Should I leave him or not?????

Question

I have an online bf and he lives in a different country. I am in my thirties and he in his early twenties. We have been talking everyday for over a year and i love him so much. I know he loves me also. I have been depressed lately because i feel like my clock is ticking and I want to be with him badly. He needs to finish college and then he says he is going to military. So, it will be years before we can be together. I feel like i will be too old, should i let him go?? He is sensitive and I know it will break his heart and I know mine will break if I do this but i been thinking it's for the best. I want him also to experience more things in life because he is young. Ugh!! I love him!:( But time is passing by.

Answer 1

well i think you really should because it will justcause more pain on you and him for not to see each other and like you said he needs to expierence other things in life and if he goes into the military then you wont be able to see him much if at all but its your decision! hope i helped have a great Newyear!

Answer 2

Would U Really Wanna Throw Away True Love Because Of Age?

U May B Older But U Still Have Years Ahead Of U..Try Talking To Him About It Mayb Not Going Into The Millitary For A While And Settling Down With You? And Just Seeing What Happens :)

And It Sounds To Me He Is Experiencing More Things..Just Not With You..Ask How He Feels Hav A Talk About It C If You Can Work Anything Out :)

If Not Then The Decisions Up To U...Throw Away A Life Time Of HappyNess Because Of Age...Or Keep On Going And Take The Chance Of Your Future..:)

Good Luck x

Answer 3

You did not mention if you have ever met, so I am assuming you have not. It is impossible to really know if you love someone without ever having personal contact. In most cases when you do meet there is a completely different feeling. It is often harder to connect to the real person than it was when talking via a computer. Physical chemistry is part of any relaltionship, and you don't know if there would be any. It is easy to get involved in these relationships when you are lonely. Someone is always there when you need to talk, and you have to make very little effort ...all you do it talk.
I don't wonder that you are depressed, this cannot end happily and you are beginning to see that. He has a long road ahead of him just to be in a position to make committments. In the meantime, you may miss out on meeting a great guy if you stay at home on the computer.
It may sound cold, but just tell him it is over, and both of you must move on. Cut off ties, block emails and IM's. Yes it is going to hurt but if you get out and connect to friends you can put this behind you.

Answer 4

wow that's a hard decision. well if you really think it's not gonna work out, then you might wanna let him go. besides, he's going to the military and being there can really change a person, even if they don't go to war. I'd just talk to him and tell him your feelings (he shouldn't mind at all since he really loves you) and then tell him that you can still be friends and you can keep in cantact with each other even if he is in the military. (like write to him or e-mail him) and then if you do that there might be a chance to continue the relationship after he gets out. well good luck hope everything goes well!

Answer 5

Well, it's not healthy to just talk on the internet and we shouldn't be deciding this for you because it's up to you and your heart. and he might be 10 years younger and it's nice for you to want him to do better things in life so my answer is Yes, you should leave. You can try to break up in person or phone because writing to him on the internet would be a little harsh. But just see if you still want to stay with him.

Answer 6

To be completely honest with you, the only reason a guy in another country would have a relationship with an older woman is if he's trying to come to the united states and getting some easy green card and legal papers. Move on, he's messing with your head, you're an easy passport for him.

Answer 7

it's a tough thing to do. I feel sorry for you. I know that you love him so much but if you started talking to another guy your age you might get feelings for him. Thats the problem with Internet dating to be honest :(
If you start to get to know someone else, make sure that he's is not too young or old! haha. Its so much better to get to know someone not over the internet.
The question is, can you wait that long? if you can then go for it! You sound like such a nice, caring person! he is so lucky to have someone who cares about him that much!

Answer 8

I say leave him. The fact that you are only on-line Boyfriend give pause. This young man is looking for a career while you are looking for a more intimate relationship. Find a tangible person that you truly know. On-line dating exclusive is equivalent to dating someones alter ego. Move on.

Answer 9

Did you not say that it's an online relationship with a guy who lives in a different country?

Perhaps you can explain to him about you wanting to settle down and starting a family. If he cannot see it from your perspective, then you need to rethink the relationship.

But to be honest with you, if you don't want motherhood to pass you by, you might want to cut your loses now.

Answer 10

Isn't the real question - Tell me why I shouldn't leave him?
You know you need to end this or you wouldn't ask this question.
He's still in college, going in the military and then who would move to who's country?
If you want children, or more children, then you need to move on and find someone who lives withing dating distance.