then he would ask you out from the beginning not after being with your best friend AND with another girl.
Talk to him and figure out whats going on, maybe he broke up with the other girl cause he decided that you were better and he liked you more.
The thing is that before doing an other step you first need to pause and talk to him.
Good Luck!
2007-12-30 08:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by vania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well despite your horrendous spelling abilities,it seems that this guy your describing is a future gigolo or jiggalo and is using the entire neighborhood of females as his game. This person is someone you need to avoid for the rest of your life due to his unequivocal way of life as a womanizer. Find somebody else to be your boy friend ,preferable someone who is dedicated to you and only you.
2007-12-30 08:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by TEC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Of course he is using you. He's going after whoever he can get. He may be making the rounds to see who he can get sex from. He may have broken up with that other girl after only 3 days because she wouldn't have sex with him. It's possible you know. Younger guys especially are only after one thing. They only say what the girl wants to hear to see if she'll have sex with him. I'm not saying older guys don't do the same thing but the younger guys are just prisoners of their raging hormones. They aren't interested in love and commitment....they want a steady sex partner. Please be careful. Most of them are players. I don't want you to get hurt and he WILL break your heart if you feel very strongly for him and he does only use you for his physical needs. YOU must be in control of your mind and body. YOU are better than that. Stay safe.
2007-12-30 08:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by lacrosselover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, ill tell u this, im srry if i got this wrong and he really is a nice guy, but he seems like a jerk. i think he's trying to play you to get to other people. and personally i dont think that 3 day relationships are good signs. it means that he doesnt pick based on who he really likes(or maybe the girl didnt, im not sure) but it seems that he might be using u. im not trying to put u down or anyting, im just trying to b honest with you.
2007-12-30 08:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by mariah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he liked your bestfriend first or both of you at the same time, I wouldn't trust him or continue to date him for that matter. I hope things work out, and you and your best friend continue ot be bestfriends.
2007-12-30 08:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd steer clear of him. Wait til you find someone a little more mature and dedicated to you and only you. There's nothing wrong with waiting. Don't settle for people out of convenience's sake or any other reason.
2007-12-30 08:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Grace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is using you. You seem young. Just move on. You don't deserve someone who is just stringing you along. You need to find someone who'll treat you wonderfully. When you do find that person you won't ask any questions like that. You'll be happy and secure in your relationship. Cheers!
2007-12-30 08:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He used to use you.But now I'm sure he's not.He's just trying to ABUSE you.Believe me I'm ashamed of what I've done when I was younger, but after 29 years,I believe I do know such guys.Don't even think about meeting him again or you're gonna regret.
2007-12-30 08:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by DDS_KDoost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't met that special someone, and you like him a lot and you are there, so since you are there he doesn't have to be alone. he may not intentionally be trying to use you. but you r connection wiht him is not healthy because you like him so much and you will be hurt when he finds what he is really looking for.
2007-12-30 08:41:16 · answer #11 · answered by Jesus is the best. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋