Say you were dating someone and it just didn't work out...you know you'll never be right for eachother as boyfriend/girlfriend. You are both very busy and don't really have time right now to start dating again but you still have "needs". You still have a lot of physical chemistry with this person so you want to be "Friends With Benefits"...what are the ground rules? Should we wait a little while after the dating phase to begin the fwb phase or just jump right in? What are some do's and dont's...lol. Thanks!
2007-12-30 04:38:52 · 12 answers · asked by Shera 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just jump in, but before u even mention anything about FWB, say whatever happens, u must both remain as friends whatever the outcome of the conversation, get him to agree, if he doesn't agree, don't even mention the issue,
then say why ur doing it, i.e. ur not ready, etc etc
and the most important rule of whichever relationship ur in (fwb/committed) is respect
even if he is just a fwb, don't get off with another person in front of him, its just rude, make separate arrangements
2007-12-30 04:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm FWB with my ex. Same situation, really. We're excellent friends, not really on the same 'relationship' level but we "play" well together. lol. We started right away. It was kind of like, "I don't think the relationship is right, we work better as friends.... but I love sleeping with you. Let's just do that!" and it's been like that for about 2 months now.
Our ground rules:
1. ALWAYS use protection
2. If you hook up with someone else, no need to mention it unless the other person asks (but we are VERY close friends and tell each other pretty much everything anyway)
3. When one of us starts dating again, we stop sleeping together.
That's pretty much it. Again, he is one of my best friends and we would still see each other on a regular basis even if we weren't sleeping together so it's not ALL about sex for us. Just keep in mind that he is NOT your boyfriend. Thus, he is allowed to look at, flirt with, kiss and have sex with other girls. Hope it works out well for you because it's tons of fun!
2007-12-30 04:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kat* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most "friends with benefits" are never successful especially ones who already have a past together. But if you have to do it than make sure neither one of you still has any feelings for each other, don't do any couple things like going to dinnners or movies or anything just the two of you and make sure he leaves right after everything is over. NO spending the night or making breakfast or any of that. It's too relationship like. And you need to be clear on when it ends and all that. It can really be a big mess and most of the time the "needs" aren't worth it
2007-12-30 04:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FWB I had one of those for 10 years. Its not an easy thing to do. Your feelings still get all mixed up with it. I mean he would come to my house in the middle of the night we would do our thing then he would leave. Sometimes it happened once every couple of months (we were both married) sometimes it would happen every week. You do need to set serious ground rules. Just make sure that you both agree when one says its over its over. If one of you say you dont want to do it when you had already planned to then its ok.
FWB is such a touchy thing if it is with someone you had a relationship with. Many people do it and make it work.
2007-12-30 04:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Makingitwork 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ground rules might include: No demands on the other person's time outside of the agreed arrangements, agreements on how/when to meet, how a person will end their side of the arrangement, whether other sexual relationships are disclosed.
BTW I haven't been in this arrangement, I think it's totally unrealistic and resembles a concubine situation rather than a friendship.
2007-12-30 04:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sex with no strings. No commitment, emotionally or otherwise.
This might be a tough one to pull off since you two have a 'past'.
Good Luck.
2007-12-30 04:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by beut_els_guese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REAL friends don't need rules...
2015-12-30 13:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever rules you set are the rules.
2007-12-30 04:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
fulfill your needs just make sure he leaves right after.
2007-12-30 04:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Anna ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It jsut means a friend who can hook you up with a guy
2007-12-30 04:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋