really need help and advice in my relationship!!!?

Question

I have been wth my bf for neary 3 an a half years, an are relationship is good, but there is something missing that i need ur advice on.
He has had gf's before me but the relationships have never been as special as ours , an i know that.
his past relationships have always gone wrong after sex.
Him an I have not had sex yet, but we both do, but he is unshure, as he is sceard that are relationship is gonna change an get messed up like the past ones. This is maybe somethink he has 2 overcome. But what i struggle with is..the other gf's had him in that way, and i have'nt yet.. but they never really had his heart the way i do.
He said its nice 2b in a relationship where he can feel this way without puting sex 1st...
Do u think i have somethink 2 worry about????

The reason for this is because he got one gf pregnent, she aborted it.

Answer 1

R the 2 of you both ready to have sex? Then I say go for it, if your relationship takes a U Turn then it probably would have anyway. Just b/c the other relationships he's had were a disaster doesn't necessarily mean this will b/c you two might have a special or stronger bond than the other girls. If you think sex is the reason the past relationships fell then try talking about all the things that happened after sex that mad it go wrong and try doing the opposite.

Answer 2

Yes, you should definitely be worried. (I am assuming that he does not have physical problems that prevent intimacy - impotence??)

I don't know your age, but if you have any hope for a future with this man that involves romance/marriage you just aren't going to get it. Sex is a way that men form a bond and feeling of committment to a woman. He either doesn't want to become attached or has no interest in you sexually. He may even be seeing someone else for sex. I don't see any way that a man can continue an involvment with a woman he loves and not want to consumate it, I don't see how you have tolerated it either.
I recently went through something similar, it lasted a year. He wanted to be only friends, and each time he slipped and cared too much and demonstrated any physical intimacy, there was a backlash. He had serious committment issues, and insisted sex was no longer important. I felt rejected, unattractive, and eventually resentful.
I got out of an unfulfilling relationship with a very damaged man who had no desire to take a chance...you should to.

Answer 3

well, i don;t think that it's something that you really have to worry about. But i think after having sex, what's really different is what you feel about each other. it may turn kind of akward. But it'll be special too. If he is acting fidgety or different after having sex, give him time. Don't break up with him right away. Calm him down and soothe him.

Answer 4

well i think u should get to know why the relationships went bad after sex.