Last night I found out that my boyfriend had his law license suspended for a year in a state where he previously lived. He was going through a divorce and lied about his gambling problem under oath (for which he has since received treatment.)
He and I have been dating for nine months, living together for that last two, and he has not told me about any of this. I found out by goofing off and googling his name.
I love this man deeply, but I no longer trust him. I'm not sure what to do. I have been paying the bills myself for two months while he looks for employment.
I need some substantial advice from my Yahoo family.
2007-12-30 04:26:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He lied under oath to try and save his but,but has he lied to you? Did you ask him about any of this prior to finding it out on your own? If not, then I say, he did not withhold any thing from you. If on the other hand, you did ask of him any of this information, and he lied, then he was in fact a bad boy and needs to be chastised. If you love him , then maybe you will get passed this.
2007-12-30 04:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by mtchndjnmtch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's stuff you don't need to know, like how often someone clips their nails.
And there's stuff you need to know. Like this. Some truths can be omitted as long as they're not covered up with a lie, if something is not necessary to know.
But if you can't trust him, how can you be with him? Have you talked to him about this? Has he tried to cover the whole situation up? If he comes clean and doesn't give you any excuses for not mentioning what he did, then there is a second chance. But if he beats around the bush and gives you crap excuses, you don't deserve being with him and not knowing if you're getting the whole truth.
I wish you the best.
2007-12-30 04:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by Felicia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't want to tell you, it is his decision but now that you know it, he should be totally honest with you.
Sit down & have a serious talk with him about this & if you can no longer trust him, then you have to say so too. Then you can both either decide to make up in the relationship or else choose to leave.
Let things come as they come but first make this talk. It is very important now.
2007-12-30 04:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't provoke him. Just confront him in as non-sudden a way as possible.
Then you've got to figure out if you love this guy deeply enough to forgive it.
Don't go around behind his back and call the Ex or anything. This is just between you and him and the guys at Pepco.
2007-12-30 04:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by lookmira 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omitting the truth is exactly the same as lying. Honesty and trust are extremely important in a relationship. Have you talked to him about why he didn't tell you?
2007-12-30 04:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen carefully. was it the WHOLE truth?Ex: imagine if someone gave you a half of a cake and called it a cake. but its not really a "cake" because peices are missing. therefore, if there are peices of the truth missing. it is not the WHOLE truth. that is lying. sorry to say this, but your boyfreind is not to be trusted. you could get couseling, but thats up to you.
i hope i helped and have a happy new year!
2007-12-30 04:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any attempt to distort or omit the truth is a lie. Time to move, unless you can handle being with a liar.
2007-12-30 04:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i want you to be happy, but i don,t want you to get
burned. my main fear, there could be a lot of
other things about him he has not told you about.
also, you have been paying the bills for two months
when he is looking for a job? i would think
an attorney could find a job rather easily. i only mean
to help you, but i would be extremely leary of him.
good luck and Gob Bless.
2007-12-30 04:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this case it's lying. And this is serious stuff that he's kept from you. He had plenty time to be honest, I hope you make a wise decision.
2007-12-30 04:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by JazzyG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋