Alright, my mom does NOT trust me and my boyfriend. We've lost all trust to her. My mom is always being so horrible! I admit, I do hang out with my boyfriend a lot alot a lot and she always tells me that she would rather me be miserable than be with him, but it's not like he's a criminal! He's a great guy with straight A's. I need to make her realize it, but he's sort of shy. And everytime I come back rom his house, she complains that I spell like an ash tray because his parents smoke.. what can I do to make her happier and make her understand? I've told her how much I like him, but she just rolls her eyes.
2007-12-30 02:16:25 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are 14 and 15. And I am trying to understand my mom.. I'm not just going to give him up for my mom. I really like this guy and he seriously cares about me. This is the first really great guy I've met in a while. Her only reason is "He seems weird to me." SHE DOESN'T KNOW HIM! I'm not giving it up..
2007-12-30 02:28:33 · update #1
Oh! And for Christmas.. he bought me the most beautiful necklace I'd ever seen. And it was like $99.00
http://www.littmanjewelers.com/Products/Jewelry-FMJ/J_ShopByCategory-FMJ/J_SBC_Ladies-FMJ/J_SBC_L_PendantsNecklaces-FMJ/J_SBC_L_PN_Gemstone-FMJ/J_SBC_L_PN_Gem_Aquamarine-FMJ/855494.aspx
I showed it to her, smiling face and she says "Ooh.. That's really fragile... He spent way too much on you."
2007-12-30 02:31:25 · update #2
you could pretend that you changed your boyfriend and he is SOO formal and elegant and invite him for dinner but make him all dressed up and then make him speak with ALL the correct grammer and NO slang. She will get annoyed and relize she misses the old him. HALALUHYA! Or you could point out all the things that are bad in her but that may lead to more fighting...hope i helped!! You have a very big problem!
2007-12-30 02:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like ur mother has passed judgment on ur boyfriend before she really has gotten to know him ask her if she remembers when she was a teenager.
And u said something interesting here u said ur mother does not trust u or ur boyfriend now n why is that it did not just happen over night or the fact that ur boyfriend is shy something gave her this feeling n only u know what it is.
And u can't make her realize nothing Ok!if her mind is made up there is nothing that is going to change that do I sound like a parent to u,if I do it is because I am but my children r grown n married n my kids are men n not women a big difference n mind set when it comes to boys as oppose to girls that is just the way it is n has always been n one other thing how old r-u-that she feels this way n just rolls her eyes when u tell her how much u like this young man.
It is hard to say what u can do to make her happier maybe nothing at all except break off with ur new boyfriend which u-r- not going to do right n were is ur father in all of this,n as for u smelling like n ashtray because his parents smoke hey!u have no control over that so she has to get over that.
Listen if u no u-r- not doing anything wrong to bring this kind of response from ur mother n only u know ur mother n if her justification for not having trust in u is real than only u know why but if u have done nothing wrong than all I can tell u is move on u -r- not going to please her no matter how much u try but don't do anything stupid either to make the matter between u-n- ur mother worst OK!good luck.
2007-12-30 02:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Shadows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The smoking thing, is something to be worried about, I am a teen -- 16 -- and if I were your mother I wouldn't like you spending so much time in a home where smoking goes on, due the the high risk of lung cancer from second hand smoke. So that is one thing I can understand from her point.
The other things......................its just the usual mom, worried about her little girl getting grown up and having sex -- I'm not saying you are, but your mom is worried that you already have or are planning on doing it. -- To make her happier umm you could try talking to her about him and let her see what you see in him. Has he been over for dinner ? that is an option that gives you a chance to spend time with him and the two of them to get to know each other -- and if there is ackward scilence the food is always there lol -- Just be prepared to start a conversation on your own since he is shy and she doesn't like him.
2007-12-30 02:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The most important thing is having your own time, since you cant go just be supportive and sweet other wise if you nag him, most likely what your mom thinks you should do you may lose him. Looking never hurt anyone and if he's true to you he wont act and you have to remember like you said that's what is at a tattoo shop and those women are us to men coming in there and looking.
2016-05-28 01:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know you age, but I gather you are a teenager. You mother is just trying to protect you from making an irreversible mistake.
The best way for you to earn you mother's trust is to have your boyfriend spend time at your home with your mother, so that she can get to know him. Most guys/girls who have something to hide, avoid being around their girlfriend's/boyfriend's parents. Parents are smarter than most teens think, because parents have already played or been the victims of the games some teens/young adults play.
Trust me, your mother would like nothing more than to not have to worry about what you are being exposed to when you are with this guy. Tell him to show your mother that he has nothing to hide and that his intentions are honorable.
2007-12-30 02:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Survivor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All mothers are very protective of their own. You seem to have that type of mother who only wants the best life has to offer you. Going down the path of self destruction is very hard to see for yourself. There are times you need that third eye to set you straight. Listen to your mom with a open mind and see if your path is straight towards your happiness and well-being. Remember it takes a life-time to regret what you did for a moment!
Much Love!!
2007-12-30 02:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by ufillnme2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is trying to protect you from getting pregnant and ruining your young life. What you need to do is be more at home with your mom so she can see you and what you are doing. Then she is more likely to trust any man you date. Right now you are not home and her mind goes wild. Parents want there children to succeed so they worry a lot and have trust issues with their children. So have your bf over to watch tv or listen to music or eat dinner.
2007-12-30 02:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by logsdodl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through what you have 4 years back. for me, but for me, it was my dad instead. It takes a lot of time and patience. Do not go against your mum for any reasons, she loves you a lot and that is why she is being possessive over your well-being. As you grow older, she will start to understand you. Do hint to her once in a while of your relationship but do not end it in a quarrel, it will make things worse in the future.
2007-12-30 02:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mermaid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's you who's dating him, and soon enough your mom will realize what a great guy he is. Try getting him to make small talk with her and get at a one-on-one with your mom, telling her how much you'd appreciate it if she accepts your boyfriend, and you know that she wouldn't want you to be miserable. & spend some time around the house or around her just to show your life isn't always with the guy.
2007-12-30 02:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mother comes first, over boyfriends. Sit down with her and talk quietly with her. Tell her you love her and want to find a solution. Start spending more time with her and think of things the two of you can enjoy together, and also get some ideas from her. She is your mom and deserves more time with her daughter. If your boyfriend is mature enough, he'll understand.
2007-12-30 02:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋