Crystal and my son LOVE Lincoln Park and they have been saving for the special event. They are buying great seats. They will both have cell phones. Am I being stupid to allow this?
2007-12-30 08:04:02 · 34 answers · asked by E S 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Extending trust is important to children. Actually, extending trust is important in any relationship. Make an agreement with the girl and your son that they should be available via cell phone when the concert is over.
Tell your son that you trust him to make sound judgments. Explain to him that if he breaches his promise, then it will make it difficult for you to allow him to go to other events. It's important for children to learn responsibility and consequences of breaching promises. Children actually can reason much better than adults give credit for.
The ability to make good judgments is important. Unfortunately, that ability comes from making a lot of bad judgments. We have to allow children to grow up. Yeah, this is very scarey... I have a child myself.
The age difference isn't important in the decision making process. Yes, this can happen and that can happen, but you can't let fear control your relationship with your child.
2007-12-30 14:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by darcy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know an 18 year old that I would want to be the only guardian of my son around hundreds of drunk and stoned concert goers. As a parent, I would not be as concerned about how these children will be with each other, but how predators might view the pair. I would think that an 18 year old girl with a younger boy would be vulnerable to strangers. If the 18 year old goes to the bathroom, that would leave your son alone in a crowd of thousands--not something I would feel comfortable with. I have gotten separated from my group before and if your son were to experience that, it could be traumatic. The simple solution is to have an adult accompany them or wait till he is older.
2007-12-30 11:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that at age 13 he should have an adult there with him, and an 18 year old girl (though legally an adult) is not the best choice. I see no problem with the concert itself. If he likes the music (within certain reason) there isn't a problem. Linkin Park is an awesome group. I would suggest a parent escort.
2007-12-30 09:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means ...
They will go to Lincoln Park to watch a concert, won't they? If you worry about what might happen after the concert, then just let them know what some of the rules are, e.g., what time they have to be home.
2007-12-30 08:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you know this girl well enough to trust him with your son if you do then i think you should consider the thought of letting him go and if you do decide to let him go then i would make someone else go with him like an older or younger sibling or cousin thats what my parents would make me and my sister do i kept her out of alot of trouble but if you have any bad feelings about it i wouldnt then dont do it just trust your instincts your his mother you know whats best.
2007-12-30 08:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, as long as an adult will supervise it. He's thirteen, he will need an adult with him, and Crystal doesn't count. I mean a parent. If he were 16, I'd say let him go.
And it's spelled Linkin Park.
2007-12-30 08:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That age difference ... is she his girlfriend, or his "nanny"?
Don't know which one more needs protection from the other ..I'd think for the sakes of the two of them, if they went they should be accompanied by a "chaperone" or TWO.
Of course they both might be great ...how well do you know the girl and her parents and family?
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2007-12-30 08:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how well you know this girl and think she's an OK person . seems like a big age different to me, but hey at least it's better than if it was a 13 y/o daughter going with an 18 y/o GUY.
2007-12-30 08:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
of course you should allow your son to go to lincoln park concert with this girl
if hes 13 and shes 18 thats not a big age difference thats only 5 years
2007-12-30 08:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by James Crawley Maximus Meridius 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No! If you trust them both dont worry. Lincoln park is great too (: hehe
2007-12-30 08:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by Allie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋