Where does it mention in the Bible that God says pre-marital sex is a grave sin for both men and women?

Question

Hi there,
I'm a Christian and have been trying to stay chaste since deciding at about age 19. Anyway, as I'm nearing my 30s, it's getting tougher (again) to resist. I hear stories of other supposed Christians who seemed quite devout but have pre-marital sex. Society, ofcourse, fully accepts it and even says that its quite unhealthy not to have sex. I got my own parents being upset/disappointed and my dad thinks there's something wrong with me. And some of the girls I've been with also get disappointed when I refuse sex with them in bed.
Anyway, the topic hasn't come up in my church lately and like many things...sometimes I forget the exact things I do something. So, just wondering, where again in the Bible does God say it's a grave sin to have sex. I normally recall passages in the new testament where fornication or sexual impurity is wrong. But that's 1 of the disciplines saying it. If it was such a serious sin, why didn't we just got a straight rule on it, eg.10 commandments?

Answer 1

The bible is unspecific on what constitutes the act of being married. The ceremonys we practice today are not even mentioned. So then the question becomes who is married and how does God look at marraige as opposed to mans version? In order to be in fornication one must necessarily not be married.

Word History: The word fornication had a lowly beginning suitable to what has long been the low moral status of the act to which it refers. The Latin word fornix, from which fornicātiō, the ancestor of fornication, is derived, meant "a vault, an arch." The term also referred to a vaulted cellar or similar place where prostitutes plied their trade. This sense of fornix in Late Latin yielded the verb fornicārī, "to commit fornication," from which is derived fornicātiō, "whoredom, fornication." Our word is first recorded in Middle English about 1303.

The meaning implies that the two people involved have no commitment to each other as prostitution involves.

Scripture holds that the very act of intercourse joins a man to a woman not the ceremony.
1Co:6:16: What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
1Co:6:17: But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
1Co:6:18: Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

Verse 16 is very clear. Therefore every woman a man has uncommited sex with becomes his wife in God's eyes.

Answer 2

Sin is sin in the eyes of God, Big or little sin matters not to God. Sex outside of marriage is a sin called fornication, Unrepentant fornicators are to have no part of the Kingdom.You are pushing 30 years old, Find one Good Christian women and make her your one love for the rest of your life.

Answer 3

Is God against premarital sex?

Chances are, if you're asking "Is God against premarital sex?" you're either looking for an excuse to engage in premarital sex or you are hoping for a reason to NOT feel guilty because you already have.

The good news is: You CARE what God thinks. Even better news is: He cares what you do.

Is God against premarital sex? In the Bible, premarital sex is lumped in with other "fornication" or "sexual immorality." The short answer is: God is very much against it.

It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality (1 Thessalonians 4:3).

The Apostle Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians that we, as Christians, have invited Jesus Christ to live inside us. So any sexual sin we commit also stains our great Savior who, through the Holy Spirit, wants only to unite us with God.

The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body (1 Corinthians 6:13).

"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body" (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).

In addition to breaking our fellowship with God, there are plenty of common-sense reasons to avoid premarital sex. It can result in guilt and shame, AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases, and unwanted pregnancies which may then tempt us to consider abortion.

What about those who say premarital sex is OK because God gave us our appetite for sex and therefore it must be good?

We should remember that God gave us all sorts of appetites, but our sinful nature makes it possible for us to turn even the best of appetites into gluttony.

The theologian C.S. Lewis made this point by looking at our society's obsession with nudity as evidenced by "strip-tease" clubs. "Suppose you came to a country where you could fill a theatre by simply bringing a covered plate onto the stage and then slowly lifting the cover so as to let everyone see, just before the lights went out, that it contained a mutton chop or a bit of bacon. Should you not think that in that country, something had gone wrong with the appetite for food?" Lewis wrote in the book Mere Christianity.

Or look at how strange it would be if we pursued food the way some of us pursue promiscuous sex. We would purchase a steak or a succulent lobster, admire it, cut off one juicy bite, chew it up, then spit it out, and toss the rest in the trash. Then we would order something new and different to taste.

We would be silly to forget that food has something far more valuable to offer than the flavor. It offers nutrition - without which we would die.

The commitment of marriage is what adds the nutritional value to otherwise frivolous relationships. It offers each partner opportunities for refinement and sanctification as they work through the problems that they would simply flee in an uncommitted pairing.

We should also remember that when we resist the temptation to engage in premarital sex or other sexual immorality, we are storing up favor with God, as we see in James 1:2-3:

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance."

Answer 4

It is a straight rule that stems Directly from the Ten Commandments: Thou Shall not Commit Adultery.

Answer 5

Actually, it is one of the 10 commandments. Thou shall not commit adultary. According to the Bible, adultary is sex with anyone that is not your spouse. But..the New Testament good news is that your sins can be forgiven through Jesus. Don't beat yourself up about whether to have sex or not. Follow what you're heart is telling you, no matter what anyone else is telling you. You'll be okay whatever your decision is.

Answer 6

..... Did YOU... miss ... OBEYING.....JESUS and His Word.... Luke 6:46 and James 1:22.....!

AND.....

(1Corinthians 6:18) Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits fornication sins against his own body.

AND....

(2Timothy 2:22) But flee youthful lusts, and follow righteousness, faith, love, peace, with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Thanks, RR

Answer 7

Re-read the section concerning adultery, if carefully read, it talks about the not being married and having sex being a sin as well as sex with someone other than husband/wife.

Answer 8

Here you go:
http://www.layhands.com/IsPremaritalSexASin.htm

I think you should read this:

"Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication [porneia], let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." (1 Corinthians 7:1-2, KJV)

Fornication is voluntary sexual intercourse between a man and woman who are not married to each other.

As for the parents,ignore them.Make your treasures in heaven not here.

"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal."

I know it must be hard to reamain chaste.(im only 13 lol) But don't forget you will reap what you sow.

Bless you

Answer 9

In Bible times, god killed fornicators; but he didn't kill chicken thieves.

If the sin was bad enough for the death penalty, think about it.

Then again, perhaps there is no god.

But if not, who was killing the fornicators?

Answer 10

Read Leviticus 18 - whole chapter - and you'll see a noticeable absence of any mention of premarital sex between two adult, unrelated heterosexuals.