Heyy. Okay I have this major problem.
I'm 13, and my parish priest recently reprimanded
me in front of all my friends and called my parents
and got me in trouble (I won't go into the details
explaining what I did) but now that he did that,
I have alot of animosity towards him!
I feel so bad about it, but I really hate him now!
Every time I see him, I get mad and think he's a jerk,
and when he preaches, I can't help but think
"Shut up, you fat a.sshole! No one cares!"
I know it's so wrong, and I feel horrible about it!
I really try not to be angry at him, but I just find
myself hating him ALOT. It's unfortunate because
I'm pretty religious, but when I go to church I can't
focus I just hate him sooo much.
Can anyone help me not be angry at him anymore??
Thanks!
2007-12-30 04:18:08 · 51 answers · asked by allisonnnn :] 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Okay, since you guys seem curious, here's what I did to make him angry:
My guy friend and I were talking (about school) but it was during a pretty serious moment, we were supposed to be quiet. I felt bad for talking, and regret what I did. However, I just don't feel that he handled it properly in yelling at me in front of everyone.
2007-12-30 04:33:52 · update #1
You can hate what he did.
If what you did was "wrong" then perhaps you should blame yourself.
Don't know the situation though. Good luck.
OUT
2007-12-30 04:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by Peter 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Direct your anger at the right person...YOU. While I don't know the circumstances surrounding what YOU did to bring all this on, the point is that YOU did do something that required a responsible adult to speak out. Anyone would be embarrassed to have his/her mistake pointed out in front of others. But I have learned from being a parent and a teacher that young people sometimes do not see or fully grasp the end results of what they say and do. Lots of adults have the same problem! Remember: your priest spoke out in your defense. Yes, he is obligated to defend you against some chance that you may be harmed emotionally or physically. You were embarrassed. I really believe you felt ashamed then and even more now or you would not have written this letter as you did. Forgive yourself, forgive your priest and know that by doing so you are growing in maturity as a young woman. Good luck and God bless you.
2007-12-30 04:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Alain 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, when I was in catholic church, I eventually started to dislike my priest. I don't hate him, I just don't like him. So I left the church and became a christian. But, it's all in how you deal with the situation that made you hate him. Was he helping you to not do wrong? Was he trying to embarrass you in front everyone? Was he laughing when he did this? or maybe he was concerned and just using you as a example for the other younger people in the congregation. There are a lot of reasons he probably did it. Why don't you just ask him and see for yourself if you have a valid reason to hate this person.
2007-12-30 04:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by lariutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to consider whether or not you deserved to get in trouble. If you did deserve it, then you need to work past it. Remember that anyone would have gotten in trouble for doing what you did, not just you. If you didn't deserve it, then that is more of a reason to be upset. However, you still have to work past it. Try your best to forgive your priest. Because of how much you dislike him, it may take awhile. Remember that the ability to forgive people is very important, but it is something that you need to learn how to do. This whole experience could be teaching you that or another life lesson. Whatever you do, don't let a problem at church interrupt your faith or beliefs. I hope that helps.
2007-12-30 04:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by hi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer not knowing why you got in trouble. but it sounds pretty serious!!! You need to make a appointment with him or another priest in the parish and talk this out!!!! It will only get worse if you don't get it out!!! No one likes to be reprimanded in front of others!!! But it sounds to me like what you did was serious!!!
2007-12-30 04:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by MiMi Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you angry because you got caught doing something you weren't supposed be doing? It's not your priest you should be angry at, but yourself. Just learn from your mistakes, don't make such a big deal out of it. He was obviously only looking out for you. And if you are so religious, you wouldn't be thinking such terrible thoughts like that. Forgive him and learn from the experience.
2007-12-30 04:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by flyinghigh26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he did was wrong, but what you have to remember is that he is just a priest, he is human and makes mistakes. I think sometimes we think that our priests should be above petty behavior, but I can tell you they are just like us. God is who is above all and when you go to church just know that God is the one that you came there to be with, not your priest. Whatever you did, talk to God about. Its not easy when you lose respect for your priest. He should be as close to God that you can get right here on earth but sometimes priests fail us. Try to talk to your parents or someone close to you that you can trust. Please dont give up on church because of the mistake of this priest, and remember that God forgives us and it is better for you to forgive this priest instead of holding on to your anger. The anger will only hurt you and not him.
2007-12-30 04:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Marly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is a priest doesn't mean that he is a good person.
Personally it seems very hypocritical to me for someone to claim to follow jesus and then humiliate a thirteen year old in front of her friends.
Don't feel bad about disliking him, but try not to hate. Don't focus on how angry he makes you feel, just avoid confrontation with him.
2007-12-30 04:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by Electron Blue 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I dont know the details of what he said, but if it's really an issue, go to a different parish for awhile.
2007-12-30 04:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by chriswilliamg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Priests and nuns are there to keep disipline. In my catholic school we have a nun as the principal, and she hates my class. I used to hate her, but now that I think about it I really can't. My aunt is a nun and she is so kind to us, but in school she is pretty strict. I suppose my principal has family, too, and that she just needs to keep order in school. Priests are the same
2008-01-02 12:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by Peter Anzewoff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one's old school psychology:
You're really mad at yourself because you let the priest down by doing something you knew was wrong.
You need to get off yourself and admit you were in the wrong and have a moment with the priest and apologize for your behavior.
You'll be so much happier for it it'll be scary.
2007-12-30 04:22:06 · answer #11 · answered by J D 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋