... I have seen him twice (hanging with mutual friends) & it has been totally platonic. I really, really felt a connection with him. He is a super nice guy but just went thru a divorce. So I have backed off & gave him his space. ProbIem is I can't stop thinking about him ... i think about him like every day. I haven't felt like this about anybody in a while. I think he may like me but then it may have just been a hook up for him. I want to pursue something with him but am afraid that its too soon for him, or that he may not feel the same. But then what if he does? I've been dating other guys recently but none of them make me feel like that. I just keep thinking of him. I've been trying to just push my feelings aside & see what happens in the future but it doesn't seem to be working. Is a hook up just a hook up and am I being silly to think of it as more? It felt like there was an emotional connection. Too naive? Should I just talk to him about my feelings? If so what should i say? HELP
2007-12-29 17:27:36 · 12 answers · asked by michelle s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It wasn't to soon for him to hook up with 2 1/2 months ago so I don't think it's to soon to hook up again, 1 THING though, He hooked up with you and hasn't pursued anything more. Maybe (it sounds horrible I know) he just used you to help get over the ;issues he was having at the time.
2007-12-29 17:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by ♣Bianca♣ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this same thing. Let me save you some heartache. Eventually you will hook up again and the same thing will happen where you won't hear from him, you will see him again a bit later, turn on the charm and score his interest. You will talk all the time and eventually be boyfriend/girlfriend. You will date about 8 months and then he will dump you on your birthday for this chick who he had the hots for years earlier. the end lol
2007-12-29 17:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by whatev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the venture, you stated that SHE'S your EX..... she will do what she desires to do together with her existence....and you're shocked that she has dated 5 adult males in months? Cmon, you slept mutually after 2 weeks.... She's purely a guy'S lady, you recognize... Have peace on your heart, recover from with it...
2016-11-26 19:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mich, you should treat him first as a friend. you are still not sure of his feelings for you, right? then you should wait. there will be a time when the two of you are close enough. and you will be given a chance to confess it to him.
but you must be real quick on building up the relationship. because there might be a chance that he falls for other girls out there.
well, good if he asks you out.
2007-12-29 17:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by j.ean_831 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, hire a private detective to find out what places he frequents: restaurants, bars, gyms, churches, etc..
And then, try to arrange one or two "chance" encounters, and see what happens; if he follows up by asking you out, he's interested; if he doesn't, he isn't. End of story.
Alberich
2007-12-29 17:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Alberich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to make or move your gone. Tell him your not going to wait around forever. Maybe he just used you. If he doesn't make a move ask him how his wife managed to get his balls during the divorce.
2007-12-29 17:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by A55H0L3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend:
you seem like a alfa female in a dreamy world
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first of all i think it is too soon to tell ur feelings to a guy
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let me tell you why:
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we have 2 partners any of these 2 partners who tells her or his feelings first, the second partner would be in power.
if u tell him about ur feelings he would be in power and if he brakes up with you u be heart broken OR worst he can use u for sex.
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listen my advice to you i have a guy friend he is divorced now he doese not want to get into any serious realationship he just want to have fun.
i am not saying that u are not a lovable girl but be wise these kinda guys that they have failed they do not think of getting to ANOTHER serious realationship. be really carefull.
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my advice in general is do not think about telling him ur feelings to any guy after 2 months let him to come forward and talk about his feelings just for u to be in power.
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remember Do not insult an aligator till you pass the river.
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Good Luck
little john
2007-12-29 17:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by LittlE JohN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep but arent u sispicios hes like a cheater cos since he got divroced
2007-12-29 17:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by hobhib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs a year minimum to get his head straight. I f you like him though, just keep hanging out with him and go slow. dont get into talking about your feelings yet. just go slow.
2007-12-29 17:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be afraid to talk to him because u ganna push him away. if u like him alot give him hints it will help alot
2007-12-29 17:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋