a few times. no sex. he's really friendly and nice and everything when he wants it. then he's like bipolar after he's done. says things like "its so late"(which it usually is) "i have to go now" and just takes off and doesn't want me near him "because he just came" and he's "tired."
i know this sounds obvious that he's using me, but i dont really feel that he is.
can someone please explain what he is doing??
2007-12-30 02:49:49 · 22 answers · asked by waterlilystars 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sophie nooo you're supposed to make me feel better!!! jk, i know you're right :(
2007-12-30 02:52:45 · update #1
Just like you said -- He's USING YOU!!!!!!!
2007-12-30 02:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by SophieB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear you are experiencing this.
I will only tell my opinion, but many times us people fool ourselves.
I sincerely think that either he is there only for the sex, as otherwise he would be more intimate afterwards with you---which would require some emotional attachment.....
or.......
he has issues with emotional attachment alltogether that go beyond you.
If you knew about his past, you could establish a pattern.
I would personally feel unfulfilled with such a behaviour and would rather 'turn him' to just friends, until I get to know him better and see what the problem is and if I can get back with him under better circumstances.
2007-12-30 10:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Gigi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, u answered your own question. The boy is using you!! What could we possibly tell you that you already dont know? It must be that you want something more from yalls' relationship'. So, consider its okay for the two of you to have the relationship that you do. But no, its not, stop lowering your standards, you deserve better than that, and if he really cared for you , he would act as though he did. But he doesnt, let it go. Have respect for yourself, your more than that. but most of all demand respect from him.
2007-12-30 10:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by I DONT CARE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go through life knowing that all that men want is sex, you've got a good perspective until you find Mr. right.
2007-12-30 10:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a sec: He says: "I just came" and there's no sex? Either I misunderstood, or you need to redefine the word sex. Sorry, Hon...take your blinders off. He IS USING YOU!
2007-12-30 10:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by Baloneyus_Monk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious - he's using you - ask him if he's interested in a relationship with you and i bet the answer is no - lose the guy - you're worth far more than a hook-up - xoxo
2007-12-30 10:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Marisa's Mommy♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys usually need space but that sounds like too much space.
2007-12-30 10:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, if you keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results each time, you'll end up being dissapointed.
2007-12-30 10:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you.
2007-12-30 10:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no need to explain. it's obvious, isn't it?
you're just lying to yourself to make you feel better.
but seriously, no.
dont give him what he wants.
he's not gonna be the one to lose out. you'll be hurt.
i know how it feels. you dont feel that he's, because you're too attracted by him.
2007-12-30 11:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? He's obviously a jerk off. Go find a better guy to date!
2007-12-30 10:52:15 · answer #11 · answered by Jane Z. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋