Would you say it is ok for a girl who is 18 to date a man who is a little over the age of thirty??

Question

i know its legal lol, but do you think it is morally "correct" or morally "wrong"??

ive thought about it, and its nice to get opinions. i am not actually dating anyone right now.

Answer 1

Everyone has their own morals. I don't think it's wrong or right in general, because it might be wrong for one person and right for another. But I'm 20, and I wouldn't date anyone over 23, it's too much of a difference in so many ways.

Answer 2

There's no moral issue about it at all.
There's nothing "gross" about it either.
(I'm an older guy, by the way!)

There are pro's, and there are cons though, so you have to make the choice if it's worth putting up with the cons, to get the pros.

Cons:
1. Idiots like some of those below will think it's weird.
2. You will likely not like a lot of the same things, but superficial things; music, TV shows, etc. If that kind of thing is extremely important to you, then it will bother you. If not, you won't care.
3. He's obviously into you... but he may not be so into your friends, who he will be more likely to think are immature (hey, they are!).
4. Older guy/younger girl relationships have a tendency to take on a "father-daughter" dynamic, if you're not really careful, and it's as much the fault of the girl, as it is the guy. It's natural for men to be protective of females, and it's natural for females to want protection from males. That gets somewhat exaggerated in older/younger relationships, again, unless you're aware of that, and takes steps along the way to make sure it doesn't get weird like that.
5. If it works out, and you get married, he's going to probably die a long time before you.

Pro's:
1. Older guys are more experienced in treating women right (if he's a good guy)
2. Older guys are more experienced sexually.
3. Older guys are more likely to be able to give you good advice about things in life, career choices, important decisions, etc.
4. Older guys usually have more money, although you shouldn't be dating them just for that, because us older guys hate that!

In the end, you have to make up your own mind and do what you think is right.
If you're mature for your age, then it may work into something great.

Answer 3

It depends on your maturity level and the seriousness of your relationship with this man. If you`re just dating but keeping other avenues open with guys closer to your age, I don`t see why it would be morally wrong. If it is a serious relationship, take your time and be sure of your feelings, make sure it`s not infatuation because he is older and wiser. If he`s a decent sort and really cares for you, he won`t mind waiting before making a commitment as you should also do. Take it slow and easy, be sure that what you both feel is genuine.

Answer 4

I was 22 when I started dating my now husband and he was 37. I will tell you it is HARD sometimes because you are in totally different places in your life, but a lot of times it is great to have someone who has been there, done that, to help you out. It depends on the guy, but I say if he is a good man, then go for it. Just remember that you are young and don't move into any type of serious relationship too fast.

Answer 5

I did! I was 18, he was 34. It didn't work out. Not because of the age difference, but because of the wife he 'forgot' to tell me about.

At 20, I met a wonderful man of 42. 8 years later we have been married for 7 years and have three lovely children. He will be 50 next week!

Answer 6

Well,it is not wrong! I say this because both of you are mature and major! So legally speaking it is correct.As far as morality is concerned that is also correct,what is so wrong and grave about it I can understand?I cannot understand why some people make a fuss about such things.Love knows no boundaries of religion,age,ethnicity,nationality,etc.
Only what is wrong is to play with the life of somebody and emotionaly ruin him/her.Either of you are not doing that(I hope so!!!!) so carry on and all the best.

Answer 7

I say definitely YES. Listen...I am only 20 years old, and I am absolutely in love with a 38 year old man, and I couldn't be happier. When it comes to love, as long as both partners are of legal age according to the law, then the whole age gap thing doesn't even matter, and I believe that it's total crap how people say that when you're in a relationship like that, that you won't really have any of the same interests, or that when it comes to conversation that you probably wouldn't have much to talk about and relate to because of the whole "different generation" thing, because, like I said before, I am still pretty young myself but I am mature for my age and I just so happen to like a lot of things that people older than myself like. So, with all that said...Life is too short to worry about what other's think of you and your personal life and your decisions, so SCREW what they think =]

Answer 8

Well, this is one of those things which are highly debatible. It quite simply, and with many things, depends.

I would take it very very..very..very slowly just so you are absolutely sure he's not just some creepy pervert. Think about this also, is he financially stable? What was his past like? Does he constantly flirt with you? Does he enjoy his family? ...and.

for his age, he is in a different time than you are. You are both in different places in life.........it's like if a 20 year old was with a 16 year old. She/he is still finishing high school(just an example)

I'm saying this too, because I know how 90% of all men are pigs

Answer 9

I don't think it is right. They are not on the same level. I think the 18 year old would be setting herself up to be used and manipulated by the older guy. At 18 you are still young and new to the ways of men, by 30 he knows how to play the games and which women are stupid enough to fall for it.

Answer 10

I would say no, because it really hurts the men that are younger than him who have nobody. If someone really cares about society and the whole picture, they won't do it.

That's the main reason. It's just an opinion but this is the way people think. The lonely men out there become psychos. Of course, you shouldn't be the only one who alters her life for the rest of society. Since no one else even thinks twice, it is fine one way or another.