Daughter look at porn?

Question

should i be worried if my 14 year old daughter has been looking at porn?

funnily enough, she was the one who told me... she was getting annoyed by popups appearing and she didnt know how to get rid of them so she came to me. when i asked her why they started appearing she was honest and admitted she had been looking at porn. she did appear to feel kinda guilty after asking me to get rid of them however.

Answer 1

She's probably just curious, but if she's looking at porn, she could be doing other things on the Internet that pose a danger to her. I'm thinking predators, chat rooms, etc.
It's probably a good idea to start restricting her computer access to a common area of the house, and have a good talk to her about the risks on the net.

Answer 2

I was the same age. A little story to go along with it...... My mom & grandma worked together so during the days i didn't have school (holidays/summer break etc) my grandpa would watch me. Well he had a huge screen TV in the living room & normally I would be out there while he was in his room doing crossword puzzles and watching The Price Is Right. Well, have that being said, I ran across The Spice Channel that had NOT been blocked & well yeah, curiosity settled in and I probably watched it often. When I'd hear him creek open his door, I'd change the channel LOL. Ok probably NOT what you wanted to hear. Complete curiosity. It's harmless. Unless you find a pack of birth control pills in her bed side dresser...I wouldn't fuss over it too much.

Answer 3

Don't be worried, just be the mom. Have "the talk" with her and let her know you're glad she was honest and came to you about it...And think about supervising her computer usage from now on. I don't think kids should have their own computers in their rooms. Porn isn't a big deal (all kids are curious), but what happens when she starts chatting with someone she THINKS is safe to chat with? I'm a pretty intelligent person, but I made mistakes like that when I was her age. I was too trusting. Make sure you're not.

Answer 4

No, you shouldn't be worried. She's probably curious about sex, and it happens. Everyone has looked at some kind of porn at least once in their life. Anyone who says differently is lying.

Teach her that there are a lot of porn sites that cause viruses and spyware. Be careful with that. Especially if you use your credit card to order online and stuff. And viruses are a pain because they slow your computer down badly. Don't order any of the viruse's "anti-virus" things, they just get your credit card number - so I hear.

You can also put the computer in a family room, where you don't completely look behind her shoulder all the time, but you can kind of watch and see what she's doing.

Good luck.

Answer 5

It is definitely a matter for concern, since porn can be addictive. It is great that your daughter told you about it, though. You should do some things to protect the safety of your daughter and your family. For example, move the computer to a common area, install a filter, and check the web history regularly. If your daughter shows an ongoing history of pornography use, take her to a psychologist to have her treated for addiction.

Answer 6

Teens her age are curious and aware of sex by that age. So I feel she was/is of the right age to have stumbled upon it. I don't think it was foreign to her.However, I would not condone her watching porno. I would put a filter on the computer. I would have been alot more worried if it was a much younger child. My 13 yr old babysitter (snuck)and watched a porno, my 4 and 8 yr old saw it. My 4 yr old told me mom can we watch the nasty movie again. I was horrified.Needless to say the sitter denied it. That was the end of that sitter. But to this day if my 6 yr old sees someone kiss on TV. She always comments about mom there doing nasty things. At 6 now, she seems very aware of "sexuality". I know she was traumatized from seeing that movie at 4. Lord knows how much she actually seen and understood. But I won't lie I am worried about my 6 yr old because of her reaction to that 2 yrs ago and just continue to try to shelter her from it. So do be careful with what kids see!!

Answer 7

yes, but at least she was honest, you need to put up firewalls, and filters, maybe move the computer to a common area of the house, ours is in the living room,so anybody can check on her internet surfing at anytime. We try to encourage our children to use the internet only for homework. Being we have 4 children and one computer on the internet, everybody needs to log on get what they need done and log off. We also check temp internet files to see where they have been. They have a guest account on the computer and my wife and I are the admins. They share one ccount so if my son is looking at sites he should not, not just porn, his sisters will get the pop-ups also.

Answer 8

I'd be worried, but that's just cuz i worry about everything. However I'd not be mad, I think it's normal for a teen to look for answers regarding sex, besides what their parents tell them. Maybe have a talk with her.

You do need to restrict her from porn via the net, it's a dangerous place out there. Not to mention, your computer is now filled with spy-ware and will need run a good anti spy-ware software to stop the pop ups.

Answer 9

No I wouldn't be worried! That's amazing that she even fessed up that she was looking at it in the first place. Maybe it's time to start communicating with her in regards to sexual education. She's 14 and has already come to you about looking at porn, I think that you have a pretty good relationship with your daughter, so I'm going to assume that you can start to educate her on her body and sex.

Answer 10

I think this sounds like a good opportunity to speak with your daughter about perverts who are out there that might take advantage of her on line. It also sounds like you and your daughter have an honest relationship and for that you should be very thankful.