Is it wrong for a man to give a 4 year old female a bath?

Question

I've been living with my girlfriend (and her daugher from a previous marriage) for a year. The little girl looks forward to me giving her a bath and I feel like its a way for us to bond. To me it seems perfectly normal and we are both totally comfortable with it. I shampoo her hair and scrub her body with soap....but a friend of my girlfriend (not exactly an ideal parent in my opinion) claims that its wrong for a male to give a 4 yr old female a bath. Any thoughts.......?

I don't actually get in the bath with her.

Its absolutely not a sexual thing for me! I noticed that was brought up in an answer. I just think the Girlfriend's friend is jealous and feels left out because were trying to start a family and she's not around as much anymore.

And I don't wash her genitals. I figured since she's soaking in the soapy bath water that that would clean her.

Answer 1

I dont see anything wrong with it. I would probably stop at around age 5, she will be in school by then and will begin to get shy about her body. If everyone is ok with you giving her a bath, then keep doing it. My fiance's daughter is 3 now, and she doesnt want daddy to see her naked... so I bathe her. Daddy helps her brush her teeth before the bath and that makes him feel involved. Make sure you're teaching her how to wash herself so that you can just be supervisor and not have to keep actually washing her.

Answer 2

I see no problem and if the mother and daughter has no problem than ignore the interfering friend. Not all men are pedophiles and I think a lot of women need to get that out of their heads. It is completely normal for a male parent to interact and take care of his child's hygiene. My uncles use to give us baths as well when I was a little girl, they seen nothing wrong with a loving attentive adult giving a bath to a little girl.

*edit* you are right, you do NOT have to use soaps or any other cleaners in a females genitals, they are self cleaning and adding anything to that self cleaning system kills off the healthy level of bacteria and creates an overgrowth of bacteria which leads to infections such as yeast. Many women need to learn this themselves.

Answer 3

If you're in the role of her step-father and she's still a baby, there's nothing wrong with it. As a child gets a bit older and starts becoming shy and private and begins to realize things about her body, etc... she should probably be bathed by her mom. She'll be starting school soon and is probably a bit beyond the "baby" stage now. I'm sure there are hundreds of other ways for you to "bond" where no one would think you're being inappropriate at all.

Answer 4

confident and so what, For goodness sake!!!!!!!!! She is 4, if she replaced into 8-10 then there may be a situation. i think of by utilising countless the solutions (no longer all) there are various peple with a real situation. then you definately say the adult males shouldn't exchange toddlers, using fact they could.............. properly what approximately you women are no longer off the hook, plenty have been convicted of particularly some quotes against toddlers. that's no longer getting at all of us, only putting issues into perspectve, i won't understand why human beings have certainly one of those postpone approximately nudity, is this an American element or what. In our living house, at it sluggish in the process the day there are (sorry to marvel you) bare toddlers working around the living house, or somebody interior the bathtub and somebody desires the rest room, we by no potential lock doors, why could desire to we? All our toddlers have been interior the bathtub with one human beings, at it sluggish or different, whats the difficulty, no longer something, we've the two replaced their nappies, bathed them, there is not any longer something we've not considered in the previous, nor them. they haven't any hangups approximately it. The intercourse of the baby has no longer something to do with it. you place the 8 twelve months previous into the equasion, we are no longer speaking approximately this, we are speaking some 4 twelve months previous. As a dad i could have 0 issues having my 4 twelve months previous daughter interior the bathtub with me (dont have one all boys) I assume i'll get thumbs down dont care, i think of (no longer being impolite) which you have the difficulty, and additionally you may desire to recover from it. very much shocked by utilising the question RR

Answer 5

Geez, some people label everyone a pervert dont they?? You are perfectly fine giving a bath to a four year old. My husband has given my daughter a bath since she was born and if you're a trusted adult with the child obviously you are, then who cares what the people say.

Answer 6

it is not wrong if you your girlfriend and the little girl are all comfortable with it.
she's four and she's big enough to bathe herself so all you need to do is supervise and make sure the area is safe to avoid accidents. she can start with a bubble bath and give her a washcloth so she can wipe/rub her body clean. you can still help with the shampooing and rinsing.
play some kids music and leave the door open.

Answer 7

I personally don't see anything wrong with it. However, in todays PC society, (along with the fact that where children are involved, you are guilty until proven innocent), I would be extreme reluctant to do this!..You do know that all that has to happen is for your gf's friend to call the authorities ,and you are going directly to jail. She needs no proof! Just the accusation will put you out the door and into a jail cell! Please be aware of the sick laws in society today!

Answer 8

I wouldn't say it's wrong unless you were like DYING to do it and found yourself upset when you couldn't give her a bath.....That would make me believe that it's a sexual thing for you........Otherwise, there is nothing wrong if you are just supervising her with the door open! It's all about what your girlfriend (her mom) is comfortable with.

Answer 9

It all depends on if you are a pedophile or a parent. Obviously, you are acting like a parent and it is ok to give your child a bath. i have a 3 year old girl and my boyfriend gives her baths. there's nothing wrong with it. i give you major props for being there when they need you!

Answer 10

Definately not wrong! I applaud you for doing it. Most guys (my b/f included) feel uncomfortable with bathing even thier own children (daughters). Besides, i'm sure that mommy enjoys having the help.