My boyfriend fell asleep while we were on the phone last night, so I got off the phone with him. I wake up this morning and check my myspace and see a gazillion messages from him saying how pissed he was because OVER 2 months ago I sent a friend of mine a comment saying I had met a guy where I worked that looked like him in a way, but my friend was cuter. Then another time I had said his picture was cute. My boyfriend is freaking and saying how unloyal I am for lying about it, but i never lied about it. Or even mentioned it for that matter! He said there's no telling what I've done that he doesnt know about. Basically saying that I've probably cheated and he doesnt know. My opinion on unloyalty is cheating, ACTUALLY lying and being dishonest. No i dont like this guy I left a comment to.. he was just a friend of mine from highschool. Am I wrong? if not, what should I say to him to make him shut up about me being "unloyal"
2007-12-30 04:03:13 · 14 answers · asked by Ashley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, isnt it kind of funny that he fell asleep on the phone last night... "supposely" but was awake enough to go thru my myspace?
2007-12-30 04:04:00 · update #1
No, it wasn't disloyal. He sounds very immature. Time to move on.
2007-12-30 04:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ellen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are going to look and comment on girls ,woman the same they are going to comment men that does not mean you are unloyal,as long it was a glance not gawking,and lusting in your heart to go to another level with that person,and if he cant except you haveing male friends then their is no trust and you do not have a relationship in the first place and he does not own you you are not married,maybe God has something better for you God bless Lisa
2007-12-30 20:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by God Child 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is more about security.
Apparently he feels insecure with these actions. There are things that you can do to build your relationship with him and there are things that you can do to make it fall apart. The questions is, what things do you want to do?
Also, there is a point at which he needs to be scrure in himself- this must come from him and can, and will, never come from you. Be kind, this is a matter of maturity. people must grow into this security.
Maturity is how we treat ourselves and others. Do you think it is more importent to defend your actions, or to work out the hurt feelings? Love is not control, but it is respect.
2007-12-30 12:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ogou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how he feels because I was in that exact situation. If I had never checked my boyfriend's emails, I would have never known he was talking to another girl OVER THE SUMMER while he was talking to me. Basically, he really didn't like the other girl but he liked me, that is why he is with me right now. But it hurts to know that while he was getting to know me, he was getting to know some other chick. That's his right but I can't really trust him the same way. Now I'm thinking that he's talking to another girl but maybe it's just my insecurities. I have nothing to be insecure about but still! All you have to do is show him how much you care about him. Show him that you love him. Tell him over and over there is nothing going on between you and your friend! Don't worry, he'll get over it. Like I did.
2007-12-30 12:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by ٩(̾●̮̮̃̾•̃̾)۶ Gatorade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trippin. This should be a big red flag for you. He sounds like the controlling type. Always wanting to know everything, but not realizing that what he doesn't know won't hurt him. Very insecure. You didn't do anything wrong. Also kinda sounds like a guilty conscience maybe on his part if he's not a controlling type of man.
2007-12-30 12:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally when your spouse is flipping out and accusing you of cheating, they're the ones doing all the dirt. He wants to make you feel bad about a stupid comment, he wants you to admit to something so innocent. Turn the tables on him. Ask him why is he being so insecure.
2007-12-30 12:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your conversation on the phone must have been rivverting
your not in the wrong tell him to get a life or better still find a real man some one who trusts you and does not need to poke around on what you are saying to your friend
2007-12-30 12:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by mcw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends what you said to the other guys. if it normal chat, then you are in the right. tell him to trust you more and you want only him. if you are flirting then it pushes the boundary a little. the only thing you can do is make an agreement to keep you both happy. if your 'spreading the love', you have made your own bed.
2007-12-30 12:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him why he is spying on you? If he is up to something?
He might have just been burned in the past,
just tell him you aren't like that, and have an open and honest conversation with him about it, if you can't do that you two should be together anyway.
2007-12-30 12:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very insecure and nosy, why is he looking thru your Myspace? I would advise you to find someone that doesn't have issues.
2007-12-30 12:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by fwatkins6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your werent going out at that time, then who cares? Hes needy and self-centered. Dump him. He's jsut wanting to hear you apologize for his stupidity.
2007-12-30 12:10:58 · answer #11 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋