We have one healthy 16 month old baby and are struggling with the dilema of whether to have another child. I have terrible post partum depression with the first and struggle with being a 'mommy' every day. However, I don't know if we are being cruel by denying our son a sibling. My husband has to move every three or four years for his job, and wrenching an onIy child away from his friends over and over again, could be traumatics. right? I just don't know if we can handle another baby. I know the first year is the worst, but the first year with another toddler pulling at my apron strings may be too much to bear.
Any advice?
2007-12-29 17:29:47 · 13 answers · asked by kuchingkecil 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
We have one healthy 16 month old baby and are struggling with the dilema of whether to have another child. I have terrible post partum depression with the first and struggle with being a 'mommy' every day. However, I don't know if we are being cruel by denying our son a sibling. My husband has to move every three or four years for his job, and wrenching an onIy child away from his friends over and over again, could be traumatic. right? I just don't know if we can handle another baby. I know the first year is the worst, but the first year with another toddler pulling at my apron strings may be too much to bear.
Any advice? I am 36 years old. Cant wait too long.
2007-12-29 18:13:55 · update #1
Yes. A sister or brother could accompany him and play around with him. It's important for children to have a happy and fun childhood.
2007-12-29 17:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two children. They are 22 months apart, and are very close. I too had terrible post partum depression, and it was alot to deal with. I would give the world to them if I could.
But I think that if you are not both ready to handle another then wait.
I was an only child and I loved it.
It depends on alot of things.
But also if you want another, and don't want them to be too far apart, wait until your son is about 2 before you start trying for another, then he would be about 3 when a new one would come along, and it would probably be much easier to handle.
Hope this helped you. Good luck!
2007-12-29 17:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sapphire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it gets easier with more children - especially if you're NOT a particularly maternal person! I have watched friends and family with their single children and they are so time-consuming! I am not the type of mother who can sit down and entertain my children for hours on end!
As far as the depression goes, it's much easier to deal with when you're prepared for it; and second time around, you will be so it probably won't be as much of an issue - if at all.
And, I don't mean to be nasty, but I do think that choosing not to have more children is a little selfish - I could be wrong, I'm just repeating what other people have told me about growing up without siblings. However, if you just can't then that's a completely different story!
2007-12-29 17:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but what's the hurry? I am just now trying to have my second and my first one is now 6
I wouldn't have it any other way
This is what is right for us
Wish you the best on whenever the timing or to do or not to do is 4 u!
2007-12-29 17:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by familymomwife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should wait. i think people should wait like 3 or 4 years between children so that it will give you time to bond with your child better. i also dont think a 16 month old baby cares or not right now if he/she has a sibling. so i say wait a couple of years.
2007-12-29 17:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, the child id only a twinkle in your eye and already you have issues with him/her. Not only that, what if the siblings don't get along? Have a baby for maternal reasons, not as a playmate.
2007-12-30 09:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by poopski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are ready for a 2nd child, then I say go for it. As for your age, I'm 39 and pregnant with my 3rd child, so 36 doesn't mean you have to rush into a decision.
2007-12-29 19:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well a wee brother or sister would be nice ,but at the end of the day it yours and hubby decision. I've got to kids and i wouldn't chance it........ good luck what you decide
2007-12-29 17:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by Angela W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with having one child. I have one, and my daughter is 19 now and perfectly happy. Believe me, it has it's advantages. I did want another, but it never happened.
2007-12-29 17:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♠Mrs Reznor♠ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just suggest to find urself at a stable andd comfortable place in your life...either emotionally, physically even financially....
2007-12-29 17:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ingrid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋