i've been single for a long time and i miss love and passion. when i don't think about finding love or why i don't have someone in my life it's all right. when i start thinking about it, it sometimes gets "painful". also, i don't believe the right person will definitely show up one day; not everyone is blessed like this. so how do i put these thoughts out of my system and don't think about missing someone special. thanx
2007-12-30 01:26:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It seems to me you're refering two different things: one about the dynamics and influence of thoughts-emotion in our search for inside peace and your "missing" for being in love, that you need to feel fulfilled - do you really need this to be happy?... Accept your present condition, live it in it's full splendor (you don't need anything that you don't have already) and all that is reserved to you will be revealed at it's own time.
About the thoughts... our mind "needs" to fabricate thoughts all the time. Those thoughts will trigger emotions/sensations according to how they "feel" to us. A set of thoughts is like a long chain, one will pull the other... we can try to break the chain - not by forcing them to stop (or change their direction) but by accepting them - have conscience that your mind is pulling thought after thought and just observe that process like you were an outside observer, without judging, watching them passing by and letting them go. When you simply observe the thoughts (and not be the Thinker), you stop feeding the chain and being a victim of their flow and impact. The same can be done with emotions.
This is a long path of practice - it takes patience, discipline and failures, frustrations (which are in themselves tools for progress).
One book i'm reading that i recommend - which you might find useful for the aspects you mentioned: The Power of Now - Eckart Toole. (whispering - there's an e-book version of it available - if you want i can e-mail it to you)
2007-12-30 02:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take advantage of the time and focus on yourself a bit more. Maybe take up some groups or a course in an interest. It will also expose you to a new social group and perhaps help your dating life. But you really have to be open to accept love, you can't focus on it or it will never happen. It always happens when you least expect it to.
2007-12-30 01:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through training. Here the buddhist practise have many small tricks. One of them is simply putting your life into a structure, where you simply only focus at the task at hand and nothing else. practise makes master. Be patient.
2007-12-30 01:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about yourself. Get involved with others. Join a club, go to the gym, meet people, Get out of your head.
2007-12-30 01:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by SME 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋