he his 6 and on sevrely accasions he as pulled is penis out of is pant in front of my friends also he ask questions to her son about is private parts about does your penis get hard when u mess with it why does he do this and how can i stop him
2007-12-29 19:41:58 · 19 answers · asked by KAREN H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He will grow out of it but have talks with him about showing strangers parts of his body that parts which are covered by a swimming costume are private and that he should not let anyone see them unless you are taking him to see a doctor if there is something wrong or there is something wrong andhe needs to show it to his parents.
2007-12-29 19:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My gosh some of these answers ......
Look up good old Sigmond Freuid (lordy can't recally how to spell it but you know who I mean) This is simply a normal part of childhood behaviour. As embarassing as it is to adults it's fun and normal for kids.
Just explain to him that its his penis and it's private. Ask him if he sees mummy & daddy or the postman or policemen walking around with their's out. Tell him thats because it's private and only for him to see. (will only work till he works out sex and girls!!).
I remember when my son was about 4 he used to pull on it and always have his hand down there (talk about al bundy in the making). I asked him WHY he was doing it. His answer was "it feels good" well I couldn't dispute that!!!!
Don't make him feel dirty or embarassed about his genitals it can lead to major issues later in life. And don't threaten him with birds pecking it off.
As for the erection questions, you could say the truth as in it's like a fire ant, the more you annoy it the angrier it gets LOL. Or just as others have said, that playing with it makes it think it's full of wee.
He's normal love, not peverted or deviant it's normal typical for his age behaviour.
2007-12-30 07:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon P 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take him aside and tell him his penis is a private part and he shouldn't be showing it to anyone or lettig anyone touch it only him. Explain that private means to keep it covered so no one can see.
Ask him where he learned to show his privates. Some times kids see these things on movies or tv. Some times they learn it from the older children. I would find out where he is learning this behavior. In the mean time stop him immediatatly and take him aside and talk to him seriously. This is for his safety and the safety of the other children. Children at this age can be curious and have to be supervised all the time.
2007-12-30 07:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by liliana 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As for him asking questions he is simply curious to what others bodies are doing compared to his own, he is checking to see if he is normal or not to his peers. That is completly normal for his age and nothing to worry about. I would talk to him and tell him that it makes other uncomfortable and that he should come to you or his dad to ask these questions, assure him he is normal and that you are both safe and comfortable people to talk to about this.
As for pulling out his privates to flash people (I assume adults and not his friends showing off to eachother?) I would nip that bad habit right away! Tell him they are private and that it is rude and makes peole uncomfortable to be showing them his private areas. Make sure he understand that his penis is for him to view and not the whole world. Do not make him ashamed of his body or feel that he should be but that it is not acceptable to continue with that behaviour.Tell him there will be consiquences for those actions now that he knows they are wrong and follow through with them.
If he and his friends are comparing body parts it is because they are curious to what others have and what each other look like, that again is very normal for his age, just tell him it is not polite to do and that him and the boys need to discuss these matter with parents, let him know he is normal and if he wants take him to a library to look at books about his body. There are many many books geared for this age group all about their bodies and how they work and look. I wouldn't punish this behaviour because it is simple curiosity where as flashing people is done to get a rise out of you and them.
2007-12-30 11:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by becky q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be funny but certainly not wrong.He is simply inquisitive and you are obliged to give him a plausible answer to his questions.You must not punish him in any way,but punish yourself for not understanding.The phase will pass when he finds an answer.Their are more Important things he will be asking soon about material things his freinds have and he hasnt.It is all in the course of having kids.Give him plenty of hugs but not too many he already is building up a reputation for himself.Happy New Year.
2007-12-30 11:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by realdolby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,im sure its just part of him growing up and getting to know his body,my son and nephew did exactly the same thing and its easy just to say "stop that its dirty/rude"but to them theyre exploring the changes.I sat my son down and told him that as he grew bigger so did his parts and thats why it gets big and hard,it worked and now hes a little older more qs are being asked but to me.Hope this helps
2007-12-30 03:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by lisa c 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Almost all little boys I know do this. Its very normal. I remember my little brother used to do it too when he was about 6 r 7 yo. But that habit of showing his penis to people in the house just disappeared as he grew up. He got the fun of watching how people got annoyed with his 'show'. He stopped doing it as we kept ignoring him. Of course have a bit of talk with him won't hurt. But dont make a big fuss about it. It will go away.
2007-12-31 04:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by maywejaywe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he pulls his pants down to show his penis just ignore him, the more attention you pay to him the more he will do it. try talking to him explain what he is doing is not right, good luck!
2008-01-01 19:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural hes probably just worked out what it is and learning about his body, i know its embarassing for you but remember hes just a child and doesnt realise its wrong. easier said than done, but if you try talking to him and explaining that he shouldnt do that he should eventually understand. dont punish him for wanting to learn about his body, but when he does it tell him no or any method of discipline you use. he will grow out of it though. my brother done it constantly for years, hes 10 now and rarely does it anymore lol.
2007-12-30 09:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 6 years old he should know this is unacceptable behaviour, if my 5 year old did that he'd know he'd be in big trouble
You'll have to start punishing him next time he does it, tell him its not acceptable and next time he does it he's going to loose his favourite toy, dont let him watch tv or put him on the bold step etc etc etc.......
Its normal for children to be curious about their body parts but when they start taking them out in public that is a sign of a problem, you should have a talk with your health visitor
I would die if my son started doing this
2007-12-30 06:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by ✿Regina Felangie✿ 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋