Well im still a virgin i havent really been kissed ive just got some major women problems??

Question

it always begins the same way im busy with college or work and playing sports and if your wondering on that note i recently won a basket ball trophee and i play any sport i can im not really one to chase the girls it always ends up the same way im minding my own bussiness and i meet a girl who is rather forward and twists my arm into going on a date, eventually she ends up being the first to say to my face that she loves me and comments that were not spending enough time together and calling me constantly she seems to haing on my every word clings to me alot of cuddeleng and some have even postered my poetry around there room but it always ends the same exact way they say i never loved you i never liked you i could never be interested in you i dont even know if i could stand being friends with you and theres no way in hell that you could ever make me love u so theres no need to continue talking or hainging out with each other and they will never tell me what i did wrong???

im 24 and when i start a relationship i try to be very devoted, i doubt i need to pull up old letters and emails to prove this, but girls ive dated tell me that im very devoted, im very sweet, im husband material, im amazing, im the greatest guy theyve dated yet and well its not small its about 10 inches long and 2 inches thick not to brag or anything but i doubt thats the problem, and im so far from gay its not funny, i just dont understand why all the girls in my life suddenly changed their minds about me,

i only ignore girls after ive been heart broken i move into sports studies or anything to help me forget what happened and when im completly cut off i meet another girl who wants to try me out. and the same thing happens again.

the only thing that i know is that im a little overweight at the moment but it does not in any way restrict my activities swimming mountian biking surfing ive just had my gall bladder rupture and my appendix and some intestine removed so i gained

yea GEEZ this isnt a term paper its just some curiousity

and ive never been told that im not devoted enough once or twice they told me that im a little too devoted but thats ok because they like it,

throughout the relationship im always asking alot of question to make sure that i dont screw up again

so now would be the time to say that these girls are 22 and older the young thing is just too immature for a guy like me and hey where am i going to get basket ball fans in college ball?? you honestly never see the yonger crowd around we only play at other colleges so unless theres a really young college chick in the mix im not really worrying about the lower age ranges i like to keep it 20-30 if im after somone

so yea from the emails im getting you dont believe me

kim 20 kerrylnn 24 cassie 25 carrie 24 melissa 22 kristina 24................................................................................

Answer 1

I think maybe you've just been a little bit unlucky. What exactly did you do during the relationships you've had to make it last though? From your question, all I see are things that the girl did, but what did you do back? Even if you had less time to spend with them, did you try to make them laugh, try to make sure they have a good time, talk to them about their day or about your day, say/do anything sweet, etc.? More detail here would be helpful if in fact you were doing anything wrong. If you did make an effort and this still happened to you, then you just need to meet more girls, maybe different types of girls. Good luck.

Answer 2

Congratulations -- you win the prize for the longest single sentence that doesn't say a blessed thing.

Seriously, dude, do you have an actual question, or are you just bragging about the girls that want to get with you? If you want to save it for marriage, fine. More power to you. But learn some social skills, OK? Go on dates. Have female friends. And if you're not really interested in a girl, don't go out with her. Doesn't matter if she "twists your arm." Be man enough to say no if no is the answer.

And if you don't want to date a girl, what are you doing writing her poetry? That's leading her on, man. A lady would be well within her rights to slap you silly for that. Be honest about your attentions from the start.

Answer 3

Since you lead such a busy life with college and sports, you don't have the time to devote to the kind of relationship these girls are looking for. You are keeping yourself aloof enough not to get entangled which frustrates most girls looking for a steady boyfriend so they get mad and give up. Many girls want to be in first place ahead of your other interests and responcibilities and if you are not showing alot of affection and attention to their emotional needs, they will throw in the towel so to speak. They are wondering where the passion is since you say you have never really been kissed, so I assume you are not taking the initiative, they expect to progress further along.

Answer 4

you didn't do anything wrong, sometimes you will date a girl that will cling onto you and some guys like that but others dont. Its either you not caring for her as much back and she tends to think something is wrong with her but tells you otherwise. Some people like to be the lone star and work hard for the young years of their lives and it isn't until later they start seeking a lady friend, and I from what I can tell its like your playing hard to get for a bit to long, eventually you gotta end that and make a move :)

Answer 5

It appears that you both seek and enjoy the attention that these young people give you. To you they are just like your basketball trophies, that you win. You go to great lengths to smile and get their attention. Like the male peacock, you spread a magnificent plumage to attract these people. But in your case it is your athletic abilities and your poetry.

But anyone can see that these are the tools you use to play your tricks and games on these unsuspecting young people. You already know that you do not want them. You just want their attention and to have them fall all over you. You love this behavior and truly get stimulated from any amount of attention these young people send your way.

You may think you are still a virgin, but in actuality you are not. There are many ways to have sex and just as many ways to reach an orgasm. In your case, you do not require physical contact with a female or male. You are in need of large amounts of adoration from anyone that sees you.

Try to notice how you are both seeking and receiving your daily doses of sex from them. 1. You have young ladies squealing over your poetry and writings. 2. You have both male and female excited about your athletic abilities. 3. You are receiving a steady dose of pleasure from them telephoning and writing you.

If you are unable to make changes in your life? You may wish to seek professional help. My only fear is that, if you continue to play these games with your fan club members? Sooner or later you will attract a true and terrifying stalker fan. Whether this person(s) is male or female, you may not be ready for them and all that comes with being stalked upon by a truly serious stalker fan that will not take no for an answer and would rather maim or kill you, then be the one who does not have you.

Keep this in your mind at all times. When you get a real stalker fan, you are not the only one affected by this person(s). Your family members, neighbors, friends and pets can be maimed or killed because they may be perceived as a threat.

Answer 6

Well, sounds like that's typical teen behavior. You shouldn't be getting this type if you're in college. Behaviro like that generally changes once you hit 24 years old. If you're STILL getting it in the girls you're going out with, then look at the type of women who you're attracting and make a change in who YOU approach--go for the more mature ones.

Answer 7

i dont see where you mention your age,but i'm guessing you're very young from your question,...
dont worry about it, and i know thats easier said than done, but you're stressing over nothing...it'll happen when the right girl comes along, and that doesnt mean in middle school, high school, maybe not even in college, but it will, so until then, enjoy your sports and your friends, and dont worry about it, ...oh and ignore the first answer, that person is obviusly jealous of you, and has no life!

Answer 8

Hey sweetheart......u seem to be a bit too worried about being a virgin......wel u kno career comes 1st...girls can weight......who's going mad after a clerk after all?....check out some sportsmen........they, maybe never slept with a girl untill the actually became sportstar........don't worry mann....be happy.....n for all those who think being virgin is bad.......its not.....its normal.....as normal as having a penis or a vagina....if a man says that being a virgin is bad then he probably believes that having a penis in bad..........what say?

Answer 9

Seems like you are meeting the wrong girls. They sound rather crazy.

If someone tells you that they love you when they don't even really know you then something is wrong.

They sound really clingly, try to find someone who enjoys spending time with you but who does not want to be with you every second. It just wont work. You both need "alone" time for yourselves, as well as spending time together.

Good luck

Answer 10

I think your best bet is just to calm down, take things slowly, and tell the girls that might be interested in you that you don't jump into things.

in the end, they'd rather you just be up front and honest with them about your feelings and about your need for personal space. otherwise, you could come across as leading them on and hurting their feelings when you don't show affection in return.