Aged 27, does life get better?

Question

Hi

I live alone which can be a struggle and lonely some times, I split up with long term financee a couple of years back. Since then I had small relationships which have ended up in heart ache, guess I know how to pick em lol.

My confidence is very low and I am feeling very low, bit lonely also I guess espeically at weekends. I recently started seeing this women its now a couple of months in, and found out on xmas eve she done the dirty on me.

Does anyone else have a rough few years like this, does it get better and all work out for the best in the end? I feel like giving up, sick of going to work coming home to empty house and getting hurt in relationships.

I hate being by myself and on my own.

Answer 1

Of course things get better, you have to start living your life and don't let it revolve around other relationships, the most important thing though is learning to live and like yourself, yourself is the most important thing because you're stuck with it constantly(if that makes sense)

Answer 2

I was where you are. Some days are good, some are not, no matter if you have a relationship or not. My confidence has always been pretty low, and found it difficult to meet people. I finally got married at 42. It is challenging being single, and even more so being married.
I have learned to be grateful for the time I had alone, on my own, and now grateful that I have a spouse. Somedays I wish I was still single, but I am where I am and I will try to make the best of it!
Try to reach out to something so you are not so lonely...friends, family, groups, clubs, church, etc. And the plus side of that is that you get to get out and meet new people...one of the best ways to find the love of your life. And even then it won't be perfect...but it will be a wonderful growing learning experience.
Best to you.

Answer 3

You know, there is a Greek proverb I always keep in mind. It's sort of like "All the good things always show up late". I believe the best thing you can do is to have faith in yourself and not lose your self-confidence. I know what I am saying now may sound really stereotypical, but I think it's the only 'solution'.
Since you cannot find a couple, why not just see some old friends, or maybe make new ones? Social interaction will definitely make you feel better, and who knows, maybe you will even get to meet the perfect person for you.

Answer 4

Get a life plan. Decide you are going to achieve something and go after it. Put relationships second to that plan - the best relationships are borne of not trying to get them. But achievements need effort.

You are a guy - it doesn't matter if you don't settle down with a woman til your 40s or 50s. Keep yourself fit, and go after something that can take all your passion, and stop worrying about whether you have a partner - that will just consume you.

You are lucky to live in an age where men and women are not expected to be married with 3 kids by the time they are 30. The pressure's off mate, and you should use your passion for achieving something special. The rest will fall into place.

Answer 5

Dear, you are too young to make a judgement like that. This is the charm of life. You get hopeless and are about to give up and a chirping sparrow on your window on a fine morning cheers you up. It is not your fault. You are certainly bright, only the girls you met were cheap. You can safely wait more ten years for the right person. Though you dont have to. Go to the gym every evening after work. See your mom and dad (if possible) at weekends. It will help. I know. I went through this. I still am but i never give up. There is always a new morning if you live. So live !! Have pity for the loosers.

Answer 6

Life only gets better if you make it, and you definitely can make it better. I was in a similar boat...approaching 30, failed relationships, lonely....and I realized that every choice I've made is mine, meaning that you have control over your life, and even if the gf turned out to be bad, it was you who chose her over the other girls who may have been nice.

It's time now to look at the patterns in your life, esp. with relationships...do you often pick the same types of women? why? what is attractive to you about the dishonest types? what is it about you that makes you go for these types - are you afraid of finding the right one, and therefore committing? are you more attracted to danger than security?

At 27 there are a million women out there who are saying, 'where are all the good guys?' Once you take control of your life and your decisions you will see that you have the power to do better. This will build your confidence and also, you will have a better idea of what you want. Remember, sometimes we figure out what we want after experiencing what we know we DON'T want. Use your previous disappointments to discover success going forward.

good luck!

Answer 7

Things will get better. Life changes and you can change it yourself. Get a roommate or a dog, join a group of some kind. If you can get a big dog you can go for long walks, play fetch have someone waiting at home for you that is really happy to see you. A little pocket sized dog you can carry and women will want to pet him and you can dress him up and put bows in his hair.
Someday you will meet the right person and maybe start a family. At 37 you may find yourself with a wife and 2 kids living in a house with two dogs and a lawn mower.

Answer 8

Well, I´ve 27. Sometimes I don´t understand the life, I´m single and I feel really peacefully and with freedom. All the life I´ve been alone, and makes me feel boring when I´ve more than 2 month with someone. Perhaps I have not find my "half apple". With a lot of friends will make you feel better. So be just patient and when u forgotten all the life will give u one surprise. I hope so, the best for u! One friend.

Answer 9

Life very much has it ups and downs and god don't I know about it I have been through so many.
Whenever it all feels too much and I'm feeling sick because my hangover has got the better of me I like to think of the quote "life is a stage and we are merely players". I am the writer of that play and I can make it go in any direction, it often goes the way in a bridget jones style.
Dont give up hope, there is always someone, somewhere waiting for us to do something. x

Answer 10

That was ME last year. I even went to church last Christmas Eve by myself and sat there like a little old lady...and thought...I'll always be alone and I wondered what in the world I did to deserve that kind of loneliness. Then, I learned the word "surrender" and did just that....sent up my prayer for love and happiness and surrendered it completely. I no longer had control over it at all. It either would or would not happen. I was ready for either way...knowing that I had done everything I could. In January, he kissed me for the first time, in April...he asked me to marry him, in September we had a beautiful beach wedding, and this past Christmas Eve, I told him (and everyone) that I believed in answered prayers.

Cool huh?

Yes, it does get better. Just 'surrender' and keep smiling.

Answer 11

Hi

most people have been in the same position as you at some point in their lives - its not a nice feeling but it does happen.

please remember that not every lady in this world - would treat you this way - and that one day you will find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

life will get better, but you need to do some more things that you enjoy to lift your spirits - eg exercise is fab (i like to cycle - and i weigh 17 stone, so im no fitness guru) exercise helps releve stress and pumps around the feel good hormones.

if you lonly at night, why not do an evening course in something you enjoy - you never know who you may meet.

all the best