hen it comes to buy fancy gifts or anything in that nature.
2007-12-30 02:29:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
And if she loves you it won't matter.
2007-12-30 02:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by Duff Man 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Welcome to the rest of your life. This sounds like it's about you, not your gf. You can't give her the engagement ring that you think she deserves, but you won't be able to maintain the lifestyle, vacations, wardrobe, you name it, if she comes from a background of affluence. You can't begin your life together feeling guilty about not having as much money as she is used to. That guilt will become resentment over time. This is a big notice that you (alone) or you two together need to do some work before you tie the knot. You can both accept the situation, and look forward to bettering your lives TOGETHER, or you can let this gulf between you widen. It's all good news when you're planning a life together, and issues that need to be worked out just do. You'll have plenty of them over your married life, so accept this one as a great opportunity for communication and planning. BOL to both!
2007-12-30 02:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Caper 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she's more concerned about the ring than what it means. If you want to marry her, buy a ring that you think she would like or give her some different options in your price range. Or you can find one like the one she likes with a smaller stone and upgrade the stone later. If she rejects that then I would think twice about marrying her.
2016-05-28 01:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Lovely put it so....lovely! I'm sure she doesn't expect anything extravagant especially considering that you say she doesn't care about fancy gifts. Buy what you can afford, make sure it's something that she will like & something that fits her style & personality. As long as you put some thought into it, she will know you have given her your best & she'll love whatever ring you buy. Best wishes to you both!
2007-12-30 04:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her something that comes from the heart. If she really loves you, it won't matter how much the ring cost. If she turns down the ring because it's 'cheap' then she's shallow and not worth it. Find out her favourite stone and get her a ring with it on. Also, try television shopping channels - as tacky as it sounds, you can get gorgeous rings for really low prices.
2007-12-30 02:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Save up a little bit and get a nicer ring.
She might not care, but a cheaper ring might indicate that you can't take care of their daughter.
The family isn't trying to be mean or vile toward you. But, they raised their daughter in a very comfortable lifestyle. The last thing they want for their child is a lifetime for struggling just to get by. Parents want to see their child move up in the world, never down.
If you work hard to provide nice things, they will have more self assurance that you will be able to take care of their child.
If you seem to be lacking in that area, they may not view you favorable. You don't want to marry into a family that doesn't respect you. It's a hard thing to deal with.
2007-12-30 02:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by J'adore 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give her the best that you can afford. When my husband and I got engaged, he got me a ring worth less than $300. Our financial situation changed and on our 3rd year anniversary, he gave me a big diamond (don't want to say it how much) ring. I wore both of them (not at the same time) and when friends asked, I told them this one was an anniversary ring and this cheaper one was our real engagement ring. My husband and I have been married for almost 15 years now, but I still cherish the First ring he gave me. So there, hope this helps.
2007-12-30 02:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If she loves you, she will know that your relationship deserves a decent chance. Spending extra $$$'s on a ring that you can't afford isn't going to help the two of you start out life right. Don't be afraid to tell her the situation and the two of you can solve this together.... Good practice for marriage.
2007-12-30 02:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by UrbanFarmer 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Have more confidence in yourself. She will love whatever you give her. She has already told you she doesn't care. She knows your financial status and is still going to marry you. Give her a ring from your heart and she will love you no matter what. She sounds like a special woman. Cherish her. It doesn't matter what the price tag is, it matters if it came from the heart.
Happy New Year to both of you and may God Bless you with wisdom, strength, prosperity, and good Health in the coming years. Congratulations.
2007-12-30 02:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get her the best one you can afford. Who cares if her family gets snobby about it? The important part is if your gf likes it. It's her ring and her liking it is all that matters. Good luck! Oh and you can always upgrade later, like on your 5 year anniversary. Congrats!
2007-12-30 13:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a ring with a different stone. Sapphires are starting to become popular. If there's a certain color she likes, go for that. Or maybe her birthstone (or both your birthstones combined).
Or find a place having an estate jewelry sale. You get antique jewelry for a really good price.
If she wants to marry you, she'll love whatever you give her.
2007-12-30 04:21:24 · answer #11 · answered by Mee 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋