I am a chinese girl !and I'm dating with my boyfriend now!and he's been asking me to do sex with him recently !but I am still a virgin! I am 20 now!I am confused !cos differ in America,chinese people always regard it as very important .and I am afried of being regreatful later on in life! now that I don't even know if he really loves me or he just want to sleep with me because it is my frist time!can any body help me ??
2007-12-30 01:46:21 · 16 answers · asked by Yiling 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have answered your own question - your concern that he may be wanting to sleep with you just because you are a virgin tells me that it is probably not the right time for you.
The decision is not that he wants to have sex with you - but if you are ready to become sexually active. If you are, then do it because you want to do it and you want to engage in sexual intercourse with him. If you have any doubts, wait.
Men tend to be immature - especially at college age.
If you are not ready - tell him that. If he loves you, he will accept and support your decision. You can even explain to him that in your culture, sex is not taken as casually. There is also nothing wrong with telling him that you want to wait for marriage (if that is what you want). There is no law/rule that says you have to have sex prior to marriage.
If he pitches a fit and shows his fanny - or tries to make you feel bad about your decision -then you know it's not about love for him but hormones and your decision to wait was the right one.
2007-12-30 01:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Boots 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Yiling
First hugs for you and i can somewhat feel how confused you are at this moment. MY g.f now is from China and shes been brought up that sex is for married and not to do anything before it. We have been dating for over a year now and i love her so much and i know she can not understand everything about American yet , and she try. I started out slow at first petting and feeling and then got full of more passion. More deeper kissing and more exploring and more feelings. Yes i would think he loves you because he knows all about you and how you feel. What brought this all up between me and Jeannie is that i have this weird piece of art in my house of a couple under a large eye and naked in a love position. So one day we choose to go to the local and pick
condoms for birth control. We both choose the ones we wanted and used all 6 of them that night. We made to to each other as if we were both one person, mentally and physically and she told me she had no regrets and if she knew it could be so exciting she would of done it sooner. We have been making love ever since, and her parents cant tell or ever think of it.
Hugs Good Luck
2007-12-30 03:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by ho8er2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 20 years old and have the next 60 years to have sex. WAIT for your wedding night. There is nothing more romantic then being able to give the man of your dreams your virginity. There are way to many diseases out there and too many other risks that go along with having sex before you are ready. You said it yourself, I don't even now if he loves me or he just wants to sleep with you to take away your virginity. All men are the same. Respect yourself You won't regret it.
2007-12-30 01:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by DEBBIE B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T!
If he can not committ to you in a monogmus marriage. He will drop his "stuff" and look for another location! You are worth more than that! I have been married to my wife for 25 years and believe that a lack of committment will eventually destroy many things in your life. If he will marry you. Tell him you will have hot sex from that day on! See if he will agree. If not he is not worth you!
2007-12-30 01:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Telly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have this many worries about it then you need to tell him no and if he keeps pushing for it then dump him cuz your right you will end up regreating this later in life!
2007-12-30 01:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs T. 2009 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what they show on television, many people hold it in importance in the US, too. Don't do it. The guilt will plague you and ruin your relationship. Save it for your husband.
2007-12-30 01:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready and you love him and can see a future with him, then go for it, otherwise tell him to buzz off.
2007-12-30 01:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him only you can decide.
i was a virgin when i meet my wife and she had lost hers years before but she was un-happy that she could not give that to me, it was a shame but i still love her the same.
2007-12-30 01:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by hornyinberks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have answered your question but i do suggest tell your parents about it and in no time u will know the answer and get helped!
2007-12-30 01:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Judezen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. If he does not 'get' it then it is his problem! Say NO and stick to it!
2007-12-30 01:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋