I was going to call my boyfriend but when I picked up the phone, I heard my younger sister whose 13 and her boyfriend talk about sex. I was being nosy and listened to their conversation. This is how it went. James(boyfriend)-So, uh, I was thinking. I know this is pretty random and stuff, but do you want to have sex, you know. Just for practice and stuff? Lacey(sister)- Yah!! Sure! But, we should probably do it at your house. My parents are really strict and wouldn't let any boyfriend of mine come in my room. James- Okay. Yeah, are you free ....Saturday night? My parents won't be home.... Lacey- Yeah. Defintily.
and then the conversation ended. I hung up the phone. I didn't walk in on her and start talking to her. I didn't want to embarras her.
I don't want to tell anybody about it, because Lacey will never trust me again...and I don't want to lose our friendship as sisters.
How should I react??
2007-12-29 17:20:23 · 16 answers · asked by KeepXholdingXon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You MUST talk to your parents. I know it seems like a betrayal of your little sis, but honestly -- what she is going to do is DANGEROUS. She could get pregnant, she could get SICK. She is far, far too young. I know it will be hard for you to talk to your parents about this, but they MUST know. Your little sis will understand, in time...
If you love your little sis, you must be strong enough to do this for her.
Good luck.
2007-12-29 17:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by luvrats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How will you feel about your "Friendship" when you're Lacey's baby's Auntie? A baby at 13 - could you imagine throwing a baby shower for your best friend of a sister at 13? Lacey is probably a terrific girl - but YOU need to step up and be the big sister - not the best friend this time. Lacey needs guidance and you can talk to her gently. She is too young to be having sex - hell, she's too young to talk about sex! It's doubtful she has any condoms or is on birth control. Talk to your sister - a little embarrassment with her big sis is a lot better than a lot of embarrassment from toting around a 9 month pregnant belly or getting meds for HIV.
2007-12-30 01:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by *Meg* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are worried about your relationship with your sister, but this is something that as friends (especially as sisters) that you need to confront her about. She may think she is ready for sex, and so may her boyfriend, but they really are not. Yes 13 year olds are maturing and growing up, but the emotional effects from sex might be hard for her to handle. She's just having sex for "practice" too and that clearly means she's not ready because she doesn't understand what comes along with sex. She should wait until she's ready, and with someone really really special. I'm not saying her boyfriend isn't special, but you never know with relationships in middle school. Right now she needs her sister, and you have got to help her. Good luck!
If what you say doesn't work, you should probably tell an adult. I know that seems like betrayal, but she will thank you later on. She needs to hear from someone why she shouldn't be having sex yet.
ps. you were lucky to catch that phone call, and you're being a good sister for being worried :-)
2007-12-30 01:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh! Tell someone or stop her! Do you really want your little sister to do that when she is 13 years old?Trust me on this. She may get mad at you now but it will work out in the future. At least talk to her. Then on Saturday night go over to that little pervs house and scare the crap out of him! Watch his run like a baby. He'll never try do that to Lacey again.
2007-12-30 01:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is too young. Does she even know what kind of protection is required, or that it'll HURT her? This could be a problem if you don't intervene... Besides, a 13 year old boy likely doesn't have the sense to clean up after sex and his mother will probably ask questions upon seeing any messes... Don't get your parents involved if you want to preserve your relationship and keep her out of trouble. If you want to preserve your relationship and get guaranteed results... well you could tell your parents and have them say THEY heard... but that'll assuredly make her future dating life way more difficult. Your call. Either way, don't let her do it at 13.
2007-12-30 01:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by Firefly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG ur sister is sooo young. and as her big sister but better not allow her to go over there saturday..! these are my suggestion....! one day very soon walk into ur sister's room and shut the door and u sit down on her bed and tell her that u and her need to talk. and then u tell her that u heard her and her boyfriend conversations..and everything. tell her that u didn't tell ya'll parents and that ur not going to. just make sure that u talk to her bout sex and everything and tell her that she is not going over james house saturday...! don't be mean or rude bout it. just have a sister to sister talk with her. that way she will still trust you. and she will beable to tell you everything.
2007-12-30 01:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As part of your relationship as sisters, it's your job to keep her safe. If parents were trying to be best friends with their children, this would be a pretty screwed up world. Be the responsible adult, for the health and safety of your daughter. She may be angry at you, but she'll get over it, and you'll feel a lot better even if she's angry at you. And make sure you talk to her about the risks and why you should wait.
2007-12-30 01:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Shookeem 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
13 huh, well there are two roads...you could be responsible and talk to her about it, or your parents, or both. You would be in the right, sex isn't just something you should have to just practice, that absurd, it should be about a true expression of love. Or you could just let it go, and watch the repercussions. Just think of what God would want you to do, look in your heart, you'll find the answer.
2007-12-30 01:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should find an opportunity sometime very soon to explain the whole situation to her, that you were calling your boyfriend when they were on the phone, and the first thing you heard them say was to have sex, and you wanted to watch out for her and tell her that having sex too young can be really bad and she should just be into the hug kiss make out realationship right now. you should explain all of this really nicely and at the end apoligize for eves dropping but say you were just trying to look after her
2007-12-30 01:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh.. that's pretty tough. uhm, what if, you let her do something on that saturday night to keep her busy ? just so that she won't be able to meet with her boyfriend that day? and.. probably, you could talk to her, like casual talk, and then "indirectly" hit that topic. not making it obvious that you've heard their conversation. hmm. at least make her realize that it's not yet the right time to do such thing.. especially at her very young age. good luck! you're a great sister :)
2007-12-30 01:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by banana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your parents to give her a nice speech, about the birds and the bees.
Or frame her for some crime to get her grounded.
Or actually confront her, but not in an obvious way.
Be like "Have you and James done anything?"
and find out a way to talk her out of it. If you really can't, make sure she uses protection!
2007-12-30 01:25:49 · answer #11 · answered by Jordan G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋