Im 13, ( And havent been told by parents ) but know that when im like 20 or something i have to marry my cousin whos 12 years older than me, i dont want to though, i want to go far away from them, there horrible, i hate them.
Opinions ?
2007-12-29 23:39:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
don't do it
2007-12-29 23:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by MARK H 1 · 7⤊ 0⤋
First reaction is dont do it but find some reasons why not - for instance where do you live and where does he live? So often you find a westernised woman being forced to marry someone who has only ever lived in a village in Pakistan, they have such different life experience that their marriage is doomed from the start. So prepare for this eventuality and find credible reasons why the marriage will fail. Your parents wont want you to enter an unsuccessful marriage and may think again before forcing you in this way,
2007-12-30 01:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
InshaAllaah, by the time you are 20 your parents will see you as a person with her own choices, Do not let this consume your life right now you are only 13 live your life according to our deen for now and concentrate on your school and studies.
Your parents should not force you into a marriage you do not want that is against the teachings of our prophet(saw). And if they want you to reach 20 they will let you do what you want to do at 20 because you will be an adult then.
take care.
2007-12-30 01:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Islam4Life 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriage allows you to comment,love marriage doesn't.
2016-05-28 01:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit and talk to them (your parents). Talk to your cousin I mean right now he might be 25 and that's way older then you. Tell your parents he's way older. You have a lot of time to think about this. Use it wisely. Don't do anything foolish.
2007-12-30 07:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by sillybubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- come on dont hate them!! they r ur cousins,.
2- ur parents cant force u. its ur life..ur parents should investigate the guy u want to marry and if hes good enough then u have the right to marry him.
2007-12-30 04:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Al Qiyamah{top lawyer inshAllah} 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Let your parernts know your feelings.
They can't force you to marry him because you have a say if you want to marry him or not.
If they still don't listen, don't do anything crazy!
Inshallah, they'll understand your opinions.
I wish you the best of luck!
2008-01-01 10:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rahwa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to marry your cousin its your choice
and if hes 25 by the time your 20 he would be married
its your choice
2007-12-30 15:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur parents nicely, that according to Islam, they cant force you to marry someone, but ur only 13, you might not know that much about them
cmon they might not even be as bad as you think they are
2007-12-30 04:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In Islam you have the right to marry the guy you want to marry.
Edit: Butterfly that is only true when it happens over and over and over. Marriage btwn cousins is actually allowed in many of the state in the US. (and not just those in the south)
2007-12-30 00:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sassafrass 6 · 13⤊ 0⤋
You should not be forced to marry someone who is a relative for one thing that isnt healthy as sometimes people with the same gene pool can have children with bad birth defects.
2007-12-30 02:51:46 · answer #11 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋