What can you conclude from this?

Question

I have a very soft-spoken voice and even in a small group if I say something, sometimes I'm overpowered by others. This young woman will somehow hear me and will ask me to repeat what I said so she can listen. She occasionally gives me advice on my problems with guys. It was hard for me to open up but I did little by little over the past few months. I even started to reach out and interact more. But I'm worried about interacting TOO much. Right before the holidays, I naturally reverted back to my quiet and shy mode. She started to make an effort to get me talking again.

Any conclusions or insight on either of us?

Answer 1

She obviously see's that you want to express yourself to other people but have a problem doing it. The fact that you have gotten better at interacting shows that what she is doing is helping. Maybe you should talk about this specific issue with her.

Just remember nothing is wrong with being shy. It seems to me since you wrote you are afraid of interacting too much you find yourself in an awkward position when you do. This could be because you have been introverted most of your life and think you shouldn't be acting like that. You just have to work on making yourself realize that you can interact as much as you want without thinking its weird to yourself.

I would definitely try to keep that person around and put in an effort to getting to know her better if I were in your position. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

What is the question exactly? It sounds like this woman is a good friend, and you should take her advice. She sounds like someone you feel safe talking to, and that is a good thing to have. I don't understand what you mean about interacting TOO much...for a quiet person like yourself, I don't see this as being an issue, unless you are referring to throwing yourself at men or something, which is never a good idea. If you are referring to a possible attraction between this woman and yourself, then what's so bad about that? she sounds like good people, and if you're interested in giving that a shot, then you should because it could be a great thing for you both...

I just hope that you are willing to be supportive to this friend as much as she is of you...otherwise it's a one-way street and it won't have longevity.

Answer 3

U are soft spoken(I am usually not), and this young woman wants 2 hear what U have 2 say(as I suspect I would), and also feels motivated 2 offer advice which is 2 your benefit. I lookz 2 me as tho U may be on your way 2 establishing a friendship @ least. The best of luck 2 U, and I would sincerely encourage U 2 work on your voice, being heard is often of serious importance!!

Timothy

:o)

Answer 4

you need to open up and get over being shy and learn to speak out and be heard on some points without being overpowering to others. ( still being a lady )

Your friend is trying to help you, she is a good friend.

As for too much, anything is reason is good, most of the time. "Being a lady all of the time, except in the bed room' was what my Mother said about women talking and taking a place in life. There is a time and a place for everything,, finding the place is the hard part.

Answer 5

This person either has an interest in what you have to say or she feels as though she needs to encourage you to be more outgoing. Either way, it's a good thing to do, to help someone's confidence.

I feel as though people should try to be at least a little extroverted, that is, open up to people you feel you can trust.

When you interact and speak freely, you'll be viewed as a person with confidence, and that's always a good trait, as long as you don't become arrogant. It's good to keep these sorts of things in balance

Answer 6

She might be perceiving you as "shy" and wishes to help you with this. It sounds as if she wants to be your friend and wants to hear what you have to say. If you're worried about interacting TOO much, then take a breather with just her. You don't have to be a major social butterfly all the time. If you're comfortable with her, let her know that. If you're not, then take a little time for you. Good luck.

Answer 7

OK, when i was little i was shy too and had a soft voice i would always tell my older brother what i wanted and he would tell my mom. Don't worry if you interact too much. Juts dont be shy, have fun, and live your life to the fullest!
Be yourself,
catlover2266

Answer 8

It sounds like she is trying to be your friend. Respect your own boundaries. If you are feeling too exposed, its okay to pull back a little. That may be you intuition telling you that she has an agenda and isn't trustworthy of keeping your secrets.

As you begin to slowly open up, test whether she is trustworthy of your confidences...once you understand if you can or cannot trust her, then you will know how much of yourself you can reveal to her.

It also sounds like your feel really needy and are afraid of that. You may want to offer her friendship and let her lean on you a bit too. She may need your support and friendship as much as you need hers.

Answer 9

I understand why your afraid of interacting too much. I did once and it turned me into a complete wreck. My suggestion is that you should manage a "social" schedule, make time for people and yourself. As for that other young women she seems like really good and conscientious person but explain to her that you need "alone time".

Answer 10

She wants to help you. She thinks shyness is a detriment to the efficacy of your job performance, and she's trying to bring you out of your shell.

Unless you're partying a lot or playing games with other employees or flirting a lot, you're interaction level is okay, that is unless a supervisor tells you elsewise.

TX Mom