do you think its right to spank your kids?

Question

i dont think so-you should just take away their privileges.what sense does it make to hit them even if they did nothing wrong? i mean just because you got hit as a child doesnt mean your child should-thats not fair at all.just because their your kids doesnt mean you can put your hands on them like that-but i guess it depends on the situation.im not tyring to insult anyone but its not good to hit kids.i dont see how a parent could hit their children in public eiether.i dont whats wrong with takin away stuff they like?

when i mean by takin away their stuff,i meant by taking away,tv,allowance,phone,radio,
computer,friends,parties,new clothes, toys,video games-stuff like that- what if they really want to buy something they want but dont have an allowance to buy it with?-or when they want to hear whats the new song-hello? punishment?

Answer 1

I agree with a lot of what you say. Of course you don't spank if they don't do anything wrong! I'm sure 100% of good parents would agree that it's WRONG to punish their child for NOT breaking any rules.

I also agree that taking privalages away works too. However sometimes everything breaks down, core rules are broken, and a spanking is the best alternitive. As parents our job is to ensure that our children learn what's right and what's wrong. If time outs and taking away priviglages works - GREAT, if not some of us turn to spanking (which for us is the "end all" of punishments). I will agree with what ever works

Answer 2

Yes, I think it's right.

I would never spank a child if they "did nothing wrong". There's no point in it. The only time I'll spank is if they put their life in danger, as a last resort (everything has been tried but failed), or they are just flat out disrespectful, but I feel that if you teach a child at an early age right from wrong, it won't come to the point where they are flat out disrespectful. I know that I would never even dream of telling my parent or any elder to "eff themselves" like a lot of kids and teenagers do these days. And I was spanked a few times.

And there's nothing wrong with taking away stuff they like - if that works. That had no effect on me, because you could take away my whole life, and I'd always find something else to do. Spanking is last resort for me, so if "taking stuff away" works, it should work when I do it. But i'm not arguing 24/7 with my kid to do something or not do something.

It's up to the parents what they do. plain and simple.

Answer 3

Yes I believe it is right to spank one's kids. You're not spanking the kid because you were spanked as a child. There is a difference between spanking and hitting. Taking away privileges does not really work that well with children. Many fall into the mindset that when they do something bad or wrong they just lose one of their toys for a couple of days at the most, and then get them back again. The quote that says "Spare the rod, spoil the child." is very true. One doesn't spank the child because they are angry, but to show him/her that what he/she did was wrong. It has been proven more effective than merely taking away their privileges.

Answer 4

I had to laugh at your statements. I was spanked as a child and it certainly didn't do me any permanent damage. I spanked my daughter when she was a child and it didn't do her any damage that I can tell either. She always swore she would NEVER spank a child of hers--until she had one. He's 3 now and the first time she told me she spanked him I was shocked and asked her what he had done to deserve it. He had bit another child--after several warnings from her and timeouts, which were doing absolutely no good. So she spanked him two days in a row for the same thing--and he hasn't done it since.

Sometimes a spanking is the only way to get through to the little darlings. And as long as you are spanking them, not abusing them, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. That's what God made butts for. I never HIT or SLAPPED my daughter and there is a big difference between hitting, slapping and spanking.

Like somebody else said: You must not have kids!

Answer 5

There is a difference between hitting your child and spanking your child. I explain to my child (any of the 4), why they are a bout to get a spanking, we talk for a few minutes about what they did, was it wrong, and the other alternatives did ot work. Now as far as spanking in public if any of my children thinks for a minute i will not spank them in a store or something they have one warning, and then we will see who was bluffing. Some parents say they will do some sort of discipline and then not do it, and children know when their safe zones, like stores because you will not spank them in the store. With my children the whole world is a safe zone as long as they obey the rules of the household, and they have not changed in years.

Answer 6

I think 'hitting' and spanking are really two different things, although frustrated and ignorant parents often blur the line between the two. I think a spank on the rear can be effective when it serves as immediate negative reinforcement, (i.e. child continually walking away in a crowd or out into the street). To spank a child for being cranky, mouthy, etc. is really an inability to deal with frustration.

Answer 7

You say
"what sense does it make to hit them even if they did nothing wrong? "
But the idea of "spanking" or "smacking" is as a method that they learn what they did WAS wrong
So simply smack a child for no reason = assault
If they have been told repeatedly to NOT do something and it's ignored, then maybe some form of punishment they WILL take note if it required.

Spanking in rage = WRONG
Controlled, managed and explained punishment is another thing entirely.

Answer 8

Loss of privileges for a reasonable length of time, yeah. Though for many that is the "last resort"; worse than a reasonable spanking (a thoroughly well-warmed backside but not harmed nor injured).

But if you take away their belongings, like some mothers have said they did ... they take the things away and throw them in the garbage and they are gone. Not good. There must be the possibility of "redemption" of those items!!
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Answer 9

I always thought there are many more way to discipline a child than smacking. However my eldest is VERY strong willed i.e temper tantrum could last upto 3hrs!!!
Smacking was short, and got the issue over and done with. My youngest however was different and would have been totally inappropriate to smack him -only now at 4 I use it occassionally with him to really get the message home.

Smacking should never be done out of anger. It should always be controlled. It is one form of discipline and shouldn't be the only form you use - depends on the 'crime' My kids are always warned - if they continue x will happen whether that be smack, time out, loss of priviledge etc..

Some days when we have had constantly bad behaviour, I finally get round to giving a smack, and generally behaviour improves!!

Just to note, we always aim to encourage the good behaviour, reward that etc...... but we still don't ignore the bad.

Answer 10

Sure.
In the old days, kids got spanked at home and in school when they deserved it, and they learned proper behavior. They also learned that every action has its consequences.

Today, when it is politically correct not to spank your kid, they are the ones who rule the roost. What are you going to do - take away their psp or their Wii for a couple of hours? then you listen to them complain about it, and scream, and yell, and do everything to compromise parental authority.

Over the course of raising children, they have to know that there are certain boundries cannot be crossed, and when they are, then the punishment must be so unusual as to make them think twice about it.