I'm so, so, confused...please help?

Question

I let this guy I know I'm interested in him and he too said he has interest for me and finds me attractive. We began communicating via the internet and then he gave me his cell phone. He calls a few times a week and we have great conversation with no awkward pauses, a lot of laughing and witty humor. When I see him where we met we greet each other with a combination of a handshake and a kiss on the cheek and he spends time around me talking, laughing, etc. He works where we met so I understand he also has to be professional in his work environment. He mentioned to me 2x via the net that we should hang out and even though I volunteered some ideas, after about 4 weeks of just talking casually on the phone, communicating via the net, and seeing him where he works; we still have not "hung out." You see, he works 12 hours a day: He also has a weekend job Friday and Saturday evenings. Sunday's he sleeps most of the day because he works too much and doesn't have enough time to himself. So, basically he does not have time to hang out with me. He only gave me the number to his prepaid cell (not his home #). Though, he has called me from his home phone before; I know because it shows up as a private #. Every time he calls me, he calls me from his home phone and I hear him walk around his apartment freely. So, this guy is not making time for me, calls a few times a week, and although he spends time around me where he works I feel he feels obligated to do so. I think he’s just t not that into me and I don’t know if I should send him a message via the net asking him in what way, if any, is he interested in me, and/or if we should just go back to the way it was before we expressed a mutual interest in each other and just stay friends. What do any of you think?

Answer 1

I think your looking at everything a little askewed. For one, you should know by now from his schedule that he's going to be limited on loving you. That aside, you should know the best this man can hope for is a woman who STRAITE marrys him. Or a female who patiently sits around waiting on him and is willing to lay down at a moments notice. In other words, not what your looking for. So tis not that he isn't inteseted in you, its that he isn't interested in you, in the way, you want, or need.