Why is the sanctity of marriage breaking down?

Question

You may boast your union of marriage is strong
and you have the best partner, but statistics now show that divorce is common compared to our grandparents
What is the reason'
Is it because mankind is less intolerable to each other
you may claim the argument of suffering the absence of affection or love' and its time to move on
I do acknowledge certain marriages can not work [adultry violence]
Has mankind have less responsibility towards their offspring and vows then there predecessor's.
Or is there absence of spirituality

Answer 1

the main reason for the break down is the social acceptance of sexual immorality and fornication. if you asked 100 people between the ages of 15 and 35 if they thought having premarital sex, masturbation, and pornography was wrong and evil how many would say yes? so if you look at the onset of the "sexual revolution" in the 20th century and the ever increasing consequences of that mindset in the later generations it becomes clear. what was meant to be the last step in the love process, becomes the first or foremost and retards the process in varying degrees.
to add...you hear many people say that they could not marry someone unless they knew how "good they are in the sack".
and yet that is not enough to keep them together huh? so it goes to show that doing it God's way is always the best way. that loves comes first, then marriage, then sex. that is how it is best.
finally the ease of and social acceptance of divorce itself is a major factor. not saying that no one should get divorced, but it has become too easy to shirk "for better or worse" to shoot for the "pursuit of happiness".

Answer 2

I won't boast, but I will say that I do have a very strong marriage. I've already been married longer in my one marriage than all of my mother's four marriages together lol. I'm on a roll!

Perhaps it's because it's so easy to get married today. People get married on a whim, or because they feel like it's the next step in being an adult. It's also very easy to get divorced, and for this I am grateful. In the past, far too many people (women) were stuck in marriages that were destructive. Even if women could file for divorce, they'd have a very hard time supporting themselves. Today, a woman can make it on her own. So, after entering into marriage, hastily or otherwise, and discovering the other person is not what they seemed.. divorce and move on.

It could also be because society today is fixated on instant gratification. Why work through a tough marriage (excluding things like abuse, of course) when it's much easier to get out of it and find the next best thing?

Answer 3

2 Timothy 3v1-5...we are living in what the bible calls critical times. Moral breakdown, insecurity, pursuit of riches and self-pleasurses, selfishness all contribute to Marital breakdown.

I agree with most of the sentiments of the other answers. But I would like to add, perhaps some cultures have still got the answer. Marriage partners are selected by parents... maybe taking some council or advice of someone who has had many more years experience in this subject is not a bad thing. Nowadays we seem to be in a hurry to achieve all the landmarks, hurdles (whatever) growing up to quickly, instead of taking time to learn from our elders. We do not need to get married so young when there is so much to learn and experience in life. Good things come to those who put things into perspective and wait.

Answer 4

One of the reasons is that once upon a time it was difficult to get divorced, the stigma was too much, so people stayed together. And the fact being that also once women had little or no chance of getting a divorce, even if her husband had been unfaithful or a wife beater, now if the woman is unhappy in the marriage she will get a fairer deal, some would say its now too much in woman's favour but i would disagree. More women now instigate divorce than men, so the statistics say, probably because they no longer want to put up with things their grandmothers had to.

Answer 5

Its all done as in computer, bit by bit.

First scene in a movie or series is (I have to pick up the kids by my ex's house)

(No that is my first wife), (Darling you will stay at your mother's this weekend)


My daughter even tells me I should put this or that on, so I look pretty for her mother. Will I deny her not the pleasure, but the right of having a normal family? Or will I do whatever it takes to keep this family together.

Bit by bit it is how it is done.
Same with death. My daughter saw the movie "The Bridge to Terabithia" She was very happy for long time, until the little girl died.

She was then sad, so sad, the she cried, and said:
"Papa you have told me that movies are just made up, but Why they couldn't make it that she stays alive?"

Sorry, I did not know the end of it before I rented it.
They did it so because the people who rule this world are Necrophiles, you will learn what that means when you are old.

She knows what death is because that is the reason why her Great Grandma is not around. She even says let us stop to visist Great Grandma at the cementary, but does she have to be reminded of death when she is trying to have fun? Specially when the life is so short and so troubled?

Final word:
Matthew 18
6 “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea. 7 Woe to the world because of offenses! For offenses must come, but woe to that man by whom the offense comes!

Answer 6

I think it is a combination of things. Such as , people not taking the vows of marriage seriously, lack of communication before the marriage and during,thinking good sex is a reason for marriage, or because of a pregnancy, and not having God in their marriage also contributes to the break up of a marriage.

Answer 7

Sanctity my bum. People divorce more now because they can. Most divorces are applied for by women, and the reason is they don't have to put up with men acting like pillocks any more. Once men figure out that women no longer HAVE to put up with infidelity or being treated like a skivvy, there'll be less divorce.

BTW, atheists actually have a significantly lower divorce rate than Christians in America. Go figure.

Answer 8

How about good old fashioned talking to one another Everyone seems to be too busy getting on with life (work, social life, children etc.,) there never seems to be the time to sit down and "talk".....discuss the issue, not argue and shout !
Compromise...that seems to be a word that has disappeared out of the vocabulary.....in a couple's life, it's pulling together not pulling apart !

Answer 9

Laziness? It's easier to get divorced than try to sort things out.

There could be lots of reasons but I wouldn't put it down to spirituality I'm afraid. I've been married over ten years (yeah, okay, not that long, but that's how long I've been married and its my generation we're talking about, so not many will be married much longer than that) had some rough patches, but still together and neither of us are very spiritual.

Answer 10

Because people just cant be bothered anymore, people find it to easy to walk away, to easy to have affairs,
not spending time together,as either one or the other is to busy,
couples no longer have time together.

i am lucky though i can honestly say i have a excellent marriage, i met my hubby when i was only 15 we married when i was 18, we been married 20 years and together 23 years,

We spend loads of time together, we do things together we share house work etc, and we TALK which is something a lot of people dont,

It works for us..


Midnight~Angel :)