okay im in love with this girl and she is in love with me. she has a boy though but she cheats on him all the time with me cause she tells me she wants me too. She still wants him though and tells me she cant let go of him because she has tried alot of times and always takes him back. They've been together for 2 years and i just started hanging with her 3 months ago. I always get hurt though because she still does sexual stuff with him and her mom doesnt want me to be around her anymore, so she is usually with him everyday and i only get to chill with her like two or 3 times a week but the boyfriend is always there so i cannot hold her or anything. Idk if i should let go and move on, because if i told her i found another girl she wouldnt even be my friend anymore. So idk what to do. I am in pretty deep and its a hard situation because i do get hurt alot. If you could give me some advice on how to make her mine or what i should do that would be most appreciated. Thanks
2007-12-30 01:52:06 · 25 answers · asked by Jack P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you don't. get a grip kid, she's a total cheat. she cheats with her boyfriend she cheats with you. even with a chance that she splits up with the other guy, she will still cheat on you. odds are against you kid, find another girl.
2007-12-30 01:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by bananaman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't go on like that forever, just talk to her seriously and tell her that she's got to decide it's either you or him and you just have to live with the decision she makes, and it's true what that other guy said if she cheats on him what makes you think she won't do it to you I know for a fact because I was with a girl she was cheating on her boyfriend with me and she told me she loved me so she left him and moved in with me it took a while 3 years we had a daughter together and everything and a couple of months ago I cought her in bed with another guy that hurt I still haven't gotten over it so who knows maybe she's diffirent but my experience tells me that they are all the same
2007-12-30 09:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by jose m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl sounds like a real *****. Some things in life have to be sorted out into logical & emotional rationale. Your emotional rationale is obviously not very good. Use your logic. It should tell you to meet someone else. Don't be her friend. Chances are she will only miss you when your gone. Only then will she appreciate you. Be sure that she sees you w/ someone else. Oh and even if she does choose you. she WILL cheat on you too. like she is doing now. Thats the way people are. She sounds like a terrible person and you should get out before it's too late.
2007-12-30 10:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blah, blah, blah...Women will come and go in your young life, and while you say you are in love with her, it is quite possible she doesn't feel the same way when she's banging this other dick. She's stringing you along until you come up with more money or a better car, or something she wants that makes you more appealing. Girls are always looking for the next best thing...
If she wouldn't be your friend if you found companionship with another, then you don't need someone who doesn't want you to be happy as a friend. Cut this chick loose, and GTF over her, because her moans aren't for you, my friend...
2007-12-30 09:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang on a minute. I know this may sound harsh, but surely you are worth more than this. If she really liked you, she would be with you. If she really liked her boyfriend she would be with him. She likes herself and a choice of boys. If you were her boyfriend would this behaviour be acceptable to you? I don't think so. If she did start to just see you do you think she would be able to stay faithful to you? It's nearly the new year, make a resolution to look out for you and find someone that you deserve that will be there for you and only you. Good luck mate.
2007-12-30 09:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u have answered your own question. put your self in her boyfriends position, how would u feel if u were him right now. imagine, a couple of months later, and u finally and officially get together, but she goes off with another guy behind your back just like she did with you. teach her a lesson, besides u would get hurt with or without her anyway. move on. if she is not with you its not the end of the world! besides u r a man not weeping little boy.
i hope u r not.
2007-12-30 10:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by ICE DROP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it cross your mind that if she cheats on him, she will do the same to you..... She's not worth it.... Definitely move on.... And if you could cheat with her and hang out with her guy too, it doesn't say much for you either...... Learn from ALL of the mistakes and move on....start over..... If she came running, I still wouldn't take her.... Start Fresh and be the better person.... Good Luck
2007-12-30 09:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a stupid lovesick little girl. this is not how a man handles things. it she cheats on him, why the hell would you want the skank (she will do the same thing to you) there are too many women (or girls in your case) out there to worry about one. you are way too young to sound like this. you need to change or your life (relationships and sexual) will be your downfall. dont get serious until you see your college graduation day around the corner. there will always be women out there, you will not always have your high school and college days as a free man. think about it
2007-12-30 09:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude u deserve way better this girl obviously has issues and she is just using you it isnt fair on you or her boyfriend .. i wud advise u to really try and move on and if she really does like you she will leave her boyfriend for you
if you seriously cant move on be with other girls also and show her you are wanted by others also dont let her take advantage of u and seem uninterested in her if it doesnt work she doesnt care about you enough sorry but i dont think you should waste ur time with her
good luck i hope you find someone better
2007-12-30 09:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too much drama! She is not ready for you. I think the way to get her to be yours is to back off. If it's going to happen, let he get out of that relationship without you in the picture, and just see what develops.
Meantime, live your life, because life is short, believe me, and you might find your true love is elsewhere.
I think if she loved you she would not be fooling around with someone else, period. Don't delude yourself.
2007-12-30 09:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by CarlisleGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU HAPPY? That is the question you need to figure out if you are not happy with the situation, get a new situation.
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was. We do not possess anything in this world, least of all other people. We only imagine that we do. Our friends, our lovers, our spouses, even our children are not ours; they belong only to themselves. Possessive and controlling friendships and relationships can be as harmful as neglect.
Alison Willcocks
2007-12-30 10:03:43 · answer #11 · answered by bbl788 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋