I'm 21 and not like other typical guys. My girlfriend is 18 and going to college. Her mom let us have our own hotel room and bed in Las Vegas, yet, she isn't allowed to sleep over at my house which is about 3/5's of a mile down the road. I really don't get it?
2007-12-29 17:53:13 · 25 answers · asked by Joe 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm 21 and not like other typical guys. My girlfriend is 18 and going to college. Her mom let us have our own hotel room and bed in Las Vegas, yet, she isn't allowed to sleep over at my house which is about 3/5's of a mile down the road. I really don't get it?
Just to remind some of you. This isn't me just trying to get some. Like I said I am not like other typical guys. I used to be like that and I believe she is my chance to make up for all of the dumb things I've done to other girls; by always being with her.
2007-12-29 18:12:07 · update #1
At the age of 18 my daughter would be an adult...which means I can no longer dictate what happens in her personal life. If she wants to go over to her boyfriend's house and spend the night that's her decision. I would only expect her to tell me that she wasn't coming home so that I wouldn't wait up for her.
I *CAN* however dictate what happens in my house. I'm a married mom of 1 (pregnant with our 2nd) and I *STILL* don't sleep with my husband if we are at one of our parents' houses. If we sleep over there my husband will sleep on the couch and I will sleep in the guest room with our son. I don't think it's respectful to have sex in your parent's house-neither of my children, be they 18 or 80, married or not, will have sex under *MY* roof (with my knowledge).....but if they want to go somewhere else and sleep together (or have sex) that's their own personal business once they are adults.
2007-12-29 19:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Being not to far from your age, I went through this with my father, when I was dating my now husband. Although i was spending the night at my then boyfriend's house (my now mom in law didnt mind me being there) without my father knowing...he finally decided it was okay for me to stay after I turned 21. In my house, turning 18 only meant that you could vote...it didnt not mean you were grown-especially when my parents were supporting me as I attended college.
Maybe her mom had a change of heart after your Vegas trip..she has that right b/c her child is only 18. The only advice i can give you is to be patient and respectful to the mother's/parent's decisions for their child...she is only 18.
At 25 years old I have a 20 month old and a 2 month old and I plan on using the same ideals with them...as long as I/we are supporting you-especially while you are in college, you will do as we say.
Good luck!
2007-12-29 19:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Docslady01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 35 and he is 40. We are married for 13 years. Before we were together as bf / gf for 8 years and more. Cool, we never had a sleep over at each other's home. We never even asked for such things to parents. but today, things are changing and that does not mean that disciplines need to change. Better you guys keep away till marriage. After marriage, even if you want sleep away, its going to be a big deal (LOL). Cool. Be yourself till you get married.
2007-12-29 18:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18, I would let my daughter stay at her boyfriend's house. She is an adult then. However, if she lives with her mom she has to follow her rules.
When I was 18 I was dating a 20 year old guy. We both lived with our parents. I had to ask permission to stay at his house. When I did stay over, his mom made me sleep in his bed and he had to sleep on the couch. Both sets of parents knew we were having sex, but we still couldn't sleep in the same bed.
2007-12-29 17:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mikey's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No age is morally reasonable for my daughter to sleep over her boyfriends house. Call me old fashioned but I don't need to know about her sexual activities. I realize you can run the risk of pregnancy but why encourage that to possibly happen right under your nose. I refuse to lower my moral standings because they're not "Socially Acceptable."
2007-12-29 19:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Joelanda P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-29 17:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter, and personally, I would not let her boyfriend come and sleep over under MY roof and I would expect her bf's parents to do the same.....so I guess my answer is: when you are not living with your parents anymore- have all the sleep overs you wish!
2007-12-29 17:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty Kat 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
When she is married!! A reasonable young man that respects his girlfriend wouldn't want her to spend the night at his house. Unless you don't respect her and are just wanting some?
Then if you aren't "just wanting some" as I so callously stated, then why would you want her to spend the night? I mean with all sincerity, if you love her then marry her. Sex can wait! Don't play house, create one. If you aren't ready to marry, then you are ready for sex.
2007-12-29 18:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by dejavu_qa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have two answers.
Once you've graduated high school you can sleep wherever you want.
If you live with your mother and your girlfriend is going to sleep over at your moms....its completely up to your mother whether or not she allows that to happen. When you are out of her home, she has no say.
2007-12-29 17:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by Julie D 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As long as she lives in my house, she will never sleep over at a boys house.
2007-12-29 18:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by ~Love...Peace...Happiness~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋