So I have been going out with my girl for almost two years, and I know there's a few guys she likes to hang out with. She's a senior in HS and I'm a freshman in college. Lately when I visit I feel like she's pushing me away from cudling while we're watching a movie and other small gestures she used to like. Earlier today I found a picture of her hanging out with her friends. She is laying on top of a guy I don't know (looks like between his legs) him holding her gently and she looks very comfortable. She says it's nothing and she does it all the time? Do you think she's gone over the line. I think she has and I need help on how to approach her with this when she feels like it's no big deal and completely normal and I feel cheated on. She looks more comfortable laying on top of this guy that I personally have been her comfortable with me for a while now. Please help. Guys? Women? I love this girl so please be serious. I want to keep this relationship going.
2007-12-29 17:12:27 · 6 answers · asked by SomeGuy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she really did cross the line there. tell her that you are uncomfortable with the way she acts with her guy friends but won't do that with you. tell ehr in a nice way, try not to get mad. ask her to please stop doing that. on another note, my suspicions about cheating would be raised, especially since she's withdrawn from you. just sit down and talk about boundaries you guys want to set. don't be lenient when she screws up, or she'll walk all over you.
2007-12-29 17:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is like my brother told me once. Between a man and a woman they are either f_cking or they are not. There is no such thing as a platonic relationship between a man and a woman. I mean, a man and a woman can be bussiness partners, friendly towards each other in a particular setting like at the gym or while in class or they can be work coleages. Out side of those particular scenarios it simply doesn't work.
Look at it this way. Suppose a man likes going on a weekend camping/hunting trips once a year. He stays over in the woods for a few days. He however, does not goes alone, he invites his best body along with him. This is perfectly fine and nothing to be suspicious about unless you watched brokeback mountain. Anyways, take the same scenario but, instead of him taking his body along he takes Mary with him. Mary is neither his girlfriend nor wife nor related to him in any way. What would you think? More importantly why do you think that? The answer ofcourse is that between a man and a woman they are either f_cking or they aren't.
So, your soon to be x-girlfreind either doesn't get this concept or she is lying. What you mention about her not being as intimate as before is a really bad sign. Maybe she is in that undecided stage. This is the stage where she doesn't want to let you go just yet because she is not sure if the other guy is the right one or not. Is messed up. You are pretty much there as a backup plan.
Sorry body. If I where you I would confront her or even dump her before she does it to you. You can say, to her, "You know what, I don't feel comfortable with this situation and where this relationship is going so I don't think I can continue with it". Now, wait for her reaction. She may trow a fit, she may agree or she may really think about what you said and take you serious. The reaction here is important and what follows in the next days because it will tell you where her loyalty lies.
2007-12-29 17:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think her behaviour is quite normal for girls of her age. Although, I completely understand how you feel - it's kind of like kids' tantrums - just because it's normal doesn't mean it's acceptable.
If you want to keep this relationship going then you must trust her so, at this point, I would keep my concerns to myself and try other ways to re-ignite her interest in you. I say that because there is nothing worse for a woman who's losing interest to then have to deal with his insecurities or negativity - it's very unattractive in a man IF you're doubting things with him; so your relationship needs to be in a stronger place before you can approach the subject again.
2007-12-29 17:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat. I try to not let it get to me but everytime I see her give another guy a hug or something like that (nothing too serious) I get mad. I dont want to take it out on her so I just live with it. I am going to talk to her about it and let her know my feelings about her actions. If she loves me than she will understand where I am coming from and hopefully stop.
2007-12-29 17:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by js2_26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have close guy friends but not that close. They're like brothers to me but would never put their hand on my thigh.
2007-12-29 17:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is the key.
2007-12-29 17:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by guitarhero1394 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋