I know this is a really weird question, but growing up, none of my aunts or my mom called their husbands by their name, they always referred to them as "suno" or "sunye" lol (which is translated to "listen" in English.) Is this a cultural thing, or is it bad for a wife to call her husband by his name?
By the way, I am Pakistani.
2007-12-30 03:53:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
I'm a Waste like You: This Ramada section is our secret hideout where we ask Islamic questions lol.
2007-12-30 04:03:03 · update #1
no, I don't LIVE in Pakistan, I am of Pakistani descent, my parents are from there.
2007-12-30 04:15:49 · update #2
Defiantly cultural (",)
Lol my mum and dad call each other by, Buddha, budiyeh (which means old) he,he (",)
2007-12-30 04:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
My parents call each other by there names. My family members would hate if they were being called by suno or sunye.(sorry.) It's just a thing about culture and the way they were raised, in a good way.
2007-12-30 07:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by sillybubbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is interesting you ask. I have a dear friend who is of Indian heritage, raised in UK and now living in USA with her husband and two kids. She would always say 'listen' to her husband when trying to get his attention (at least she did so when I was around). For example he and my husband would be sitting in one room and if we we're going to eat she would call to him to come to the door to take the servings for the men and she would say, "Listen....". I asked her about this and she said it was a cultural respect thing to not say his name in front of others.
I personally don't get that but I don't have a problem with it either.
By the way if it matters my friend is what in England you all call an alima and her husband alim.
So I also did a little checking at that time (sorry I can't find the references right now) and it is not part of Islam to not use your husbands name. There is nothing wrong with using his name whether people are around or not.
Salam
2007-12-30 04:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by ~~∞§arah T∞©~~ 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
She's hanging around too much and is definitely still in love with him. Before it went too far, your husband should have had a serious talk with her and gotten tough. I don't feel that it's a good idea to be friends with anyone's ex. It always seems to start trouble. You can stop going places with her, and by all means, stop inviting her to go places with you. I don't know how she'll react, but other than visitation rights with his kids, there shouldn't be any socializing. She shouldn't even be at the home you share with him. I hope I've helped.
2016-04-02 02:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course yes. There is nothing in Islam that prohibits a wife from calling her husband by his name!
The practice of using some title to call the husband is a cultural thing and I think it is not right at all.
2007-12-30 05:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by Abu Ahmad 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its a cultural thing. and i would like to add : Islam is god-given, culture is man-made. and pakistani culture (bieng also of paki descent) makes the women feel like they should be ashamed of having to talk to thier husbands in public
2007-12-30 06:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
More cultural and out of respect for the husband. I call my husband by his name - I think times are now changing and it is ok to call your husband by their name.
2007-12-30 06:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by bella 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe I never noticed that before. I'm Pakistani and my mom does the same thing to my dad. WOW. I think I'm going to ask them why.
2007-12-30 15:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by bored♥out♥of♥my♥mind 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my childhood I heard women calling their husbands words like "Listen!" and was told upon asking that they believe if they call them by their name, the wedlock would break.
It was also considered shameless for women to call their husbands by their names.
There is no religious reason as far as I know.
Javed Kaleem
2007-12-30 04:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As salamualaikum.
Yeah, it mostly like is a cultural thing.
I know what you're talking about...I'm Bengali, and anytime my mother wants to get my father's attention, she says "suncho" (which means listen) or she'll use a nickname like "shona" (it means sweet in Bangla). One of my aunts (I have MANY as it's natural in Desi families, lol) call my uncle jaan (it means heart or world when it's translated for this context).
2007-12-30 04:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Must be a cultural thing.....I always referred to my husband by his name, as has my mother and her mother before her.
2007-12-30 05:08:33 · answer #11 · answered by Kim K 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋